When I gave birth, my inner labia tore very much and I was left with four flaps instead of two inner labia. If one flap in particular gets caught on an in-stroke, or gets too much attention during oral sex, boy-oh-howdy it hurts. I've come to the conclusion that getting the inner "repaired" is preferable to avoiding oral sex and/or prolonged activity, as the problem worsens the more engorged the flesh becomes. I should think the necessary procedure would be about as easy to do as repairing a torn earlobe. I guess I'm looking for reassurance, for someone to agree with me that this is neither trivial nor a manifestation of the current cosmetic surgery fad. There must be someone else who has had a similar situation?
inner labia torn during childbirth
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I'm not in a similar situation but ouchie!!
I can understand how painful this can be at times and feel that should you have surgery this would be more in the realms of reconstructive and not cosmetic work.
I dont think that its a trivial matter as the pain you suffer in the wrong circumstances can lead to you being hesitant or fearful of sex on the whole and a whole slew of other emotional and relationship problems, I would go see my doctor and explain the situation and if they dont seem supportive ask for referrals until you find someone who does.
good luck!
marge
I can understand how painful this can be at times and feel that should you have surgery this would be more in the realms of reconstructive and not cosmetic work.
I dont think that its a trivial matter as the pain you suffer in the wrong circumstances can lead to you being hesitant or fearful of sex on the whole and a whole slew of other emotional and relationship problems, I would go see my doctor and explain the situation and if they dont seem supportive ask for referrals until you find someone who does.
good luck!
marge
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Yeah, for sure get a doc who will make a recommendation for reconstructive surgery - that way insurance will cover it. Your ob/gyn who delivered would probably be a good place to start. I imagine it would be a fairly simple procedure.
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I was cut during childbirth and repaired VERY haphazardly. The doctor was pissed off I wanted a natural childbirth, and the whole time he stitched me up he kept say "If you would have just had a saddle block this wouldn't hurt so bad." This while I was wincing as he stitched me up - no pain killers! Nice guy huh?
My second childbirth (at a hospital far far away from the first) The doctor, proud that I had given birth without the use of drugs, gladly gave me some novacain and even tried repairing some of the damage caused by the first doctor. I do not have pain - but its not the most attractive stitching job.
So - yes repairs can be done! But choose your doctors carefully.
My second childbirth (at a hospital far far away from the first) The doctor, proud that I had given birth without the use of drugs, gladly gave me some novacain and even tried repairing some of the damage caused by the first doctor. I do not have pain - but its not the most attractive stitching job.
So - yes repairs can be done! But choose your doctors carefully.
I'm surprised your doctor didn't attempt to repair it right then. 
I don't think it is a matter of vanity. It isn't trivial at all. It is causing you pain and problems with your sexual pleasure, and those reasons are more than good enough to justify the surgery. Those reasons will probably be good enough for the insurance company too, if you find a doctor who agrees with you.
I wish I had more advice to offer. I just responded because of one of the concerns you mentioned...the concern of it being a trivial thing. It isn't. At all. I don't see how anyone could EVER accuse you of being trivial over something like that.
Good luck. And tell us how it turns out?
S.
I don't think it is a matter of vanity. It isn't trivial at all. It is causing you pain and problems with your sexual pleasure, and those reasons are more than good enough to justify the surgery. Those reasons will probably be good enough for the insurance company too, if you find a doctor who agrees with you.
I wish I had more advice to offer. I just responded because of one of the concerns you mentioned...the concern of it being a trivial thing. It isn't. At all. I don't see how anyone could EVER accuse you of being trivial over something like that.
Good luck. And tell us how it turns out?
S.
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i had this happen to me with my first child.
i tore on one side only, and ended up going in to get it repaired.
it's not as easy as it sounds - in my case, it was easier to 'cut down' the labia to get rid of the tear than it was to fix.
so i am now left with one side that's considerably smaller than the other.
hasn't affected me greatly, other than aesthetically, but it would be nice to be even and symetrical again!
maybe a trip to a cosmetic surgeon is in order in my future?
make sure your surgeon knows you want to be aesthetically pleasing BEFORE you agree to go through a repair.
good luck.
i tore on one side only, and ended up going in to get it repaired.
it's not as easy as it sounds - in my case, it was easier to 'cut down' the labia to get rid of the tear than it was to fix.
so i am now left with one side that's considerably smaller than the other.
hasn't affected me greatly, other than aesthetically, but it would be nice to be even and symetrical again!
maybe a trip to a cosmetic surgeon is in order in my future?
make sure your surgeon knows you want to be aesthetically pleasing BEFORE you agree to go through a repair.
good luck.
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My wife gave birth to our son 6 months ago and during the birthing they had to give her an emergency episiotomy. So she was stitched up afterwards but now penetration is next to impossible. She has healed and the scar is not even noticeable, but sex is pretty much a no go, if we even find the time to try. Needless to say we're both frustrated and unsure of what to do.
My wife gave birth to our son 6 months ago and during the birthing they had to give her an emergency episiotomy. So she was stitched up afterwards but now penetration is next to impossible. She has healed and the scar is not even noticeable, but sex is pretty much a no go, if we even find the time to try. Needless to say we're both frustrated and unsure of what to do.
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Had a girlfriend who had what I guess you would call a labia reduction. Clearly cosmetic in her case.. was back to work in a week but not real comfortbale for almost 2 weeks.
was back to work in a week but not real comfortbale for almost 2 weeks.You have a beautiful baby! He seems to be saying "back off, big person!"Marcius said:
With my first delivery, my own doctor wasn't available and the doctor that delivered my son had absolutely no bedside manner whatsoever. Suction was used without explanation or even informing me, and it caused a great deal of damage. (I wasn't given an episiotomy.) I was given a few stitches, no one said anything to me about the damage, I left thinking the pain I felt must be normal. When I went for my postpartum check up, I was informed I "looked like the grand canyon". She scheduled surgery, they pieced back together my blown apart parts, lol, and removed the outer edges of one labia that had become extremely misshapen. It was a very slow recovery because I lived alone in a townhouse apartment which meant that I was up and down the stairs all day long. Warning---this is not a good thing for stitches! The pain wasn't too bad, I had to use Tucks Pads for about a week and a half, and I healed very nicely.
If it's causing you this much discomfort, you really need to have it repaired. This was caused by delivery and has nothing to do with vanity.
Thanks for the replies--
--is there a name for the procedure, or do I just walk in to my nurse practitioner (who is, incidentally, not the person who delivered the kid) one day and say, "hey, I was torn all to hell during childbirth and I want it fixed?"
--is there a name for the procedure, or do I just walk in to my nurse practitioner (who is, incidentally, not the person who delivered the kid) one day and say, "hey, I was torn all to hell during childbirth and I want it fixed?"
