Interrogation Scenes

[KillerMuffin]

I pricked up my ears when I moseyed through willfulbrat's thread about what she won. Congratulations, darlin. Sounds like you're getting something you really want.

So now the nosey questions.

1) What, exactly, is an interrogation scene? i.e. What's the purpose of it. In general.

2) How are these things normally carried out?

3) Emotionally speaking, what is the effect on the interrogatee? The interrogator?

4) What is the goal of the scene?

5) Anything you can think of that you'd like to add?

 

[cymbidia]

I've never participated in a heavy interrogation scene, Muff, so my info is just kinda what i've heard and seen and picked up along the way, okay? This kinda play just isn't what i'm wired for needing.

Anyway, in the BDSM world there's a kind of edge play that's known as consensual non-consent. It usually includes stuff like heavy interrogation scenes, kidnap/rape/assault scenarios, harsh forced service, and severe humiliation scenes. It's anything, actually, that the sub/bottom would never ever agree to under normal circumstances. The very controlled circumstances under which s/he has agreed to it are not "normal".

What makes the whole area of consensual non-consent so fascinating and alluring (to some of us) is that, basically, the sub has negotiated away her/his right to a stop word. In other words, the sub has given the Dominant overt permission to exceed thier limits or to play completely without limits. In this kind of play, "no" does not mean "no", "red" does not mean "stop" - nothing means "no" and nothing means "stop".

Between trusting partners, the vast majority of what they do together doesn't ever hurt either of them past a place they *want* to be "hurt". When playing consensual nonconsent games, the oppotunity for real damage is dramatically increased. That's why most of us don't go usually go there unless it's with someone we trust with our lives, literally.

I know this doesn't answer all (any?) of your questions, Muff, but i thought i'd give you some basics on this kinda play while we wait for more people to chime in.

 

[pierced_boy]

What type of activity would be played

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[James Blandings]

There are I think , two kinds of interrogation scenes, roleplay and real.
In a roleplay scene, it's really just a dramatic way to act out "torture" or bondage fantasies, it can be intense, yes, but if the interrogation isnt about something that really matters, it is really just roleplaying.
"Real" interrogation would usually involve the dominant forcing the submissive to confront some aspect of themselves, about their sexuality, past relationships, etc. Like cym said, this can be emotionally dangerous. But it can also be very liberating and fulfilling to open up so completely.

 

[petrel]

There are I think , two kinds of interrogation scenes, roleplay and real.
In a roleplay scene, it's really just a dramatic way to act out "torture" or bondage fantasies, it can be intense, yes, but if the interrogation isnt about something that really matters, it is really just roleplaying.
"Real" interrogation would usually involve the dominant forcing the submissive to confront some aspect of themselves, about their sexuality, past relationships, etc. Like cym said, this can be emotionally dangerous. But it can also be very liberating and fulfilling to open up so completely.

I can't imagine ever letting anyone but a trained therapit take me through painful and 'real' confrontation of scary things. Its just too dangerous. There are lots of ways you can open up to your partner about painful episodes in your past but you shoudl never be forced into this.

Now roleplay interogation like any other type of roleplay cna be a lot of fun, just don't try and 'force' your play partner into confronting any skeletons unless you are prepared to deal with the consequences to your relationship.

 

[cymbidia]

In some ways, petrel, i think heavy players who specialize in these kinds of scenes might be better qualified than many therapists to help someone through some painful stuff. There are Tops who do this kinda play very often and who have quite a lot of experience in *just this*. Most therapists deal with a very wide array of problems, you know?

It's analogous, maybe, of seeing a specialist for your medical problem instead of a general practioner. In any case, one doesn't want to see a quack for the problem - and how does one know who is a quack and who is not?

I simply a have gut feeling that some of these Tops with a lot of experience in this stuff would be as effective as many - most? - of the highly degreed professionals out there in this one area for people like us. After all, most of us have had the experience of almost-shattering truths, deeply repressed stuff, that comes bubbling into our conscious during play, haven't we? These kinds of scenes are guided by might-as-well-be-professional Tops, people who are understanding of us as BDSM'ers in a way that nilla therapists cannot be, no matter the open mindedness they claim.

I might, however, be completely wrong about this for you and only partially right for me. I haven't really thought it out and am just thinking as i type the words.

Bottom line: in almost every case, any kinda non-consensual force is wrong - physical, emotional, or psychological. We all know that.

 

[James Blandings]

Both petrel and cym make valis points. I think there are issues that can be appropriate in BDSM interrogation, and some that should be dealt with by professional therapists.
What I was talking about was the sort of thing that a person may long to reveal, but has never had the courage to do so, such as a taboo sexual fantasy. I would not advise anyone to use an interrogation scene to deal with deep rooted issues such as child abuse, rape, etc.
That sort of interrogation is edge play, and ought to be handled with all the caution of edge play.

