In Remembrance (please read)

[Luna_Wolf72]

Within the past few years I have lost plenty of people to disease or accidents beyond their control. I just wanted to take a moment to remember all of those I have lost and whom I will never forget.

This thread idea is just a way for us as a community to remeber those who have impacted our lives or changed us for the better.

Here is my list.

Enrico Reid: died at age 25 from AIDS. He was a gifted, talented man who showed me the hardship as well as the beauty of a human living with HIV.

Monza Conway: dies at age 12. My baby sister who passed with leukemia. She showed me the truth that all children strive for happiness, even when they are hurting.

Roscoe Johnson: My grandfather who never had a bad word to say to anyone for any reason in almost 78 years on this earth. He taught me grace under pressure.

Linda Walsh: died at the age of 26 from a drug overdose. She taught me more than any of the above. Because she taught me the value of never giving up, never giving in and always struggling to see tomorrow.

In the upcoming year, I pray that we all have something good to believe in and to strive for..but before Jan.1 hits, let's remember those who have gone before us to lead us home.

Blessed be
Pet

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I haven't lost a lot of people in my life... I'm very fortunate.

But I'd like to remember Sister Grace, my great-aunt, who truly lived up to her name.... Grace. She was a holy woman, but a practical woman.. she didn't let religion cloud her judgement, or judgement cloud her faith.. she kept the two in balance. She was a living example of how science and faith work together (a brilliant woman), and she was kind to everyone. Though she'd rap your knuckles, if she thought that you needed it.

She comes to me in dreams sometimes, when I need to know something. And sometimes, she comes in dreams just to let me know I'm loved and watched over.

The gravity and importance of this woman didn't really hit any of us until she passed on, and now we all realize how wise, and how holy and how.... I don't think there's a word for it.... she was.

 

[webber1998]

Within the past few years I have lost plenty of people to disease or accidents beyond their control. I just wanted to take a moment to remember all of those I have lost and whom I will never forget.

This thread idea is just a way for us as a community to remeber those who have impacted our lives or changed us for the better.

Here is my list.

Enrico Reid: died at age 25 from AIDS. He was a gifted, talented man who showed me the hardship as well as the beauty of a human living with HIV.

Monza Conway: dies at age 12. My baby sister who passed with leukemia. She showed me the truth that all children strive for happiness, even when they are hurting.

Roscoe Johnson: My grandfather who never had a bad word to say to anyone for any reason in almost 78 years on this earth. He taught me grace under pressure.

Linda Walsh: died at the age of 26 from a drug overdose. She taught me more than any of the above. Because she taught me the value of never giving up, never giving in and always struggling to see tomorrow.

In the upcoming year, I pray that we all have something good to believe in and to strive for..but before Jan.1 hits, let's remember those who have gone before us to lead us home.

Blessed be
Pet

How very thoughtful of you... it is the time of the year where we can get so caught up in the spectacle of the season, that we lose sight of the really important things in our lives.

My friends and family have lost WAY to many young people over the last few years, for whatever reason, so many have been taken and so young.

Sadly, my list would be too long, but I choose to think of each one of their faces at this moment and to remember how each and every one of them, touched my life in their own separate way.

Thank you Pet for giving me pause....

 

[sigh]

My father, who died horribly from a cancer of his kidney that enveloped his entire torso in the course of a few short months. He never cried out in pain. He never complained. At the very end he just gazed into our eyes with a faint smile on his lips. He taught me the strength that comes from love.

My best friend, David, who also died horribly, but of AIDS at the age of 19, while I held his hand. From him I came to understand that many times the good do die young. His flame was bright, but burned much too fiercely to last a long lifetime.

And my sister, who killed herself after her fiance betrayed her most cruelly by raping someone she dearly loved. From her I learned that life is not fair, but you still have to go on if only to protect those left behind. I don't blame her for not choosing life, but I wish she had.


Thanks, pet. You're very special.

 

[Guest]

Thank you, pet -

The holidays are difficult this year because of losses.

