Improve stamina/skill for certain positions.

[Caitir]

Before I get started, I'm usually a little shy about sexual stuff when it comes to me personally. I'm not very experienced and I'm still pretty young. I am all about equal pleasure in the bedroom and making my partner feel good really gets me going. I'm looking for any suggestions beyond things I have listed here as well! Please suggest and describe new positions for me to try and I'll let you know how they work out!


I've been pretty out of the game and out of practice until fairly recently. This is my first time with a man who is marginally older than myself and therefore has a lot more experience. I'm also a little lower on stamina due to a somewhat recent injury and although I've recovered, I'm unsure about how to build up the strength needed for a lot of sexual activities.
p.s. my knees tend to wear out easily since I lost a lot of the supportive muscle there (working on getting it back)

Cowgirl: what are the best techniques I can use to really give him the best ride? How can I keep my legs or knees from getting worn out?

Reverse Cowgirl: what different moves should I include? how can I spice up this position?

Anal: I'm extremely tight and it takes a second to loosen up for anal with him. Usually it works best if he does a little frontal play at the same time. Any tips for working with a verrryy tight ass?

Doggy Style: This is one of my favorites, but I'm also rather tight in this region as well and sometimes if we go too hard I end up bleeding. It's not exactly painful though. I'm not even sure what tears! I don't feel the pain beyond the pleasure but I certainly notice the blood after!


Suggestions for making 69 work better?

Also any tips on giving a better blowjob! I'm rather inexperienced in giving these and I really want it to feel good for him. I'm getting better at taking it deeper every time but sometimes my body is just NOT ok with the cut off from oxygen supply, how can I practice outside of using his body?




I tend to be rather loud too and we're not always in a situation where I can let it all go without having to practically devour a pillow. How can I get better control over my volume?

 

[CWatson]

First off, there's nothing wrong with being less experienced. No one is just magically born from the womb knowing how to be good at sex. Plus, every sexual relationship is different: you sleep with Guy A and learn how to please him, but then you break up and get together with Guy B and some (maybe even most) of what you know doesn't apply anymore. And let's not even talk about Guy C. If your current lover knows anything at all about sex, he'll be okay with the idea that you have some adjusting to do. (He does too. )

Suggestions for other positions... Well, believe it or not, there's always missionary. That takes the load off your knees! There's also spooning, and a variant of it that doesn't seem to have a name but is quite elemental once you think about it: roll the whole thing 90 degrees so that you're on your belly and he's on top. (Close your legs for even more excitement. )

Cowgirl: try moving your hips back and forth instead of up and down. Reverse cowgirl I might honestly hold off on until your knees are up to speed: a big part of the appeal for the guy is the sight of you, you know, "working it," which is liable to put a toll on them.

69 is usually thought of as being an up-and-down position (maybe because most sex positions are), but I've found it works WAY better with both partners lying on their side. Both of my lovers have been shorter than me, shorter enough that when one of us is atop the other it's hard for me to, you know, reach her. For whatever reason, sideways removes this impediment. It also allows a lot more control, because both she and I have something to brace against while we maneuver our faces closer to the other's etcs.

And as for oral, to my mind, the best part is seeing my partner take time and effort to please me. I like seeing her smile, seeing her make eye contact, things like that. The fact that it feels good is almost secondary. Of course, that's just me; ask your BF what his favorite aspects are. But above all, don't push yourself. He's not going to judge you if you're bad at sex. Or, at least, he shouldn't. And if he does, DTMFA.

 

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I've been pretty out of the game and out of practice until fairly recently. This is my first time with a man who is marginally older than myself and therefore has a lot more experience. I'm also a little lower on stamina due to a somewhat recent injury and although I've recovered, I'm unsure about how to build up the strength needed for a lot of sexual activities.
p.s. my knees tend to wear out easily since I lost a lot of the supportive muscle there (working on getting it back)

Cowgirl: what are the best techniques I can use to really give him the best ride? How can I keep my legs or knees from getting worn out?

Reverse Cowgirl: what different moves should I include? how can I spice up this position?

I assume straightforward rehab for your injury would benefit both those positions, and if being the woman on top is anything like being the man on top cardio (non/low impact obviously) will help too. Anyway, are you seeing a physical therapist to rehab your legs? That's probably the best sort of person for advice on that, plus they have some nifty tools they can use, like ultrasound for your knee joints and electrotherapy for your leg muscles (I spent a lot of time doing physical therapy for knee and ankle injuries in high school). If you can't do physical therapy, I think the second best thing would be to see if a gym near you has any personal trainers you can talk to without having to pay for a bunch of training sessions (one of the gym chains near here, for instance, offers new members three free sessions). Explain the nature of your leg injury and they should be able to show you what sort of exercises will help you rebuild those muscles fastest. And not just "do X sets of Y reps at N lbs of leg extension", but showing you more calisthenic-style exercises you might be able to do at home.

As far as sex positions specifically, when she rides me cowgirl style it always feels to me like my girlfriend is moving side-to-side or in a circle (like CWatson's back-and-forth, maybe?) rather than up-and-down. Like she's rocking her hips, maybe? Or maybe what she's doing is more of grinding her clitoris against me... I think that's it. I do know if you lean forward, you can prop yourself up some with your arms, which is probably good for your knees. And it brings your breasts closer to his face, which I'm sure he'd like - and within range of his hands, which hopefully you'll both like.