Introducing myself

[Owlz]

Hi, everyone. Very briefly, I'd like to introduce myself.

I'm Owlz, and my motivation for coming here is twofold. First, I have a friend on Lit. hoo's a sub. Her Lit. name is kayte. Second, recently, I used my eyes as my AV. Another Litster PM'ed me, opining that she thinks I have very commanding eyes & asking if I'm a Dom. This has sparked an exploration of myself as it relates to BDSM. My hope is that, through intelligent dialogue here, I might find my place in the BDSM community.

Thank you.

Owlz

 

[s'lara]

Hi, everyone. Very briefly, I'd like to introduce myself.

I'm Owlz, and my motivation for coming here is twofold. First, I have a friend on Lit. hoo's a sub. Her Lit. name is kayte. Second, recently, I used my eyes as my AV. Another Litster PM'ed me, opining that she thinks I have very commanding eyes & asking if I'm a Dom. This has sparked an exploration of myself as it relates to BDSM. My hope is that, through intelligent dialogue here, I might find my place in the BDSM community.

Thank you.

Owlz

Welcome Owlz.

i've known kayte for quite some time (going back to the Lit chatroom days) and it is nice to see new faces in the community.

i wish you much luck on your exploration and i am sure this community will help in any way it can.

lara

 

[Owlz]

Re: Re: Introducing myself

Welcome Owlz.

i've known kayte for quite some time (going back to the Lit chatroom days) and it is nice to see new faces in the community.

i wish you much luck on your exploration and i am sure this community will help in any way it can.

lara

Thank you, s'lara. If I may, I'd like to start off by saying a little bit about myself & BDSM.

As far as 'hoo I am,' I've always felt that, sexually, the woman's pleasure should come first. This would suggest (to me, anyway), that I have sub tendencies, and that I'd enjoy being a bottom. On the other hand, I'm not fond of the whole 'permission' element that goes along with being a sub/bottom. Some of my fantasies involve lightly binding a woman, with scarves, for instance, and pleasuring her according to her needs but also my desires. In this regard, it seems to suggest I have some Dom tendencies. However, as kayte put it, being a switch could be very confusing. Also, I should add that my involvement in BDSM would be only sexual in nature, reserved for the bedroom.

Comments? Questions? Anything else? (I wish there was a BDSM quiz online where, after answering a number of questions (checkboxes & such), it would give an answer suggesting what my answers would indicate vis a vis where I would feel most comfortable in the BDSM community.)

 

[kayte]

Hi, everyone. Very briefly, I'd like to introduce myself.

I'm Owlz, and my motivation for coming here is twofold. First, I have a friend on Lit. hoo's a sub. Her Lit. name is kayte. Second, recently, I used my eyes as my AV. Another Litster PM'ed me, opining that she thinks I have very commanding eyes & asking if I'm a Dom. This has sparked an exploration of myself as it relates to BDSM. My hope is that, through intelligent dialogue here, I might find my place in the BDSM community.

Thank you.

Owlz

{{{Owlz}}}} It is nice to see you posting here.

I am sure you will get feedback from people. I see lara has already greeted you.

She and I have known each other for quite some time. She can be a very big help to you as can many here.

Hope it is a wonderful journey for you. Remember my friend, it isn't a race.

 

[s'lara]

Re: Re: Re: Introducing myself

Thank you, s'lara. If I may, I'd like to start off by saying a little bit about myself & BDSM.

As far as 'hoo I am,' I've always felt that, sexually, the woman's pleasure should come first. This would suggest (to me, anyway), that I have sub tendencies, and that I'd enjoy being a bottom. On the other hand, I'm not fond of the whole 'permission' element that goes along with being a sub/bottom. Some of my fantasies involve lightly binding a woman, with scarves, for instance, and pleasuring her according to her needs but also my desires. In this regard, it seems to suggest I have some Dom tendencies. However, as kayte put it, being a switch could be very confusing. Also, I should add that my involvement in BDSM would be only sexual in nature, reserved for the bedroom.

Comments? Questions? Anything else? (I wish there was a BDSM quiz online where, after answering a number of questions (checkboxes & such), it would give an answer suggesting what my answers would indicate vis a vis where I would feel most comfortable in the BDSM community.)

First let me state that it is not necessary that you "fit" into a role in order to feel satisfied.

On this board, we have quite a few individuals who do not mold themselves into the "traditional" Dom/me, submissive, slave typesets. They have found their own niche and exist fairly well in them without the need to define themselves in rigid ways.

