Interracial age gap, as a younger brown woman

[FilthyBongWater]

I'm in my early-mid 20s and am in a loving relationship with the older white man of my dreams. I'm bi but white dick holds a special place in my heart (and orifices).
My boyfriend is very youthful and playful, my favourite things about him. I never really think about the 15 year age gap - that is, until I occasionally wish he grew his hair out so I could pull on it while he eats me out! His shaved head is what initially drew me in anyway.

I've always struggled getting the attention of white boys my age, despite having spent lots of time with them. Many of the ones who gave me any of their attention did not treat me right (but I greatly attribute that to my lack of experience and strict/horrible upbringing causing me to be desperate for a good few years).

These factors have led me to ponder and dwell on a few things.

• Is it generally the case that people try dating other skin colours/races after some experience of dating their own? I.e. they'd date people of their own race in their twenties, then potentially branch out later on?
• I find myself constantly wondering if my boyfriend would have been attracted to me when he was in his early-mid twenties. Looking at his old photos, I saw he was a massive heart-throb, and I've fallen in love with his younger self too... it almost feels like cheating! LOL. He told me he used to watch interracial porn back in the day (he doesn't watch porn anymore), but what you watch and what you go for in real life can be two different things. All of his old photos are with very pretty, very blonde women.
• There is no shortage of older men who wouldn't go after a younger woman like me, and while I do love my boyfriend dearly, part of me wishes I could grab the attention of guys my age for once too.

I know that there is a fixation on white guys here, but I accept that I have an interracial fetish, which my boyfriend is happy with. I suppose I'm trying to use dating generalisations to map out what to expect when it comes to attracting men my own age.

What are everyone's experiences here?

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I'm in my early-mid 20s and am in a loving relationship with the older white man of my dreams. I'm bi but white dick holds a special place in my heart (and orifices).
My boyfriend is very youthful and playful, my favourite things about him. I never really think about the 15 year age gap - that is, until I occasionally wish he grew his hair out so I could pull on it while he eats me out! His shaved head is what initially drew me in anyway.

I've always struggled getting the attention of white boys my age, despite having spent lots of time with them. Many of the ones who gave me any of their attention did not treat me right (but I greatly attribute that to my lack of experience and strict/horrible upbringing causing me to be desperate for a good few years).

These factors have led me to ponder and dwell on a few things.

• Is it generally the case that people try dating other skin colours/races after some experience of dating their own? I.e. they'd date people of their own race in their twenties, then potentially branch out later on?
• I find myself constantly wondering if my boyfriend would have been attracted to me when he was in his early-mid twenties. Looking at his old photos, I saw he was a massive heart-throb, and I've fallen in love with his younger self too... it almost feels like cheating! LOL. He told me he used to watch interracial porn back in the day (he doesn't watch porn anymore), but what you watch and what you go for in real life can be two different things. All of his old photos are with very pretty, very blonde women.
• There is no shortage of older men who wouldn't go after a younger woman like me, and while I do love my boyfriend dearly, part of me wishes I could grab the attention of guys my age for once too.

I know that there is a fixation on white guys here, but I accept that I have an interracial fetish, which my boyfriend is happy with. I suppose I'm trying to use dating generalisations to map out what to expect when it comes to attracting men my own age.

What are everyone's experiences here?

I just want to be your boyfriend!

 

[t1m1d1]

No clever advice I’m afraid, just relax and enjoy it, don’t over-analyse, follow your gut, heart and desires.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

I'm in my early-mid 20s and am in a loving relationship with the older white man of my dreams. I'm bi but white dick holds a special place in my heart (and orifices).
My boyfriend is very youthful and playful, my favourite things about him. I never really think about the 15 year age gap - that is, until I occasionally wish he grew his hair out so I could pull on it while he eats me out! His shaved head is what initially drew me in anyway.

I've always struggled getting the attention of white boys my age, despite having spent lots of time with them. Many of the ones who gave me any of their attention did not treat me right (but I greatly attribute that to my lack of experience and strict/horrible upbringing causing me to be desperate for a good few years).

