Interested in writing about BDSM

[Lolita30]

Hi guys! I've been a member of Literotica for a long time but I haven't been on the boards for years! I am interesting in learning how to write BDSM stories. I say this because from my personal experience, I have done that and it's like, I want to be able to put it into words in a form of a story (sans using the parties true identity of course). I had an idea but then I lost steam.

Thanks, any help would be greatly appreciated!

Also, I would like to know if there are any remedies on writer's block?

Thanks again!

 

[sweetnpetite]

My advice would be to hang out a little at the BDSM boards to soak up some of the atmousphere and variety. Then I'd read a buch of BDSM stories. Read the top lists, read the Editor picks and read some at random. Read some bad ones too to see what you want to avoid doing. (also gives you courage, lol)

Remember to focus on the BDSM element that you are writing about. If it's being tied up, talk about the feel and look of the ropes against her skin, the sense of power he has tying her down ect. If it's humiliation or Slave and Master or pain and degredation, try to focus on those things, and on how they are a turn on. Don't assume that you can just say, "he tied her down" and everybody will be hot. Try to sell it to somebody who might not even be into BDSM, while also keeping those folks happy as well. (ie, focus on what they like)

I hope this helps

Guruishly,

Sweet.

 

[Carl East]

Also, I would like to know if there are any remedies on writer's block?

Thanks again!

There is a good way of getting rid of writers block, and that is to write anything. Even if it's complete giberish, until you feel that story beginning to enter your thoughts.

It worked for me.

Carl

 

[Colleen Thomas]

I echo SNP's ideas on reading the S&M boards & some stories. Pick an author or two who's style you like and pm them, asking if they could help you a bit.

Writing BDSM is the same as any other category you choose, there are as many ways to do it as their are authors. Find some who's style you like and see if any of them can help you.

-Colly

 

[ClaireBlossom]

Recently I wrote my first real bdsm story and I came upon this same problem. I realized the best way to write it was to create a _few_ rules and stick to them. Most of what makes bdsm erotica bad is that it's either not bdsm or not erotica. I also find these stories jam packed full of rules and systems that don't make any sense. I suggest you focus on either the sex or the control and stay away from the whole "there was a mansion and hundreds of girls with anklets according to their rank" or whatever. Most people seem to try to put too much into one story, failing to realize no one wants to read 20 pages of crap to reach a brief and usually badly written conclusion of mutually enjoyed sex that involves none of the elements originally introduced as important.

While I'm at it, it's also fairly boring for me as a reader if there's extensive description of clothing or apparatus, regardless if the said device(s) are real or not. Focusing on dildos (going excessively into size or color), whips (the pain or use should be more important in the story than the description), and housing. I say housing again because it seems to be an important part of really really shitty stories. There's always a huge house with a library and then something about a blindfold and then she enjoys whatever orgasmically in spite of her shame. If you find yourself coming to it, don't rationalize a slave's comfort with a situation by saying the guy is rich or something. It doesn't work.

Good luck.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Personally, I would stay away from the BDSM board. I've found it to be one of the more unpleasant places on Lit, not so much because the people are especially unpleasant, but there seems to be a real 'BDSM-ier Than Thou' attitude there. There's a kind of status associatd with being more extreme than anyone else, and the subs especially seem to be very catty about how strict their masters are. Also they go with all that Y/you and T/they capital/lower case nonsense.

I write a lot of BDSM and I don't find it much different than writing any other kind of erotic fiction, so I really don't understand what your question is about. You mean you don't understand the motivation behind it? Or the experience and what it's like? Or what?

---dr.M.

 

[Guest]

ClaireBlossom, you are hip. I agree with you completely. I have never had a bdsm experience but chose to use it in order to make first-time writing erotica interesting. I'll have to look at my stories to see if I used too much of the detail you mentioned.

Also agree with your last post, Mab.

Perdita

 

[herecomestherain]

Lolita30

damppanties has an excellent article on overcoming writer's block,

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=111663

The Lit. writer's resources are worth a read,

http://www.literotica.com/storyxs/writ_stor.shtml

 

[ClaireBlossom]

I just remembered something that I thought would help. I start a lot of stories I never finish, or only get a few paragraphs out. I realized that if I had trouble writing more than just a little it's because it's crap. If you have trouble writing it, don't force it. What's hard to write is usually a misery to read.

If it was a real experience sometimes it's better to write from the third person. I suggest, to justify this post, that you write an outline. Get the details clear and consistant, remember your audience, and don't be a slave to fact. That would ruin all erotica. Also, some details are gross. Some are boring. Some, well, some make it all worth while. If one detail gets you off, especially in this genre, expose it.

Sorry about posting twice, or if I restated anything. I'm kind of sick.

-C.

 

[WriterDom]

Personally, I would stay away from the BDSM board. I've found it to be one of the more unpleasant places on Lit, not so much because the people are especially unpleasant, but there seems to be a real 'BDSM-ier Than Thou' attitude there. There's a kind of status associatd with being more extreme than anyone else, and the subs especially seem to be very catty about how strict their masters are. Also they go with all that Y/you and T/they capital/lower case nonsense.

---dr.M.

There is the extreme crowd. But the Upper case/ lower case statement is pure crap. There is very little of that and it is not encouraged. Go look for yourself.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

There is the extreme crowd. But the Upper case/ lower case statement is pure crap. There is very little of that and it is not encouraged. Go look for yourself.

Maybe I should. It's been a long time since I was there. The last time I visited one sub was telling another how she didn't want to be spanked anymore. For her it was flogging or nothing.

In response to what Claire said, I know what she’s talking about, but I’d have to say that my BDSM is a lot simpler than that elaborate kind of”School For Sluts” type of thing. I don’t think you have to be very high-concept to write a good BDSM story.

The essence of M/f BDSM or D/s for me is the psychology involved, which is like a caricature of the archtypal male/female relationship that sees the man as the aggresor and the woman as the prey. She gives up control to the dom so that he can force her to do things she might want to do but is unable to do on her own. I’m not big on humiliation or S&M. In my version, BDSM involves a kind of paradoxical female worship. She’s the star of the show, she’s the one who gets all the attention, and that attention is in the form of the man’s expression of his desire for her and his symbolic need to control and possess her.

What all this psychobabble means is that, like most sexual matters, the real heat is in the psychology. The whips and chains and dungeons are just props to express the internal states of the characters, so the story doesn’t have to be any more eleaborate than a man and a woman together. A hand on her wrists is as good as a leather shackle and says much the same thing.

---dr.M.

 

[Marsipanne]

dr_mab, I completely agree. Personally, I'm not into BDSM and it's one erotica genre that I don't look into. I do, however, list House on Charlevoix Street as one of my favourite stories on lit (or used to be) because it went further than the typical pleasure through pain/humiliation. I think that there are lots and lots of stories out there. The best ones always have some sort of new twist/aspect that sets itself apart from the others.

 

[ClaireBlossom]

Well, to back myself up. I wrote one story that used none of the whips and chains, and concentrated on the psychology or whatnot of domination:

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=137695

And one that did:

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=146042

The key to writing the stories still should be about creating a few rules and sticking to them. Like the movie Fight Club except cheaper and sluttier.