My husband's mother was ill with Alzheimer's for a long time before she died (just two days after the horror of 9-11-01). She was vibrant and intelligent and it was very sad to watch her decline. They would have celebrated their 50th anniversary this year.

And my brother, who passed away at age 42 a few months ago (leaving a wife and two young children). He was diagnosed with a cancerous inoperable brain tumor just 86 days before it killed him. We moved him to my parent's house, Hospice helped us keep him comfortable, and we were all able to be with him when he died.

I was glad we all helped in his care, but the nightmares still intrude.

Blessings on all those who are dealing with grief at this time. The holidays and family should be a comfort, but somehow they seem to make everything more painful.

 

[mystic_Arrival]

Thankyou Pet

My aunt-a lady who taught me the meaning of dignity and courage who passed away almost 12 years ago. She fought with diabetes that took her sight, both legs below the knee and a great many other things, but she stayed strong throughout. When she was asked how she managed to stay cheerful and strong? her response was, "when the pain gets really bad, all I have to do is think of those who are worse off than I." that is something i can never forget.

My cousin who killed herself at 16, for teaching me of the pebble in a pond effect and reminding me that no matter how bad it gets, if you do something like that the impact is enormous and not worth it.

There are a great many more, but as both of them passed at this time of year they are on my thoughts the most.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Thank YOU everyone

I was hoping for just what I got..a thread where those who wanted to could look back and reflect on those who taught us an important life lesson.

The holidays are always hard for me..Within the past year I have lost 2 grandfather's (on the 20 and 23rd of December, respectively) My baby sister's birthday is Christmas Eve...so I am never all that bright an cheerful at this time any way.

What makes this an important thought is simply this...though they are gone...their love and lesson's live on within us. Remembering them and their love for us gives us something to smile about, even while we are saddened by their loss.

Thank You all once more...

 

[firegirl03]

There are two people who I always think of during the holidays. One is my twin brother who was stillborn. Our birthday is in early December. My birthday is always bittersweet b/c I wonder what he would've looked like, what kind of personality he would've had and what life would've been like with him. Would he have married? had kids?
My thoughts also turn to my daughter, Dakota Lynn. I never got to hold her or see her face or tell her how much I love her...i hope she knows i love her - and her daddy does too

 

[rearenderender]

thank

Here's to my son Robert Jr. who died on Dec. 12, 2001 by stranglation at the hands of his girlfriend and her bother. He was 18,and just starting to live his life. He taught me that life's to short to let the bullshit get you down.

Also to my mother who died at age 58 who drove my to lean and make the best of my self. She was a teacher and helped many to be the best they could be and to never stop trying the be better, but always to bewho they truely are.

 

[innocentone]

George : my grandfather, light of my world died 1982, still miss him, grew up calling him Da because my own wasnt around. USMC--WW2 taught me my 1st song.... Marine Corps Hymn Only kidergardner who came to Grandparents day and introduced her granddad with the MarineCorps Hymn.



Paul ; My uncle, died 1995 Complications of Diabetes, USMC, big tough guy with a heart of gold. Gave me my first ride on a Harley and was the first to let me shoot a rifle.



TJ: Fiance, died 2000, wrong place wrong time--damn gangbangers...

 

[gypsywitch]

Deepest prayers and wishes of love for a future that holds some underdstanding of inevitable change.

I too have had several losses over the last few years.

It has made me scared to explore other people sexually and made me an advocate for safe sex.

My life has brought me to cross the paths of drug users, as well as the sexually evolved.

If the time comes that you do not see me around this board for multiple days it because I have at least two or more deaths to tend to this year. I am the "stable one" who handles the business and spiritual end of people splitting the planet.

I can honestly say that I'm going to be around for quite a while.

Blessed be.

 

[Zergplex]

Thank you very much for creating this threa, it's good to look foreward but sometimes you need to look back to see what is really important in life.

My most meaningful loss was my grandmother, she was the closest person to me in my family, we understood each other perfectly. She showed me you have to fight and live to the last moment. She died of lung cancer and heart problems, but survived for nearly 3 weeks after the doctors said she should have died basically just on her will to live.

I give everyone on this thread my condolances, it's sad that death is one of the few things that can bring people together.