These factors have led me to ponder and dwell on a few things.

• Is it generally the case that people try dating other skin colours/races after some experience of dating their own? I.e. they'd date people of their own race in their twenties, then potentially branch out later on?
• I find myself constantly wondering if my boyfriend would have been attracted to me when he was in his early-mid twenties. Looking at his old photos, I saw he was a massive heart-throb, and I've fallen in love with his younger self too... it almost feels like cheating! LOL. He told me he used to watch interracial porn back in the day (he doesn't watch porn anymore), but what you watch and what you go for in real life can be two different things. All of his old photos are with very pretty, very blonde women.
• There is no shortage of older men who wouldn't go after a younger woman like me, and while I do love my boyfriend dearly, part of me wishes I could grab the attention of guys my age for once too.

I know that there is a fixation on white guys here, but I accept that I have an interracial fetish, which my boyfriend is happy with. I suppose I'm trying to use dating generalisations to map out what to expect when it comes to attracting men my own age.

What are everyone's experiences here?

I think a major factor in who people date, especially early in life, is who they interact with in their daily lives. Maybe my experience is outdated, since people live so much of their lives on line, but I would think that, for example, an African-American girl living in a predominantly white community or attending a mostlyh white school would be more likely to date white boys early in life. Opportunity and getting to know people has so much to do with it.

No clever advice I’m afraid, just relax and enjoy it, don’t over-analyse, follow your gut, heart and desires.

This is really good advice. If you're getting good sex and have a good relationship, then roll with it.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

What are everyone's experiences here?

You asked for experiences here, so that is what I am going to give you without any attempt to analyze the events.
I am a Latin male. In high school I dated mostly white and some Mexican girls. (My high school was about 75% white, 20% black, and 5% Mexican). In my senior year I found myself in a situation where a slightly older black women was showing some interest in me, but at the time I was mesmerized by a black girl my age. It was my first time ever having feelings for a black woman or vice versa. Unfortunately, nothing came of either situation.
A few years later, when I was about 21, I had my first sexual encounter with a black woman. That opened a huge door for me. For the next several years I dated white women, Mexican women, and black women. I was pretty much open to women of any race, but I pursued mostly black women.
In the decades since then, I have been with white women, black women (Americana and Jamaican), and a wide variety of Latin women, including Mexican, Puerto Rican, Cuban, Colombian, Venezuelan, Dominican, and others.

 

[Cob083]

Well, I can tell you I'm a white and have always been strongly attracted to women with darker features (Brown skin, darker hair and eyes). I like how our skin colors contrast. It is really a turn on to me

Like it was mentioned here before people tend to date/marry/sleep with those who are around them most often.
I was previously married to a white woman as well. We met in college in a predominately white area and most of the student make up was largely white. After my marriage I started to find myself having more relations with non-white women. I have been together with an Indian woman, a Colombian woman and numerous Mexican women. I live in an area that is around 45% Hispanic so naturally I'm going to get with with them.

 

[OneEyedSteve]

I'm in my early-mid 20s and am in a loving relationship with the older white man of my dreams. I'm bi but white dick holds a special place in my heart (and orifices).
My boyfriend is very youthful and playful, my favourite things about him. I never really think about the 15 year age gap - that is, until I occasionally wish he grew his hair out so I could pull on it while he eats me out! His shaved head is what initially drew me in anyway.

I've always struggled getting the attention of white boys my age, despite having spent lots of time with them. Many of the ones who gave me any of their attention did not treat me right (but I greatly attribute that to my lack of experience and strict/horrible upbringing causing me to be desperate for a good few years).

These factors have led me to ponder and dwell on a few things.

