Inexperienced male looking for a gentle Domme... I think

[HardCaramel]

Hello,

I'm a youngish 27 year old, brown skinned, male. I have been on Lit for a little while (mainly as a lurker). In the past, I've made a thread or two, explored my Dom side, met some wonderful women, but increasingly I've become interested in being a sub of sorts. I'm not entirely sure if I'm looking to be your regular run of the mill sub. I don't enjoy pegging or feminization or even pain! Bondage I'm curious about perhaps in the mildest sense. What I am most interested in is pleasing a woman, taking care of her but have her care for me as well. It's a strange contradiction. Making sure she is never in need of a tongue or a cock because mine are available at her disposal.

I've always enjoyed face sitting and pleasing whoever I'm with orally, being teased and having her in control. Being wanted and ravaged. Maybe I just want someone assertive? Someone to aggressively need me. Someone who knows how to make me cum harder than I have before, but also one who wants to use me to make sure her pussy, ass, and nipples are always well taken care of.

As you can imagine I do want something that is akin to a friendship, a relationship, that also has elements of my submission. I imagine the ideal would be a sort of a Mommy Dom, more caring, nurturing, but still the one in control. I have no particular yearning for a body type or age or race. Just a personality and a desire.

Thank you for taking the time to read. Forgive me if I have left anything out, perhaps check my profile for a little more about me.

 

[HardCaramel]

A bump for a continued search.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

kitty bumps for a well-done ad.

a question for you: have you had experience as a sub in the past? can you share with us what you discovered about yourself? specifically, what you enjoyed, and what you didn't?


*likes* your sig

 

[HardCaramel]

kitty bumps for a well-done ad.

a question for you: have you had experience as a sub in the past? can you share with us what you discovered about yourself? specifically, what you enjoyed, and what you didn't?


*likes* your sig

Thank you for the bump

No I haven't had any experience being a sub but it is something that appeals to me very much. Well I discovered I really love pleasing the woman I'm with, at times I've even gotten off by just eating her out and hearing her moans. I really enjoyed some teasing I received and love the idea of a woman just sitting on my face and taking pleasure from me.

I'm looking to explore but I know I don't like the idea of pain and spankings really, I do want the sweetness and caring and I like to please. I like the idea of her being in charge and deciding how I'm to pleasure her. Nothing cruel or humiliating though, encouraging would be best. Similar to what a Daddy Dom is to a baby girl would be the best way to describe it.

I'm glad you like my sig

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Thank you for the bump

No I haven't had any experience being a sub but it is something that appeals to me very much. Well I discovered I really love pleasing the woman I'm with, at times I've even gotten off by just eating her out and hearing her moans. I really enjoyed some teasing I received and love the idea of a woman just sitting on my face and taking pleasure from me.

I'm looking to explore but I know I don't like the idea of pain and spankings really, I do want the sweetness and caring and I like to please. I like the idea of her being in charge and deciding how I'm to pleasure her. Nothing cruel or humiliating though, encouraging would be best. Similar to what a Daddy Dom is to a baby girl would be the best way to describe it.

I'm glad you like my sig

here is a thread that you may enjoy, by a friend of mine:
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1119955

for the record, I am not a Domme, but I serve as a top on occasion, and have served as a 'Mommy' in the past.

I would encourage you to keep in mind that there is no 'right' set of rules for what a sub is supposed to prefer. there's not a thing wrong with your not enjoying pain and humiliation. it is for you and your potential Mommy/Domme to work out what each of your needs/wants is, and where the limits will be for your individual situation.

Similar to what a Daddy Dom is to a baby girl would be the best way to describe it.

I think this makes perfect sense, and yet it is the first time that I've ever heard anyone refer to a Domme/male sub relationship in this way. points to you for using your noggin!

 

[HardCaramel]

I would encourage you to keep in mind that there is no 'right' set of rules for what a sub is supposed to prefer. there's not a thing wrong with your not enjoying pain and humiliation. it is for you and your potential Mommy/Domme to work out what each of your needs/wants is, and where the limits will be for your individual situation.

Similar to what a Daddy Dom is to a baby girl would be the best way to describe it.

I think this makes perfect sense, and yet it is the first time that I've ever heard anyone refer to a Domme/male sub relationship in this way. points to you for using your noggin!

Well thank you for the compliment! I have to admit it is rather rare to find a woman like that I feel. There are many Domme's out there but most if not all seem to like pain, humiliation, feminization and the such over the gentler more caring approach.

I do hope I find someone to explore with