Intimacy

[ultramarineblue]

What constitutes intimacy to you? Is kissing more intimate or fucking or something else? Why do you think one or the other is more intimate?

 

[Jackba57]

Hmmmm....first kiss, real kiss, is very intimate. Next up is that first time you actual get to softly and slowly feel each other up. You know that first exploration of what you’ve been dreaming about, fixating on. The the first sex absolutely. But to me, the number one intimacy is when I tasted her. When she lets me get right down there in her business and see, taste and smell her.

That’s intimate.

 

[SissySalina]

Closeness. Two people sharing each other.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Intimacy doesn’t have anything to do with physical.

 

[twister947]

Intimacy doesn’t have anything to do with physical.

Exactly.

 

[twister947]

I have to agree here.
You could have full on sex but without emotion, it would be as distant as passing someone in the grocery store. (Bad analogy but still...)

Or you can lay in bed and just hold hands with the right person and it be the most intimate soul baring experience.

Or a mother holding her child; that defines intimacy.

 

[ultramarineblue]

I can see where some physical acts can be considered intimate. However, I think there is something more. I don't necessarily think sex or kissing is particularly intimate in and of themselves. I think a sharing of minds can be a lot more intimate. Deep, honest conversation where you share your innermost thoughts is very intimate to me.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I can see where some physical acts can be considered intimate. However, I think there is something more. I don't necessarily think sex or kissing is particularly intimate in and of themselves. I think a sharing of minds can be a lot more intimate. Deep, honest conversation where you share your innermost thoughts is very intimate to me.

Kissing is more intimate than a lot of things, though.
All of it really does depend on my connection with him.

 

[Knoturnal]

Kissing is more intimate than a lot of things, though.
All of it really does depend on my connection with him.

true. I believe I feel the same way

Intimate means being close.

and being intimate with someone can mean sexuality

 

[ultramarineblue]

Kissing is more intimate than a lot of things, though.
All of it really does depend on my connection with him.

In my limited experience, less touchy feely people are often not willing to kiss a play partner but will have sex with them. I've had a couple of play partners that enjoy sex as a part of play but did not kiss. I still feel a deep connection to them though. The conversations we've shared have been some of the most intimate conversations. They may not consider the conversations intimate at all though.

A shared look can be extremely intimate. I think it definitely involves the relationship between both people be it romantic or even just friendship.

I've had play partners that were friends but not romantic that kissed while others didn't. For lack of a better description, they were all casual play partners, I guess. I don't find either including or not to be better. I think it ultimately boils down to what we get out of play. For me, the biggest part is serving the person I play with and pleasing them.

 

[AlwaysFara]

In my limited experience, less touchy feely people are often not willing to kiss a play partner but will have sex with them. I've had a couple of play partners that enjoy sex as a part of play but did not kiss. I still feel a deep connection to them though. The conversations we've shared have been some of the most intimate conversations. They may not consider the conversations intimate at all though.

A shared look can be extremely intimate. I think it definitely involves the relationship between both people be it romantic or even just friendship.

I've had play partners that were friends but not romantic that kissed while others didn't. For lack of a better description, they were all casual play partners, I guess. I don't find either including or not to be better. I think it ultimately boils down to what we get out of play. For me, the biggest part is serving the person I play with and pleasing them.

I don’t know... for true intimacy to occur doesn’t it have to be felt by both?
I can please someone. I may be into it. But if there’s not a connection, no intimacy.
When you’re serving them, what do they give you back? Share with you?

 

[yukonnights]

I don’t know... for true intimacy to occur doesn’t it have to be felt by both?
I can please someone. I may be into it. But if there’s not a connection, no intimacy.
When you’re serving them, what do they give you back? Share with you?

I agree with this idea that true intimacy is a shared experience. More specifically, I'm thinking of those times when you truly feel as "one soul" with the other person and know they are feeling the same. It need not be sexual intimacy, but often is. It's quite magical and very uplifting...it affects you in a deep way. In my experience it is also very rare.