-Zergplex

 

[Quint]

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who has shared, and my wishes for your peace and joy in the future.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Today I think back on all the people I have lost and all the new people I have found. It is truly a blessing and amazing to me that whenever a door shuts, a window opens.

Thank you all...not only for giving me some new people to add to my devotions list...but for helping me to remember that I am not alone when it comes to being saddened.

so this is for You all...

*A Wish, A Prayer* written by me 9/12/02

i sit beneath a wide oak tree
his leaves do grant me shade
i watch a yellow bumble bee
find a peace for which i've prayed

in solemn joy i seek and find
a tribe to call my own
a waiting wolf no longer am i
for i have found my home!!

God has given me the strength
to survive all seasons of doubt
and though the way is hard
my love hast not been cast out

so i wish for you, all my friends
wherever you may roam
for you to remain in the light
and like me, never be left alone

may the spirits keep you
may the lord bless you
may you reap a must deserved rest
for though old friends are tried and true
sometimes new friends are the best

Blessed be

 

[sigh]

there's something very special about you, pet

you're a damn good person

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

there's something very special about you, pet

you're a damn good person

thank you...

I appreciate that more than you will ever know.

 

[gypsywitch]

I'll save that poem.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I'll save that poem.

good that is a very nice compliment

 

[TheFrenchGuy]

I lost my mother's father about 20 years ago. A righteous man. He taught me to always act with dignity. Too bad he never knew his great grandchildren.

My father's dad died on Xmas day, 8 years ago. I'll always regret I spent Xmas eve with my ex-wife parents, thus not being able to see him one last time before he died. He was a good man and a "bon vivant".

My mother lost his "baby" brother 5 years ago. He died of a heart attack at the age of 50. He had just divorced of an evil woman and was living happy again. Sometimes it feels like life's a bitch, no doubt.

It always seems the best are leaving first and too early.

 

[Zergplex]

Zergplex Reflects

Somehow whenever I read this thread I'm reminded of the song Crossroads by Bone Thugs N Harmony, I normally don't like rap but I think it fits the mood perfectly.

-Zergplex

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Thank you TheFrenchGuy and Zergplex for adding your thoughts to my thread. Knowing that others deal with loss makes my dealing alot easier...as my mum sez a burdened shared is much less a burden.

Blessings unto you both
Pet

 

[Imi]

*A Wish, A Prayer* written by me 9/12/02

I'm not much for poetry but that was just beautiful...

I lost my oldest friend before we turned 25 to cancer. The last time she had her hair cut was for my wedding. She taught me life is short and that you shouldn't wait until the proper time to take advantage of the wonder experiences God puts in your way. God gives you opportunities all the time for a reason.

I lost my father-in-law two years ago to cancer as well. Far too soon, a more respected and respectful man, I'll never know.

Death is an evitable part of life, we all lose people, but it's interesting that we can mourn some people and let them go, but others we always hurt for.

 

[ExistentialLuv]

I myself, have not lost many loved ones, yet I have. All of you have also.



First off, I would like to remember my great grandma. She was always there for me when I needed her, she taught me to stand up for what I believe, never be affraid of the unexplained, be true to thy self, that no matter how bad it gets, it will get better, and so much more................................

Thank you GG for all your strength, wisdom, and love. It lives on in me.



As for the many you and I have lost.

In rememberance of all GLBT's that have died due to hate crimes and the ignorance of others. Your deaths have paved the road for laws to be passed against these crimes and for us to be accepted more than all of you were. Thank You

The one thats sticks out the most in my mind is Matthew Shepard. This happened so close to home. My own state (Montana) has laws against what happened to this young man, but 5 years later, Wyoming has still not passed Bias laws to protect Gays against this kind of crime.


Stop The Hate

 

[Zergplex]

Zergplex

A small bump for this thread.... I think it's very important and meaningful, I wouldn't want those just visiting the GLBT board to miss it. Remembering is a very personal thing, but this thread reminds everyone how important it is to think about those we have lost. Just had to say that,

-Zergplex

 

[Guest]