Intimate touching ?

[Anwar80]

I'm going out with a girl, she is virgin. We were talking about taking it to the next level but she is a bit nervous about it. She want to touch me but she never done it before.

What we done so far, is kissing, touching her boobs over the blouse, and she touched my crotch & rubbed my penis but over my pants.
she is interested in seeing & touching my penis but she is just not sure how to do it & she is nervous

what should i try to make it easier for her ?

 

[old_scratch]

I'm going out with a girl, she is virgin. We were talking about taking it to the next level but she is a bit nervous about it. She want to touch me but she never done it before.

What we done so far, is kissing, touching her boobs over the blouse, and she touched my crotch & rubbed my penis but over my pants.
she is interested in seeing & touching my penis but she is just not sure how to do it & she is nervous

what should i try to make it easier for her ?

If you live in Egypt, you might want to rethink what you are planning, it’s Islamic, and what you are planning is illegal outside of marriage. If you get caught, they will just spank you hand, but it will ruin her life.

 

[SweetErika]

If you live in Egypt, you might want to rethink what you are planning, it’s Islamic, and what you are planning is illegal outside of marriage. If you get caught, they will just spank you hand, but it will ruin her life.

From his posts, I'm guessing they're both Egyptian and are well aware of their own sociocultural norms, laws, etc.

Just because a country is primarily Muslim doesn't mean dating, fooling around and even sex before marriage don't exist or will ruin lives. Here is a very interesting article on what's happening in Egyptian culture, if you'd like to learn more.

Anyway, Anwar, I don't think you need to do anything, apart from perhaps telling her that she should only take the next step if she's completely comfortable, just about anything will feel great, and you'll be happy to tell her what feels good to you if she decides to touch you. If your girlfriend is truly interested in touching your penis, she will likely touch it on her own and do just fine pleasing you.

I'm guessing her saying she doesn't know how and her extreme nervousness are code for "I'm not ready yet." So give her some gentle reassurance and then just wait to see if she feels ready on her own. If she does touch you, you can give her lots of positive feedback about the things she's doing well and suggestions on what you enjoy at the time.

 

[CWatson]

You should also take some time to check out the other erogenous zones. They exist, they're fun to play with, and most of them can be accessed while a person is completely clothed. Hair/scalp, ears, throat and hands are the only ones I can remember off the top of my head. Playing with those can be a good way to ease her into the idea of physical intimacy while leaving sexual intimacy for later.

 

[Elaya]

Two things come to mind.. first of all.. I'm going on the basis that there is shyness involved. Of looking silly.. of doing the wrong thing.. of not knowing what you are doing.. I know that shyness stopped me dead a number of times!

A partial "cure" I think is to add anonymity.
So...
First ask her what she thinks of the scenario, and if she's comfortable with the idea... proceed. Also outline that this is purely for her.. she goes only as far as she wants to, and if needed takes a break. She might overwhelm herself after 20 minutes, but then be interested in more after a break.

Make your room nearly pitch black. Or you blindfold yourself so that she is absolutely sure you can't see her, and perhaps turn the lights off but light a candle or two. Lock the door btw.

You strip and lie down naked on the bed, face up, perhaps with your hands behind your head. Drape a towel over your thighs and crotch.

She keeps her clothes on if she wishes, and, unobserved, she is free to roam and feel as she wishes. Once she's felt your chest, legs, arms, if she's comfortable she could remove the towel and explore there, or perhaps she's more comfortable with first reaching under the towel and exploring with just her hands, and then peeking/removing it (here I"m thinking of the deeply ingrained "Im not suppose to do this /this is bad" BS.. and how to overcome it if this is part of the problem). Perhaps also give her a light source, or have a candle going.

Don't forget to give gentle encouraging vocal feedback.. moans.. sharp intakes of breath.. I know I don't speak for all... but as an at-first shy woman.. I need it to know I'm doing things right and not making a fool of myself.

Whatever point you get to at the end, give her a clothed, friendly hug, and say thank you, that was lovely/you enjoyed it very much and was special.

At least.. that's my 2cents worth of perspective...

Also.. if your culture is such that it would ruin her for life.. then please walk away. I beg you.

 

[Anwar80]

Anyway, Anwar, I don't think you need to do anything, apart from perhaps telling her that she should only take the next step if she's completely comfortable, just about anything will feel great, and you'll be happy to tell her what feels good to you if she decides to touch you. If your girlfriend is truly interested in touching your penis, she will likely touch it on her own and do just fine pleasing you.

I'm guessing her saying she doesn't know how and her extreme nervousness are code for "I'm not ready yet." So give her some gentle reassurance and then just wait to see if she feels ready on her own. If she does touch you, you can give her lots of positive feedback about the things she's doing well and suggestions on what you enjoy at the time.

She told me that she wants to see my penis & to touch it. But because it is a first time for her, she wants first to just see it without touching it !!

I don't want to rush things, I want to find a way to make her feel comfortable and to enjoy it too.

Remember, because of the place where we live, we don't get lot of time when we are together. And it is getting hard for us to find places where we can meet in private.

 

[old_scratch]

I just had a look at Anwar’s posting history. I see he has an unhealthy appetite for incest.

 

[Anwar80]

I just had a look at Anwar’s posting history. I see he has an unhealthy appetite for incest.

Why it is "unhealthy " ? I believe that consensual incest between adults should be fine.

And if you look at Literotica stories, you will find that incest stories are the most popular on this site with over 22798 stories.

Compare that to other categories like Loving Wives (17194) , Group Sex (13490)
Humor & Satire (1790)

 

[superstition]

I just had a look at Anwar’s posting history. I see he has an unhealthy appetite for incest.

Brother-sister incest is one of my hottest fantasies and I'm in a healthy, non-incestuous long-term relationship. This site is pretty kinky, not really the place for judging fantasies, especially really common ones. Anwar seems like a decent guy who just wants his girl to be comfortable and have a good time.