• Is it generally the case that people try dating other skin colours/races after some experience of dating their own? I.e. they'd date people of their own race in their twenties, then potentially branch out later on?
• I find myself constantly wondering if my boyfriend would have been attracted to me when he was in his early-mid twenties. Looking at his old photos, I saw he was a massive heart-throb, and I've fallen in love with his younger self too... it almost feels like cheating! LOL. He told me he used to watch interracial porn back in the day (he doesn't watch porn anymore), but what you watch and what you go for in real life can be two different things. All of his old photos are with very pretty, very blonde women.
• There is no shortage of older men who wouldn't go after a younger woman like me, and while I do love my boyfriend dearly, part of me wishes I could grab the attention of guys my age for once too.

I know that there is a fixation on white guys here, but I accept that I have an interracial fetish, which my boyfriend is happy with. I suppose I'm trying to use dating generalisations to map out what to expect when it comes to attracting men my own age.

What are everyone's experiences here?

The first gf I had that I did anything other than kissing with was Jamaican, I'm white of Irish parents born in England. I never really thought about it. I grew up in a very multi cultural town, which was unusual for Britain in the 70s and 80s.

 

[PantyGentleman]

I met my wife, black caribbean, when she was 22, I was 33. She worked at skimpy dressed popular restaurant. I walked in waited to be seated as it was a busy lunch crowd. I'm scoping out all the girls and saw her going from table to table. I told my friend that was with me, thats the one I want. She was the only black girl. Coincidentally or looking back, fate that she was my server. I flirted a little bit, my (ex)friend started hitting on her and asked for her number (asshole), and she said give me calls number. She texted me when we left and not him and we chatted back and forth for a few weeks, meeting occasionally at the restaurant and then haven't left each others side for 14 years now. Own our own very successful business and are always together, never argue or fight. Have a crazy great sex life, at least everyday, rare for being together so long. But still crave each other daily. Nothing is off the table as long as we talk about it first. We brought out the freak in each other.
I really wasn't her type. I was a competitive bodybuilder and she was 110 lbs. She said her first thought when she saw me at the door waiting to be seated was dam he would kill me if he was on top of me. I guess I had some kinda charm
So when you have each others best interest in mind, you dont have any issues. What I lack, she makes up for it and vice versa. We never think of the age gap. Actually we just assume we are same age. I was always attracted to dark skin girls but growing up in a small southern city, interracial dating was very much frowned upon. So I had to hold it in my whole life. Ridiculous looking back but that was the way it was. I'm very thankful I found my dark skinned princess. Life couldn't be better.

 

[Rockymtnman]

I'm in my early-mid 20s and am in a loving relationship with the older white man of my dreams. I'm bi but white dick holds a special place in my heart (and orifices).
My boyfriend is very youthful and playful, my favourite things about him. I never really think about the 15 year age gap - that is, until I occasionally wish he grew his hair out so I could pull on it while he eats me out! His shaved head is what initially drew me in anyway.

I've always struggled getting the attention of white boys my age, despite having spent lots of time with them. Many of the ones who gave me any of their attention did not treat me right (but I greatly attribute that to my lack of experience and strict/horrible upbringing causing me to be desperate for a good few years).

These factors have led me to ponder and dwell on a few things.

• Is it generally the case that people try dating other skin colours/races after some experience of dating their own? I.e. they'd date people of their own race in their twenties, then potentially branch out later on?
• I find myself constantly wondering if my boyfriend would have been attracted to me when he was in his early-mid twenties. Looking at his old photos, I saw he was a massive heart-throb, and I've fallen in love with his younger self too... it almost feels like cheating! LOL. He told me he used to watch interracial porn back in the day (he doesn't watch porn anymore), but what you watch and what you go for in real life can be two different things. All of his old photos are with very pretty, very blonde women.
• There is no shortage of older men who wouldn't go after a younger woman like me, and while I do love my boyfriend dearly, part of me wishes I could grab the attention of guys my age for once too.

I know that there is a fixation on white guys here, but I accept that I have an interracial fetish, which my boyfriend is happy with. I suppose I'm trying to use dating generalisations to map out what to expect when it comes to attracting men my own age.

What are everyone's experiences here?

