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abiamarie said:
Hmmm, I've always used cyber sex as a means of meeting a possible RL lover. So never make promises that you can't keep. It is not good policy to lie any ways.
Once you have attracted a partner it is a excellent means of exploring her fantasies and desires. Nothing like keeping that sexually excitement in the air. That wild animal inside of her on edge. After all sensual pleasure is all in the mind. The body is just a series of sensors to transmit the stimulation to the brain.
Abiamarie, I am sure there has been a lover in your life that has had you soaking wet by caressing your mind with his or her words. Mmmm, those written words that your can read over and over. Getting you wettter and wetter. Then when you do meet again the passion and pleasure is incredible.....
Mmmm, have a incredible day little one....
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All right, I'll admit to enjoying reading little messages from my SO about what he felt like doing to me... and it did get me wet... and meeting him again ended up being amazing...
But still, some people just meet someone all of the sudden online and begin having cyber sex with that total stranger. That's how most cyber sex chats start and it's weird that some people would feel comfortable with writing about their fantasies to someone who might not even be who he/she says he/she is.
Jaded1 said:Hmmm, I've always used cyber sex as a means of meeting a possible RL lover. So never make promises that you can't keep. It is not good policy to lie any ways.
Once you have attracted a partner it is a excellent means of exploring her fantasies and desires. Nothing like keeping that sexually excitement in the air. That wild animal inside of her on edge. After all sensual pleasure is all in the mind. The body is just a series of sensors to transmit the stimulation to the brain.
Abiamarie, I am sure there has been a lover in your life that has had you soaking wet by caressing your mind with his or her words. Mmmm, those written words that your can read over and over. Getting you wettter and wetter. Then when you do meet again the passion and pleasure is incredible.....
Mmmm, have a incredible day little one....
Jaded1, CT
All right, I'll admit to enjoying reading little messages from my SO about what he felt like doing to me... and it did get me wet... and meeting him again ended up being amazing...
But still, some people just meet someone all of the sudden online and begin having cyber sex with that total stranger. That's how most cyber sex chats start and it's weird that some people would feel comfortable with writing about their fantasies to someone who might not even be who he/she says he/she is.
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abiamarie said:
It is very safe sex. It can be tremendous fun.
I was a cyber virgin until a few months ago and I didn't understand until I did it. I started by asking for advice here on lit.
I have only had a few cyber lovers but the experience has been great. I did it because I was curious, I wasn't planning on meeting anyone, initially I was only interested in cybering with a particular guy which never actually happened but I am glad everything has worked out the way it has.
My friends who have never cybered don't understand at all, they think is it something it isn't. I love it, I like my cybers guys a lot, might even meet at least one of them in IRL someday, who knows? I am sure I am very lucky, the men I cyber with are good guys. I don't understand one-time cybers but I am not into one-night stands either.
I found that cyber sex, at least for me is not so vastly different from real life in that you are still dealing with real people who have really feelings and barriers. Just being on the other end of the internet does not alter that. There are still highs and lows, like in everything and make up sex is still cool.
I like phone sex as I am a phone person but for many people it is easier to type what they are doing than to say it. You can add voice and cam to cyber sex too. People have particular writing styles, alternatives to moans and whispers. A big draw back for me is that when I am really getting into it , it becomes extremely hard to type in a coherant fashion but that doesn't stop me.
I don't know if I made it any clearer for you.
Noor
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Re: Re: Re: internet sex
Hmmm, I feel that it may have to do with their desire to remain anonymous. Yet there is a hidden inner person that is reaching out to be touched. The real person that may have had these emotions suppressed for years. Finally finding a means to express their need to be touched and caressed. It is in fact is a form of seduction. It may be a island in a storm or a start on a path to happiness. Many have lived a life of sexual frustration. Abiamarie, we both know you would not be here at Lit if you didn't believe in the power of words....
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abiamarie said:
Hmmm, I feel that it may have to do with their desire to remain anonymous. Yet there is a hidden inner person that is reaching out to be touched. The real person that may have had these emotions suppressed for years. Finally finding a means to express their need to be touched and caressed. It is in fact is a form of seduction. It may be a island in a storm or a start on a path to happiness. Many have lived a life of sexual frustration. Abiamarie, we both know you would not be here at Lit if you didn't believe in the power of words....
Jaded1, CT
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Re: Re: Re: internet sex
I should have added to my post that I have never had cyber sex like you describe. Nothing is sudden and I do not hang out in chat rooms.
I have spent a lot of time on line with my cybers way before any sex, getting to know them, I spend non-sexually, time with them still. These men are not totally strangers to me. I know who they are to varying degrees, where they are, what they do for a living, their lives to some extent, I could probably even find them IRL if I wished to but I wouldn't unless we both agreed to it.
Sharing really deep held fantasies requires trust, you have to build that on line as anywhere else. I seem to scare away trolls pretty easily, too intense and weird I am told I take that as a compliment.
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abiamarie said:
I should have added to my post that I have never had cyber sex like you describe. Nothing is sudden and I do not hang out in chat rooms.
I have spent a lot of time on line with my cybers way before any sex, getting to know them, I spend non-sexually, time with them still. These men are not totally strangers to me. I know who they are to varying degrees, where they are, what they do for a living, their lives to some extent, I could probably even find them IRL if I wished to but I wouldn't unless we both agreed to it.
Sharing really deep held fantasies requires trust, you have to build that on line as anywhere else. I seem to scare away trolls pretty easily, too intense and weird I am told
I take that as a compliment.Noor
I did the cyber thing for quite a few months, and initially it was exciting and something new. Now? Forget it. It means nothing to me. I need to feel my lover. I need to touch him. I need to look into his eyes, and feel the warmth within me as he smiles at me. I need to be able to express my joy at being with him in my eyes, in my smile, in my moans, in the way I move my body.