It seems to me that you have some Dominant tendencies with an element of bottoming thrown in. There isn't anything wrong with being a switch and if it feels right to bottom for some period of time and to Top other times ... have at it. The bottom (heh) line is to explore your feelings in this regard and not trap yourself into a title that might turn out to be ill fitting later.

i am a masosub (submissive masochist) and have no top or sado tendencies. That works for me and am content with my leanings. i hope you find a place of contentment in your search ... at the very least, it will be much fun getting there.

lara

 

[Owlz]

Re: Re: Introducing myself

{{{Owlz}}}} It is nice to see you posting here.

I am sure you will get feedback from people. I see lara has already greeted you.

She and I have known each other for quite some time. She can be a very big help to you as can many here.

Hope it is a wonderful journey for you. Remember my friend, it isn't a race.

{{{{{{{{{{{{kayte}}}}}}}}}}}

Thank you, and...understood. Having read my little blurb about myself, what is your opinion of where I might fit in?

 

[kayte]

Re: Re: Re: Introducing myself

Thank you, s'lara. If I may, I'd like to start off by saying a little bit about myself & BDSM.

As far as 'hoo I am,' I've always felt that, sexually, the woman's pleasure should come first. This would suggest (to me, anyway), that I have sub tendencies, and that I'd enjoy being a bottom. On the other hand, I'm not fond of the whole 'permission' element that goes along with being a sub/bottom. Some of my fantasies involve lightly binding a woman, with scarves, for instance, and pleasuring her according to her needs but also my desires. In this regard, it seems to suggest I have some Dom tendencies. However, as kayte put it, being a switch could be very confusing. Also, I should add that my involvement in BDSM would be only sexual in nature, reserved for the bedroom.

Comments? Questions? Anything else? (I wish there was a BDSM quiz online where, after answering a number of questions (checkboxes & such), it would give an answer suggesting what my answers would indicate vis a vis where I would feel most comfortable in the BDSM community.)

Well Owz, I know I sent you a Castlerealm link. Isn't there a link to a Limit List there? That can open up thoughts to things you like, and want and those you don't.

Filling out one of those, for yourself can answer so many of your questions as to what you like and where you are.

It isn't something that is unchanging... I do one a couple of time a year for Snooze Sir. There have been a few changes but that is mostly in more desire for things I have now had experience with.. We do grow in these relationships too.

 

[WriterDom]

Re: Re: Re: Introducing myself

Thank you, s'lara. If I may, I'd like to start off by saying a little bit about myself & BDSM.

As far as 'hoo I am,' I've always felt that, sexually, the woman's pleasure should come first.

While I don't believe her pleasure comes first, I do believe in it should come often and that is one of the pleasures of having control. You can create an atmosphere where each of her orgasms are her "gift" to you. She make get to where masturbation holds no pleasure for her unless it can be shared.

subs enjoy giving very much, so an early blow job both excites her, and relieves your sexual tension so you can concentrate more on developing the scene.

If you don't like being told what to do, and when to do it, you probably won't be happy as a switch.

 

[Owlz]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Introducing myself

First let me state that it is not necessary that you "fit" into a role in order to feel satisfied.

On this board, we have quite a few individuals who do not mold themselves into the "traditional" Dom/me, submissive, slave typesets. They have found their own niche and exist fairly well in them without the need to define themselves in rigid ways.

It seems to me that you have some Dominant tendencies with an element of bottoming thrown in. There isn't anything wrong with being a switch and if it feels right to bottom for some period of time and to Top other times ... have at it. The bottom (heh) line is to explore your feelings in this regard and not trap yourself into a title that might turn out to be ill fitting later.

i am a masosub (submissive masochist) and have no top or sado tendencies. That works for me and am content with my leanings. i hope you find a place of contentment in your search ... at the very least, it will be much fun getting there.

lara

Thank you...lara, or s'lara? Of course, having a willing female alongside to to 'explore' would be essential, don't you think?

 

[Owlz]

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While I don't believe her pleasure comes first, I do believe in it should come often and that is one of the pleasures of having control. You can create an atmosphere where each of her orgasms are her "gift" to you. She make get to where masturbation holds no pleasure for her unless it can be shared.

subs enjoy giving very much, so an early blow job both excites her, and relieves your sexual tension so you can concentrate more on developing the scene.

If you don't like being told what to do, and when to do it, you probably won't be happy as a switch.

Thnk you for your feedback, WriterDom. I appreciate it.

 

[s'lara]

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Thank you...lara, or s'lara? Of course, having a willing female alongside to to 'explore' would be essential, don't you think?

You can call me lara. The "s'lara" is a internet nic only.

i agree, it is kind of essential to explore with a partner.

lara

 

[catalina_francisco]

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Thank you...lara, or s'lara? Of course, having a willing female alongside to to 'explore' would be essential, don't you think?