Men are stupid. I should know as I have been one for a long time. If you like a guy your age, ask him out. We don’t do subtle very well. I am sure there are plenty of guys your age that find you attractive but probably don’t act on it for a myriad of reasons.

 

[lily_wall_]

What are everyone's experiences here?

I've only one interracial relationship.

My first ever relationship was during my college. He was an older black man. He was the first man to take me on a real date. He was more than twice my age, very handsom, very hot, and very married. I've had black guys before him but they were all closer to my age, like 2-3 years older, and they were just party sex or hookups or favors.

At that time I didn't have interracial fetish. More than his skin color, I was attracted to his deep voice, his big chest, his salt and pepper beard. I'm a big on kissing and couldn't stay away from his lips. But after our first night in bed, all I thought about were his muscular thighs. They weren't too muscular tho. Even now thinking about it I want to bite them. The running joke between us was every time we said goodbye, I would kiss him on his lips, then his cock bulge on his pants, and then his thighs. He found it hilarious

My interracial fetish really started when I started traveling to east coast and went to clubs there

 

[cadman7777]

my only interracial experience was in my late teens or so and it was great because of the woman.......by the way....filthybongwater.......love the name

 

[liqueur]

What are everyone's experiences here?

As far as the interracial part is concerned, I've only dated one black woman. I was 18. It was in Cleveland in 1969, right after major race riots had been sweeping the country. When we started to get close, she broke it off. She said “my parents would kill me if they knew I was dating a white boy.”

It's a very different world today.

I think black women are exceptionally beautiful, and I've been attracted to a fair share of them. But it was always a situation where one or the other of us was already attached to someone. (There've been a few black men in my life too but that's a different story.) all that said, I don't have any kind of racial fetish. It's always the person that attracts me first, not their color.

As for the age difference, my last relationship was with a woman 14 years younger than me, and I also had a relationship with a woman the same age prior to her (with a woman 5 years older than me in between!) At the time, I sort of considered the age difference a fluke, not the basis for attraction.

But the older I get, the more i find myself attracted to women younger. I'm not here to make generalizations about people, but in my experience, people (women especially) my own age are less open to kink, to people of divergent sexuality or gender, and so forth than women a generation younger. And the ones that are more open-minded are more likely to be attached. I know in large part this is due to the rural areas where I've spent most of my life.

I don't know if any of this has answered any of your questions. But as far as finding someone closer to your own age is concerned, I say “stop looking.” When you aren't looking for them, relationships tend to seek you out.

 

[lily_wall_]

I was mentioned this to a few friends and one of them said... White older man and black younger woman, then he's rich and she's an escort. Black older man and white younger woman, then he's big and she's a slut. And the rest agreed that its true not every time but most of the time.

What y'all think?

 

[FilthyBongWater]

I was mentioned this to a few friends and one of them said... White older man and black younger woman, then he's rich and she's an escort. Black older man and white younger woman, then he's big and she's a slut. And the rest agreed that its true not every time but most of the time.

What y'all think?

Haha, whenever I'm out somewhere with my bloke, whether on a holiday or at a restaurant/cafe, we definitely get long stares which suggest they think he's paying for my company. I noticed those looks only started when I began to dress nicer, do my hair, and wear a bit of makeup. If I'm in my usual jumper and jeans with my hair down then people give us looks which are nowhere near as judgmental.

 

[FilthyBongWater]

my only interracial experience was in my late teens or so and it was great because of the woman.......by the way....filthybongwater.......love the name

I remember someone getting offended by my name in the chat room a few years ago. Made me laugh, I didn't think people would be overly sensitive there

 

[smtst5]

Haha, whenever I'm out somewhere with my bloke, whether on a holiday or at a restaurant/cafe, we definitely get long stares which suggest they think he's paying for my company. I noticed those looks only started when I began to dress nicer, do my hair, and wear a bit of makeup. If I'm in my usual jumper and jeans with my hair down then people give us looks which are nowhere near as judgmental.