 

[petrel]

I know many tops do have considerably more skills than therapists - been there done that and personally I think most therapist/ counsellors etc are in it for the money - after all they don't get paid once you get better!!!

But hey thats just my own opinion, really my concern about any top now matter how sensitive / expereionced etc trying this type of edge play is that when you 'uncover' old skeletons - especially if you have been pushed to confront them - you often get a really mixed bag of emotions attahced to the expereince. ANd beleive me it won't lways include gratitude to the perosn who helped you get there.
Peopel often feel abused - even if the overall result is good, they feel stripped bare in an uncomfortable way. Now I know that most experienced players may be used to this but nasty stuff from your past isn't like confessing that you really want to be whipped heavily, rape; abuse; witnessing a crime etc etc that type of thing leaves baaaaad repercussions.

I guess I was trying to put out a warning for players who find themselves in this situation. Poeple often need someone to blame, someone to hate when they have stripped their soul bare, and it is usually the person who was around at the time. Thats why I would still go to a therapist (although I dislike their methods) because I don't want to associate someone I care about with something as painful as confronting ghosts of the past.
Now I'm sorry for inflicting my rantings on what was a very genuine query by KillerBrat - apologies and I hope that you pick up the asnwers to your questions either from here or elsewhere on the board

 

[Richard49]

Just wanted to say thank you all for sharing.

I have never meet a therphist that I would share the BDSM D/s part of my life.

I have meet some "former" submissives that have and were told that they were being abused etc. They left the lifestyle and have shared they feel incomplete now but that the lifestyle is "sick and abusive".

Ggggggggggeeeeeeeee

Here I was feeling great from reading here and have sent my own blood presure up...........

 

[willfulbrat]

I pricked up my ears when I moseyed through willfulbrat's thread about what she won. Congratulations, darlin. Sounds like you're getting something you really want.

Thanks, KillerMuffin. I'm really excited about it! Looks like your questions have already been answered by our good members. *s*

Here's a link to the Domme who does the interrogation scenes. Doesn't she look mean? Mmmmm!

 

[willfulbrat]

Okay, i was so excited, i forgot to post the link. LOL

http://www.sc-lock.com/seeb2002/sasha.htm

 

[CarolineOh]

Re: Re: Interrogation Scenes

Thanks, KillerMuffin. I'm really excited about it! Looks like your questions have already been answered by our good members. *s*

Here's a link to the Domme who does the interrogation scenes. Doesn't she look mean? Mmmmm!

She's kind of scary, especially when I read that she likes "gun play" Is that like Richie and Janice on The Sopranos??
When is your scene, tomorrow?

 

[willfulbrat]

CarolineOh, I haven't set a date yet. Last weekend was a big weekend for the community and we have a private party tomorrow night. Hopefully it will be next weekend.

I love, love, love gunplay! The fear just increases the delicious feelings. She's good, and i'm sure it will be safe.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Gunplay?!?!?! With real guns?!?!!

I'm sorry, but as a gun enthusiast the words gun and play in the same sentence is utterly terrifying.

I don't care what kind of sex or play anyone is into, real guns should never be a part of it. It's not safe, ever. It violates the one rule of responsible gun ownership, "Always treat the gun as if it is loaded."

Guns are not toys. Guns are not part of a costume. Guns are not part of a scene. Just ask Brandon Lee. A gun has one purpose and that is to deliver a piece or pieces of shrapnel with deadly force.

 

[willfulbrat]

I agree, KM. I'm assuming that they are not real, but I shall be sure of that before we play. *hugs*

 

[KillerMuffin]

Thank Gawd. Now I can breathe. Whew. There's nothing worse than someone getting seriously hurt when they shouldn't.

They do have some incredibly realistic guns that aren't real. If not and you have to have guns involved, insist that she remove the firing pins.

 

[willfulbrat]

LOL. Thank you for the advice, KM. I grew up in Idaho and have a great love and respect for guns. But I didn't know about removing the firing pins. Thank you.

Just the same, guns are not toys and I'll insist on no real guns for the scene.

 

[HotXBunz]

In my cat and mouse days I sometimes liked to be cohersed into sex. It was part of the nice girls don't just say yes and the thrill of someone being that persistant. I am well over those hang ups but I had an experience with a gun that left me wilted.

