I'm so fucking tired of this.

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[april-wine]

Break out the bitch I can take it.........

 

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[Johnny Mayberry]

I feel stress because sometimes I need to kill someone, and civilization gets in the way...

 

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[estevie]

Do you ever get tired of being nice?

Uhh, no.

I'm not that nice.

 

[marksgirl]

I just want to break out my inner bitch.

Let the inner bitch out, believe me It feels great! I can't stand people trying to walk all over me and I don't take it anymore! I loved learning to say "NO" too.

 

[Chantal Marchon]

--Just say NO! If you don't really want to do something, if your not really in the mood, if moochers want to borrow money.

Little girls are taught not to cause conflict and to be nice and accomodating making them into absolute welcome mats as adults. You have my permission to be as rude as you want to be and to say no when you want to, as many times as you want to.

It's time to quit letting other people manipulate you.

 

[Shingen]

Emerald, I used to be extremely nice. But now I am still nice, but firm with a backbone. What it took for me was to move away from my home city for awhile and I came back a different person somehow. A better person at that!

I hang up on solicitors without giving it a second thought.

I still say hello and smile to total strangers, even if they don't smile back. You don't know what they've been through that day. Maybe perhaps their Grandmother died, or their pet died.

I never loan money to anyone anymore...ever. I'm firm with that.

Hope you're having a good day!



P.S...And it's always good to let the inner bitch come out once in awhile to greet people too...

 

[ithaqua]

Blow up

Some times I just want to explode like a nuclear bomb and take out two or three city blocks with me.

Then I realize I am not radio active, think of the Budda, consider suffering, and relax.

 

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[Carp]

EE, there's a difference between being nice and being a doormat- you probably wouldn't like yourself if you were no longer nice, but being nice is no reason to let others take advantage of you.

 

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[april-wine]

I wouldnt know what to do with one that big! Im so used to yours, which is so little it actually inverts.

LMAO

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Being willing to stand up for yourself is a liberating feeling. I used to be the 'nice guy doormat', until I was in my mid-20s. One day, after being jerked around by a cashier, I went ballistic. In a clear, calm voice, I said 'No, this is what is going to happen...', and proceeded to tell her EXACTLY what she had to do for me. She gave me a deer-in-the-headlights look, said 'yes, sir' and moved very quickly to make me happy. I don't know who was more surprised; her, me, or my friends, who had never seen me act that way. Ever since, I have learned to make my needs known, and to settle for nothing less. If that is being an 'asshole'(or 'bitch', if you're a woman), then so be it.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Learn to say no, with a smile on your face.

 

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[Temptress_1960]

I'm being nice today.

But last night, I wasn't. People just kept pissing me off, some by their very existance.

I hate feeling that way, and I hate getting angrier with every word someone says to me.

Luckily it doesn't happen often.

 

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[Johnny Mayberry]

Its so hard. I like making people happy.

Sure...that's a nice sentiment, but don't you want to make yourself happy too?

 

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[Temptress_1960]

Sure...that's a nice sentiment, but don't you want to make yourself happy too?

How come whenever I try to make myself happy, I'm told that I'm being selfish and inconsiderate?

 

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[SpiceCake]

The first time you say, "No, I can't work for you." is the hardest. After that, it's gets easier when you realize how good it feels to be in charge of yourself. I'm lerning because I, too, have ALWAYS been the nice one. You can say no with a smile or a reason. "I have plans that I can't break, I'm sorry."

Hurting someone's feelings is inevitible. It's a trade - it's not fair that your feelings are always the ones that are hurt. It sounds much easier than it really it - it's damn hard. You have a lot of support here - access it!

*Hugs*