Welcome to the board.....While it is wonderful if you have a partner to explore with, at this 'finding yourself' stage, perhaps it is not as necessary as reading as much as you can, going through the checklists and seeing how you feel about the items listed, finding out what turns on those erotic feelings when you read about something..perhaps some of the stories on Lit in the BDSM section can help with that. Once you have begun to get a feel for who you are, then begin to search for one who may complement that and continue your journey. Similarly, going to some munches and communicting with people there might help you find your feet, as well as find someone who is willing to mentor you, and also someone with whom you can explore your likes and dislikes.

Francisco & Catalina

 

[bunny bondage]

heh, i'm getting here a little late, but hiya anyway! glad as always to have another new member in our little family! please ask questions, check out the library, and we'll do anything we can to help you!

 

[Owlz]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Introducing myself

Welcome to the board.....While it is wonderful if you have a partner to explore with, at this 'finding yourself' stage, perhaps it is not as necessary as reading as much as you can, going through the checklists and seeing how you feel about the items listed, finding out what turns on those erotic feelings when you read about something..perhaps some of the stories on Lit in the BDSM section can help with that. Once you have begun to get a feel for who you are, then begin to search for one who may complement that and continue your journey. Similarly, going to some munches and communicting with people there might help you find your feet, as well as find someone who is willing to mentor you, and also someone with whom you can explore your likes and dislikes.

Francisco & Catalina

Thank you. This helps.

 

[Owlz]

heh, i'm getting here a little late, but hiya anyway! glad as always to have another new member in our little family! please ask questions, check out the library, and we'll do anything we can to help you!

Thank you, bunny.

 

[Solitude]

Welcome Owlz. Nice to have you here. I'm sure you'll find all sorts of great advise from all of these wonderful and brilliant people. And as others have said, take your time, explore and learn, and ultimately you'll find your own path in all of this. Enjoy the ride.

 

[Owlz]

Welcome Owlz. Nice to have you here. I'm sure you'll find all sorts of great advise from all of these wonderful and brilliant people. And as others have said, take your time, explore and learn, and ultimately you'll find your own path in all of this. Enjoy the ride.

Thank you, Solitude.

 

[cellis]

Welcome Owlz...

I hope we can help you as you explore your needs in a safe place.

 

[Wizard]

I'm late to this thread bit welcome Owlz, Please enjoy and post away. I home you feel at home here and any friend of kayte is a friend of mine.
Glad to see you here.

 

[Owlz]

Thank you all, now & in the future.

Thank you both, Celia & Wizard. I appreciate both of you for making me feel like I belong.

(In the interest of brevity, I'm getting lazy with my 'thank you for welcoming me's.' Please understand that, if I do not specifically thank any one of you, it's not out of ingratitude. I appreciate everyone who responds to (or even just reads) my posts.)

Owlz

 

[Owlz]

Well, I read a few BDSM stories last night.

At the suggestion of others here, I took my first steps in exploring and discovering what I like in terms of BDSM practices. While there are elements in each story I don't care for, there are others that I found appealing to the point of being worthy of further exploration. To give you all a sense of hoo I am (or hoo I may be at some time down the road) the following are the three stories I read. The third was my favorite among these.

http://www.literotica.com:81/stories/showstory.php?id=3331

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=3347

http://www.literotica.com:81/stories/showstory.php?id=3354

The common thread in all of the above is the man being the Dom. Tonight, I hope to find stories in which the woman is the Domme, for purposes of comparison and how elements of the six stories might mesh to give me a clearer picture of what types of scenarios I like.

Please feel free to comment on the three I've read & offer your opinions and insights into what these three stories suggest to you about me. While I won't do this for every story I read, I will be asking for the same type of feedback after reading the next three.

Thank you.

Owlz

P. S. What might my current AV suggest about me within BDSM?

 

[Desdemona]

Hi Owlz. Welcome to the BDSM forums. I'm Kayte's evil subsister. I'm sure you'll find lots to stimulate your mind and help you along your journey here.

PS, hope to meet you in Sept. in Asheville.

 

[kayte]

Hi Owlz. Welcome to the BDSM forums. I'm Kayte's evil subsister. I'm sure you'll find lots to stimulate your mind and help you along your journey here.

PS, hope to meet you in Sept. in Asheville.

LOL!!! Sis, you evil? Never.

Have you been learning too much from Him? Is it rubbing off? Oh dear!!!!

Am I going to be in big trouble?

 

[Owlz]

Hi Owlz. Welcome to the BDSM forums. I'm Kayte's evil subsister. I'm sure you'll find lots to stimulate your mind and help you along your journey here.

PS, hope to meet you in Sept. in Asheville.

It's a pleasure to meet you, Desdemona. If kayte likes you, I like you.

If someone can pull of a miracle, I might just be there.

 

[Owlz]

LOL!!! Sis, you evil? Never.

Have you been learning too much from Him? Is it rubbing off? Oh dear!!!!

Am I going to be in big trouble?

Would you like to be in 'big trouble,' kayte?