I’ll offer up my opinion as an older white male, I would probably be thinking that your guy is lucky to show you off.

 

[cadman7777]

I remember someone getting offended by my name in the chat room a few years ago. Made me laugh, I didn't think people would be overly sensitive there

Why would that offend someone?....Also in response to your post....typically boys your own age are still immature so sometimes they can be intimidated by maturity.My guess your current bf probably would have fallen for you when he was younger...connection is connection.....In any event enjoy your relationship for what it is as it sounds like you guys got a good thing going

 

[liqueur]

...White older man and black younger woman, then he's rich and she's an escort. Black older man and white younger woman, then he's big and she's a slut....

What y'all think?

I think I hate generalizations even more than usual.

 

[FilthyBongWater]

I've been so incredibly obsessed with the thought of being filled with BWC. I want my bf to titfuck me with his BWC so bad. All day I've just been imagining him pounding my tight brown pussy, or thinking about his strong white fingers fingering me and making me wet

 

[Mike130]

I'm in my early-mid 20s and am in a loving relationship with the older white man of my dreams. I'm bi but white dick holds a special place in my heart (and orifices).
My boyfriend is very youthful and playful, my favourite things about him. I never really think about the 15 year age gap - that is, until I occasionally wish he grew his hair out so I could pull on it while he eats me out! His shaved head is what initially drew me in anyway.

I've always struggled getting the attention of white boys my age, despite having spent lots of time with them. Many of the ones who gave me any of their attention did not treat me right (but I greatly attribute that to my lack of experience and strict/horrible upbringing causing me to be desperate for a good few years).

These factors have led me to ponder and dwell on a few things.

• Is it generally the case that people try dating other skin colours/races after some experience of dating their own? I.e. they'd date people of their own race in their twenties, then potentially branch out later on?
• I find myself constantly wondering if my boyfriend would have been attracted to me when he was in his early-mid twenties. Looking at his old photos, I saw he was a massive heart-throb, and I've fallen in love with his younger self too... it almost feels like cheating! LOL. He told me he used to watch interracial porn back in the day (he doesn't watch porn anymore), but what you watch and what you go for in real life can be two different things. All of his old photos are with very pretty, very blonde women.
• There is no shortage of older men who wouldn't go after a younger woman like me, and while I do love my boyfriend dearly, part of me wishes I could grab the attention of guys my age for once too.

I know that there is a fixation on white guys here, but I accept that I have an interracial fetish, which my boyfriend is happy with. I suppose I'm trying to use dating generalisations to map out what to expect when it comes to attracting men my own age.

What are everyone's experiences here?

I’m a MWM, married to a very pale white woman. There are beautiful woman of every race. I’ve dated black and Asian, would have liked to try Hispanic and Indian too but never had the opportunity. The people I hung out with in my teens and twenties were predominantly white, so I didn’t have the occasion to meet many black or Asian people, but it wasn’t for lack of desire. My high school had only 6 black kids in it and no Asians. College was slightly more diverse.

I’m of Italian descent so skin color is not a big deal, I get pretty dark in the summer myself, it was more of a lack of opportunity that I dated mostly white girls. That said, I think there’s something exotic and sensual about people of different cultures and colors. Beauty and desire transcends color.

 

[lokiboy]

I'm in my early-mid 20s and am in a loving relationship with the older white man of my dreams. I'm bi but white dick holds a special place in my heart (and orifices).
My boyfriend is very youthful and playful, my favourite things about him. I never really think about the 15 year age gap - that is, until I occasionally wish he grew his hair out so I could pull on it while he eats me out! His shaved head is what initially drew me in anyway.

I've always struggled getting the attention of white boys my age, despite having spent lots of time with them. Many of the ones who gave me any of their attention did not treat me right (but I greatly attribute that to my lack of experience and strict/horrible upbringing causing me to be desperate for a good few years).

These factors have led me to ponder and dwell on a few things.

