Introduce porn into the relationship

[silversword]

So this isn't advice for broaching the subject were past that step and she's happy to watch some porn with me. However, the question is now what to watch with her that ensures that it isn't a one off event.

So when we spoke about it I was cautious of the sort of things that she would be happy to watch. When I said there was some weird stuff out there she immediately went bestiality, violence etc. as opposed to just crap porn. She suggested that I watch them first to make sure they wouldn't put her off too much.

I have so many questions and worries that I thought it best to seek some collective wisdom, if you were introducing a woman porn to someone for the first time, where would you pitch it?

Things I would kind of like to be in it, a bit of a story, perhaps a little on the funny side. Defiantly featuring some dialogue, decent quality, nothing too out there, I'm thinking just couples stuff to start with.

Any thoughts, suggestions welcome.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

There are female erotica directors and porn made for women. Candida Royalle was one of the first and you could still find some of her stuff around. Google search advised.

 

[kissedcherry]

You need to know what turns her on

There are increasing numbers of woman that love so called porn. In the past it was hard for us to find a safe place to buy magazines and books that had the things we liked but with the internet we have been able to enjoy porn at home.

But we are not all alike. So you need to know what her inner desires are. I assume that you want her watching porn to trigger her and make the sex that follows more intense.

So, you are wise to not get too hard core. She also needs to know that you prize her sexual openness and don't make her feel like you think she is a slut because she likes sex.

For me the hottest porn is MFM and Gangbangs. I think MOST women have had a gangbang fantasy. But again. we are all different.

My brother-in-law used MFM porn to get my sister to try it in real life. They had already watched a few things but nothing with MFM or very hard core. He started getting her to read hotwife stories on Literotica. I remember because she told me about it step my step and I read the same stories that she told me about.

Then on to video and eventually she was ready to try it.

I hope you can help her get past the sick social taboos that block women from enjoying sex.

 

[silversword]

There are female erotica directors and porn made for women. Candida Royalle was one of the first and you could still find some of her stuff around. Google search advised.

Thanks, I'll try and check it out.

 

[silversword]

But we are not all alike. So you need to know what her inner desires are. I assume that you want her watching porn to trigger her and make the sex that follows more intense.

So, you are wise to not get too hard core. She also needs to know that you prize her sexual openness and don't make her feel like you think she is a slut because she likes sex.

Yes it is about making out sex more intense and perhaps exploring our boundaries a little. However, this is not a plan to get her into something else, unless she takes it there.

I think the problem is at the moment she doesn't know what she likes, from a porn point of view, as she's never really experienced it. As far as we've gone down this route before was in the early days she would ask me to go through a porn magazine with her and show her pictures that I particularly liked. I think streamed porn will be an eye opening experience for her!

 

[Bramblethorn]

There are female erotica directors and porn made for women. Candida Royalle was one of the first and you could still find some of her stuff around. Google search advised.

In this vein, XConfessions is pretty female-friendly.

 

[ElectricBlue]

In this vein, XConfessions is pretty female-friendly.

As is https://www.bellesa.co/videos

 

[davion2308]

With the others

There are a lot of resources that focus on a female's perspective, depending on what kind of porn she may be interested in. You can also try tv shows or programs that feature sex as part of the story. My wife will look at me after specific episodes of the tv show "Outlander" and say, "Okay, let's bang," because they have great sex on tv.

You are a better judge of what your lady wants compared to us. Experiment, low to high, and see what she likes or doesn't like. Find a way to incorporate it so it's not the main event but just something to warm you too up.

 

[EbonyKat]

Like said above, each woman is different. I do rather like kissedcheery's mention about reading some of the Literotica stories on here and see what she says. There are many flavors, or maybe "intensities" is a better word, of a particular subject you like. You can test the waters without the shock factor you don't want.

After recently getting back into the dating scene myself, I have a similar experience with my fetish about racial role-playing. It was a shock for a lot of men about going along with it even if I started it and said something dirty or showed them a prop or two. It was a mood killer to be sure even if I told them it was just for the bedroom. Oh well. I could see myself showing him a story I like and ask him what he thought about us doing it, too. Perhaps, like an ice breaker of sorts.

Katy

 

[Bigspurt]

Maybe Some of These?

https://www.pornhub.com/video/search?search=porn+for+women

 

[silversword]

Well not a bad start

So for one reason and another it's taken a few days to get round to this but we gave it a go last night.

I wasn't sure what to expect and so it's difficult to say whether it was a success or not.

I think perhaps I was a little too cautious with my first suggestion but it go us talking and looking for a couple of different clips. It worked better when we just put something on to run and then got down to each other.

My wife really got off on the audio side of it, for me it was more visual, watching a blow job scene whilst getting a blow job.

So not bad for a first try, hopefully it will be repeated. Thanks for tips certainly helped gauge where to pitch this first attempt.