Words are great. I love 'em! And I will admit that, when in the mood, I will get a guy off online. But it leaves me utterly and completely cold.
I firmly believe in getting to know a guy online before meeting him, yes. But for me it is all in the realness of touching, feeling, hearing, and seeing. I do understand what some folks get out of cybering. I have just determined it is not for me.
Words are great. I love 'em! And I will admit that, when in the mood, I will get a guy off online. But it leaves me utterly and completely cold.
I firmly believe in getting to know a guy online before meeting him, yes. But for me it is all in the realness of touching, feeling, hearing, and seeing. I do understand what some folks get out of cybering. I have just determined it is not for me.
I think it's the sense of anonymity. You can really be whoever you feel like. That kind of covers it. Plus it's easier to act out fantasies. Because you're not face to face there's no chance of being embarrassed, you know? It's easier to say what's on your mind through a chat window I guess.
I agree with what Richard said earlier -
"I enjoyed it for a very short time
Why?
I have no idea
but
now even phone is not all that great"
The phone can still do it for me, but only with one person, who I've actually spent a weekend with.... and typing between us isn't nearly as satisfying anymore!
Sighhh.
"I enjoyed it for a very short time
Why?
I have no idea
but
now even phone is not all that great"
The phone can still do it for me, but only with one person, who I've actually spent a weekend with.... and typing between us isn't nearly as satisfying anymore!
Sighhh.
I agree completely with what Noor has said,and,in part ,with what Chele has stated.I've met some interesting persons and i've spoken to them for a while,so it's been something more interesting and less cold than "HI,get your rocks off and bye bye".That doesn't interest me at all.To me,It's like writing your own sexy tale,being the writer and the main character at the same time.The mind in action.Sharing something special with the person i'm doing it with,more than just mutual masturbation.
For what i've understood from experience and talkin with others,it doesn't seems that i don't play normal cybersex(those
quick get your rocks off type of sex),especially with the girl i'm doing with now
.I can understand what Chele says ,even if i can't get it the fact that she pleases him and not viceversa. From what i've heard many men are just interested in gettin off and then leave.I'm not like this,at all.Hence, it's different to me.Also i've spent many pleasurable hours just talking about everything,sharing opions,experiences et cetera.That for me was very interesting,more than just just sex.Maybe i'm wrong.It's not like real life,but interesting nonenthless.At least to me the way i'm doing it myself.My opinion,anyway.
"one man's meat is another man's poison",a.k.a. to each his own
isshogai7
For what i've understood from experience and talkin with others,it doesn't seems that i don't play normal cybersex(those
quick get your rocks off type of sex),especially with the girl i'm doing with now
.I can understand what Chele says ,even if i can't get it the fact that she pleases him and not viceversa. From what i've heard many men are just interested in gettin off and then leave.I'm not like this,at all.Hence, it's different to me.Also i've spent many pleasurable hours just talking about everything,sharing opions,experiences et cetera.That for me was very interesting,more than just just sex.Maybe i'm wrong.It's not like real life,but interesting nonenthless.At least to me the way i'm doing it myself.My opinion,anyway."one man's meat is another man's poison",a.k.a. to each his own
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Re: Re: laughing
Those are my feelings exactly. I can't stand "cybersex", where you type out things in IM...it's pointless and usually unimaginative. I've also gotten to the point where phone sex is not exciting either because it's full of cliche and people try to put on a show...and it's usually not very erotic. On the other hand, I love talking to people online about their desires, fantasies, kinks, fetishes, etc and enjoying myself to that...I wouldn't consider that cybersex, I would consider that akin to getting off to pictures. I just happen to enjoy chat and stories much more than pictures.
Emerald_eyed said:
Those are my feelings exactly. I can't stand "cybersex", where you type out things in IM...it's pointless and usually unimaginative. I've also gotten to the point where phone sex is not exciting either because it's full of cliche and people try to put on a show...and it's usually not very erotic. On the other hand, I love talking to people online about their desires, fantasies, kinks, fetishes, etc and enjoying myself to that...I wouldn't consider that cybersex, I would consider that akin to getting off to pictures. I just happen to enjoy chat and stories much more than pictures.
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well now I am a novice, but real time chat, messengers, talkers, ICQ, and IRC can hardly be considered saying something to someone in a pm box, neither is it beating off to porn. I always hear anti-cyber people say " oh baby oh baby fuck me hard" but not I have yet to hear that while cybering.
I am sorry that cyber sex doesn't work for you, it does for me. I don't get off on pictures, I prefer human interaction real life, phone, cyber- people are still people and the most important sex organ for me it the brain and its imagination.
Noor
Emerald_eyed said:
well now I am a novice, but real time chat, messengers, talkers, ICQ, and IRC can hardly be considered saying something to someone in a pm box, neither is it beating off to porn. I always hear anti-cyber people say " oh baby oh baby fuck me hard" but not I have yet to hear that while cybering.
I am sorry that cyber sex doesn't work for you, it does for me. I don't get off on pictures, I prefer human interaction real life, phone, cyber- people are still people and the most important sex organ for me it the brain and its imagination.
Noor
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Emerald_eyed said:
Remember it wasn't too long ago when Sex with oral, anal in front of it was not considered sex but criminal deviant behavior.
It is one thing to say that you don't like, understand or respond to cyber but it is another thing all together to tell people that what they are doing is not sex
According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary
3 a : sexually motivated phenomena or behavior-
http://www.m-w.com/cgi-bin/dictionary
American Heritage
4. The sexual urge or instinct as it manifests itself in behavior.
FOLDOC (Free on-Line Dictionary of Computing)
cybersex
Sex performed in real time via a digital medium.
http://wombat.doc.ic.ac.uk/foldoc/
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