internet dating revisited

[luvpats4unme]

After reading some of these posts I just have to relate an experience that one of the women I have met told me happened to her. . .

She lived in OH and the man lived in MN. Things were hot and heavy before they met. . .great phone sex, love letters, talking all the time, etc. etc.,. . .well anyway she told me she "fell in love" with him and he repeatedly told her how much he "cared" for her. . .unfortunately she didn't ask him one important question. . .well they decided to meet and not just meet but. . .move in together!!!! She gave up everything to be with him (he would not move because of his "job"). . .so when they got together man the sparks were flying. . .the sex was unbelievable everything was going well he actually got her a nice apartment but she could not understand why he worked such "long hours" and sometimes would not come home (he said his job required "alot of travel" when he had originally all this time for phone sex and they talked every day. . .so one day she decided to follow him and. . .well you guessed it!! he was seeing someone else. . .in fact not one other person but two!!

she was devastated and almost committed suicide. . .she also gained more than 75 pounds because of the depression. . .this may be an extreme horror story however she did admit she realized she got caught up in the "fantasy". . .it does have a happy ending as she just got married in September and says she is very happy. . .

 

[Mr_Eightball]

Yikes!

You know, it's always a double-edged sword. On one hand, there is the promise of taking a chance and possibly changing your life for the better. And then...there are stories like this. Sort of like someone blugeoned romance with a computer.

Well, glad to hear that it at least turned out well in the end. Did she end up marrying the same guy or someone different?


Mr_Eightball

 

[archon32]

the computer as a tool means the person needs to be aware:

...the technology that brings people together represents the extension of those people ---

your tale of 'internet dating' has nothing to do with the internet but has all to do with the two individuals involved in the supercharge sparks of their relationship and the 'horrors' that consumed the relationship when she realised that she had in fact -- had not done her homework thoroughly and truly:

..too often people use their computers to reach out and seek 'the one' or 'the adventure' or the place to whine and bitch and complain and announce and share and procrastinate and entertain and search and run and prolong and neglect and steal time and borrow time and fend off time and use time and enter away from time and enter into time and.....

people use their computers with the anticipation un-believable high while their awareness and deeper sense runs dangerously low to empty to the point where the 'warning just up ahead..' becomes missed: muted: and mangled until the obvious becomes inevitable.....

your tale proves one lesson and one lesson truly ---

use the knowledge well or suffer the fate that befalls those blind and deaf to what stands in plain sight:

'internet dating' then becomes a sleight misnomer as the real heading perhaps should be 'learning to see where at first you did not bother to see...'