I was with a bartender I worked with and she was VERY aggressive. We were doing a necky, petty thing with lots of struggling and protestation and I left the room to go the the bathroom. While I was sitting in there she came in and very forcefully took my pants off of me. Okay, I knew that eventilaay the pants were coming off but I did not expect her to barge in and just rip them off. To say I was hot at this point would be an understatement but I had to continue the game and I came out of the bathroom to find her naked on the couch. I grabbed her jeans and started to put them on and she told me to be careful of the gun in the pocket. I about shit. I am scared shitless of firearms because I do not know how to handle them. I froze and she came over and ever so slowly took her jeans off of me. I was sweating and trembling and almost on the verge of tears. It was some of the hottest sex I have ever encountered. The force combined with the blinding fear was a hot combo.

Let me put your hearts at ease. It was not "rape" per se. It looked like rape, but I knew I could stop any of it at any time. We had been together before and I trusted her. We had discussed my desire to be "taken". Afterwards I had to know if there was really a gun in her pocket and sure enough there was a .22 there.
I'm easy, I didn't even reach down to see if there was anything in her pocket.

I agree any gun play is DANGEROUS but I just had to share this. I had not thought of this in years.

 

[Quint]

:ants for air::

That was really hot...

I totally understand your desire to be "taken," even if it's something in the past for you. That was something we played with in the past year, and I too have moved on, except for extremely rare occasions. Strangely enough, fairly recently I had a dream where hunny, who is actually Jewish, was role-playing as a Nazi commander. I was the innocent villagegirl who he'd set his mind on abducting and abusing. What was neat about my dream was that I had lots of friends of mine also role-playing as bit characters; the supporting cast, if you will, who acted terrified and ashamed when hunny swaggered onto the scene, and tried, without success, to warn me of his evil side.

This raised an interesting question which some of you may know: are there communities of group role-playing? I'd hate to get stuck as the permanent "extra," but damn that would be cool. You'd be able to satisfy your original fetish as well as exhibitionism simultaneously. We should start one, if there isn't one. o)

Anyway, back to the story. As sex dreams usually are, it got me all bothered, and when I woke up I had a strange desire to have hunny pretend to be a Nazi and interrogate me and do wicked things to me. Terribly bizarre, but at least I can admit it here without fear of condemnation. o)

 

[TeenSub]

Hmmm

I don't suppose any of y'all are Law & Order fans? I don't know how many times I've jilled off to the fantasy of two detectives getting seriously out of hand whilst interrogating me, police being a natural authority figure, it fits in nicely with the domination/submission play (also, you get to play with handcuffs!)
TeenSub

 

[Richard49]

Re: Hmmm

I don't suppose any of y'all are Law & Order fans? I don't know how many times I've jilled off to the fantasy of two detectives getting seriously out of hand whilst interrogating me, police being a natural authority figure, it fits in nicely with the domination/submission play (also, you get to play with handcuffs!)
TeenSub

Welcome to lit TeenSub.

I would beat it would be fun to watch the show with you

 

[TeenSub]

You have no idea!

lol,
Especially Law & Order, Criminal Intent, Vincent D'Onofro as Det. Bobby Goren ;d What a dreamboat!
TeenSub
PS. Great in The Cell also!

 

[Richard49]

Re: You have no idea!

lol,
Especially Law & Order, Criminal Intent, Vincent D'Onofro as Det. Bobby Goren ;d What a dreamboat!
TeenSub
PS. Great in The Cell also!

You would like to be in the cell/cage?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Interesting topic

Catalina

 

[Karen Kraft]

I've never participated in a heavy interrogation scene, Muff, so my info is just kinda what i've heard and seen and picked up along the way, okay? This kinda play just isn't what i'm wired for needing.

Anyway, in the BDSM world there's a kind of edge play that's known as consensual non-consent. It usually includes stuff like heavy interrogation scenes, kidnap/rape/assault scenarios, harsh forced service, and severe humiliation scenes. It's anything, actually, that the sub/bottom would never ever agree to under normal circumstances. The very controlled circumstances under which s/he has agreed to it are not "normal".

What makes the whole area of consensual non-consent so fascinating and alluring (to some of us) is that, basically, the sub has negotiated away her/his right to a stop word. In other words, the sub has given the Dominant overt permission to exceed thier limits or to play completely without limits. In this kind of play, "no" does not mean "no", "red" does not mean "stop" - nothing means "no" and nothing means "stop".

Between trusting partners, the vast majority of what they do together doesn't ever hurt either of them past a place they *want* to be "hurt". When playing consensual nonconsent games, the oppotunity for real damage is dramatically increased. That's why most of us don't go usually go there unless it's with someone we trust with our lives, literally.

I know this doesn't answer all (any?) of your questions, Muff, but i thought i'd give you some basics on this kinda play while we wait for more people to chime in.

Ummmm, I'm certainly no expert in all this, but it just seems to me that play without safe words can turn unpleasant unintentionally.