• Is it generally the case that people try dating other skin colours/races after some experience of dating their own? I.e. they'd date people of their own race in their twenties, then potentially branch out later on?
• I find myself constantly wondering if my boyfriend would have been attracted to me when he was in his early-mid twenties. Looking at his old photos, I saw he was a massive heart-throb, and I've fallen in love with his younger self too... it almost feels like cheating! LOL. He told me he used to watch interracial porn back in the day (he doesn't watch porn anymore), but what you watch and what you go for in real life can be two different things. All of his old photos are with very pretty, very blonde women.
• There is no shortage of older men who wouldn't go after a younger woman like me, and while I do love my boyfriend dearly, part of me wishes I could grab the attention of guys my age for once too.

I know that there is a fixation on white guys here, but I accept that I have an interracial fetish, which my boyfriend is happy with. I suppose I'm trying to use dating generalisations to map out what to expect when it comes to attracting men my own age.

What are everyone's experiences here?

I don't think most people date within 'their own' and then branch out as a conscious strategy. I think it probably has more to do with the fact that because of our parents and community, we're usually around our own most often. So I think it has more to do with exposure and probability. As you're developing attraction to the other sex as you grow up, you're learning what you like by looking at other people. If the people you're looking at most of the time share certain features, you're probably going to associate some of those features with attractiveness. I grew up in a very white town and I have to admit, if you showed me a line-up of 100 different women from each race, the probability is high that I'd rate a larger number of the white women as attractive. I can't give you a scientific explanation for that, e.g. what features are attractive, vs others. But if I could, it'd be a thought and not a feeling, so that kinda makes sense. I have seen/met some absolutely beautiful women from all kinds of backgrounds, so it's not skin tone preference. When I was in the military, I very happily could have married and brought home a girl I met while I was in Korea. We just didn't have long enough together before I got shipped back to the states for us to make that kind of commitment.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

I'm in my early-mid 20s and am in a loving relationship with the older white man of my dreams. I'm bi but white dick holds a special place in my heart (and orifices).
My boyfriend is very youthful and playful, my favourite things about him. I never really think about the 15 year age gap - that is, until I occasionally wish he grew his hair out so I could pull on it while he eats me out! His shaved head is what initially drew me in anyway.

I've always struggled getting the attention of white boys my age, despite having spent lots of time with them. Many of the ones who gave me any of their attention did not treat me right (but I greatly attribute that to my lack of experience and strict/horrible upbringing causing me to be desperate for a good few years).

These factors have led me to ponder and dwell on a few things.

• Is it generally the case that people try dating other skin colours/races after some experience of dating their own? I.e. they'd date people of their own race in their twenties, then potentially branch out later on?
• I find myself constantly wondering if my boyfriend would have been attracted to me when he was in his early-mid twenties. Looking at his old photos, I saw he was a massive heart-throb, and I've fallen in love with his younger self too... it almost feels like cheating! LOL. He told me he used to watch interracial porn back in the day (he doesn't watch porn anymore), but what you watch and what you go for in real life can be two different things. All of his old photos are with very pretty, very blonde women.
• There is no shortage of older men who wouldn't go after a younger woman like me, and while I do love my boyfriend dearly, part of me wishes I could grab the attention of guys my age for once too.

I know that there is a fixation on white guys here, but I accept that I have an interracial fetish, which my boyfriend is happy with. I suppose I'm trying to use dating generalisations to map out what to expect when it comes to attracting men my own age.

What are everyone's experiences here?

I don't believe he would of been any less attracted to you in his younger years. Being that you would of been about the same ages. And I think it's a type of person your attracted to brown/white/etc is all good but it's more important how that person treats you. It's great that you didn't fall into the same strict/horrible rut from when you were younger.
I had a relationship with a black girl when I was in my teens. Unfortunately we both knew it would not have worked out during that time and where we lived. I do think being older now and living a different type of life ie neighborhood, job, maturity. I would of given it an opportunity to see if it would grow. Perhaps that's where the age "maturity" kicks in.
Good Luck. Don't think to much about some things and enjoy yourself.