In love with a married man?

[sporty]

Has anyone had a longterm affair with with someone who is married.??? and are you willing to share your experience with me.

I am single.......AND so in love with a married man.....The sex is unbelievable...we have been together over a year and our bond grows stronger as time goes by. I'm not naive enough to believe that we WILL sometime be in a permanent relationship. But ...........somehow that hope sometimes rears it's head.....Our relationship is filled with hot , passionate, erotic , sensual sex, but it goes much deeper than that.

I'd like to hear if anyone is together with someone who has left their spouse for you.

thank you

 

[Guest]

 

[StrawberryPez]

If he hasn't left her already, he never will. I'm with Indigo on this one. Get out now.

 

[MissTaken]

If that is what you want, enjoy.

If you dont' want commitment or reliability, but enjoy what is there now, it is your choice.

However, it seems you must want more than that or you wouldn't be posting the thread?

 

[Weevil]

Homewrecker

 

[MissTaken]

Homewrecker

For the sake of arguement, HE is the homewrecker.

It is his family and his home and his responsibility.

However, getting involved with a married man is seldom going to be a win/win situation.

Either he stays with the family, leaving you with the leftovers or he leaves and joins you.

In that case, how far can you trust him?
He did it once.............?

 

[sporty]

If that is what you want, enjoy.

If you dont' want commitment or reliability, but enjoy what is there now, it is your choice.

However, it seems you must want more than that or you wouldn't be posting the thread?

There were many things i needed at the time that i started the relationship...and he fulfills them. Not all of them....But on the flip side, i am very independent and our not being together all the time was not a problem. but my desires and needs have changed over time we've been together . Love puts a different slant on things. and for the first time in my life, i want to be with someone on a permanent basis.

I don't often worry about our future...i feel each bit of time we spend together is our future and we're living it now...

but geez, sometimes i play the what if fantasy in my head and it seems so sweet......

 

[MissTaken]

It really sounds like it is time for you to get out of the situation.

It isn't going to get any better than this for you, not with him.

I know I am assuming alot, but it is my guess that you aren't going to find happiness there, with him.

You deserve all the things you want or to even be able to day dream about possibilities and futures.

When you are in love with someone where in there are limits or conditions on how far the relationship will go, you are the one who gets hurt.

But that is just my opinion.

 

[sporty]

Miss Taken,

I know what you're saying is true and you're offering good advice.....

I know that i'm also not ready to follow good advice right now....Until i become unhappy in my situation , i just can't give up something this good.

I suppose i was foolishly looking for something positive in response to my thread...

Thank you for your thoughts and advice...They are appreciated.

 

[Guest]

Dearest Sporty,

Get yourself out of it now.

The longer you stay in this relationship the longer you're actually losing a bit of who YOU are to it. Each time that you are with this man, what you're really telling yourself (whether you choose to admit it or not) is that you're not worthy of a REAL relationship.

You'll never (and trust me there's no deluding yourself here either... ) trust him. If he can do it to her, he most certainly will do it to you.

Don't you want someone that will go shopping with you hand in hand, go for long walks with you, wake up with you each morning, have any and all meals with you if and when possible? Not to mention share a future (kids) with you? None of these are possible in your current state of affairs. PUN INTENDED.

What's going on in his mind... He will never go the extra mile for you hun, why should he? He doesn't have to now. He knows you're willing to take the crumbs he's offering you now.

I'm not trying to be mean or hurtful here. I'm just telling you what I've suffered through myself or watched others suffer with in the past.

Be strong, love yourself more and get the hell out of this hoax of a relationship now.

 

[MechaBlade]

Just for the record, I would never fuck a married woman unless I couldn't get laid.

I can't get laid.

Or she begged for it. Couldn't turn that down.