Introducing myself--dom male in Ark.

[catslover]

I recently joined Lit. and am, in a sense--really, no pun intended--learning the ropes of the site. I am interested in meeting people eventually, but for now just want to find folks to talk honestly and openly and NONCONFLICTUALLY with about sex and bondage and discipline and all those lovely things. My lover has had a serious medical crisis and is reexamining her life, including our relationship. Sigh. She is a sub and helped me "come out" to myself about my feelings and desires. We've known each other a long time--a complicated story--I miss her. We're in daily contact but not talking about sex. Please don't rag her--it was a VERY serious medical crisis. Ladies, you would understand.

So, I would like to chat about things BDSM. Do your desires ebb and wane? Does vanilla sex get less interesting over time? When do you tell a partner that you won't do something s/he wants you to do TO THEM because you think their judgment has been clouded by lust and passion? And how do you tell your partner--if it's an established, continuing relationship--"not tonight, dear, I just want to have vanilla sex"? And what do you do if you have a colleague or coworker whose being somehow calls to you to be dominated?

Mm. I think a lot. Here's a quotation: "Something there is that doesn't love a wall". I don't like wallls, and have many of my own. Talk back, folks.

 

[CutieMouse]

*Quietly suggests these questions, and your thoughts, would probably be more appreciated in BDSM Talk and BDSM Chat boards, as they seem to be good fodder for several interesting discussions...*

 

[createashemale]

I agree with the mouse

*Quietly suggests these questions, and your thoughts, would probably be more appreciated in BDSM Talk and BDSM Chat boards, as they seem to be good fodder for several interesting discussions...*

The BDSM Talk and BDSM Chat boards are the best place for the discussion that you are seeking. True practitioners within the lifestyle are always willing to give practical, friendly, and useful advice to those in need.

 

[ima6uldv8]

Welcome to Lit. Wow, do we have a lot in common. My Master had something serious happen last October. We are no longer in contact but that was his decision, not mine PM me if you ever want to talk, in detail. We might be able to help each other some.