I'm not sure if you exist...

[JustSomeGirl95]

Hi, I'm looking for a v specific sort of situation, and I don't know if the sort of person I'd like to explore with even exists.

I'm a smart, easygoing, sarcastic girl who's a bit shy, a bit silly, and full of weird and complicated issues with sex. Vaguely submissive-ish and deeply, deeply fucked up and hoping to explore the fucked up parts of me with someone.

I'm looking for a man who's 30+, smart, friendly, and patient, who has some tendencies towards taking the lead sexually if things get that far but who is ok with getting to know each other first. (Also, a man who can be kind to someone he's sexually rough with.)

I'm hoping some of the getting-to-know-you conversations could be via voice calls.

Anyway I know this is a very niche and difficult request but I'm going to make it even worse by requesting that no one in a committed relationship message me. I don't want to be part of that sort of mess - please respect my wishes.

tl;dr - sexually fucked up/broken girl seeks intelligent kind single 30+ man to befriend and then explore with, at least partly via voice

 

[Alan89]

I think the guy you're looking for might exist after all I sent you a private message.

 

[Mr_Underground]

I dont know if I exist either.

 

[TARDISCapricorn]

We do exist...

Evening, ma’am.

Yes, there are several of us here on the site who can fill most of your needs. I’d like to think I’m one of them. 56, MWM stuck in a sexless desert wasteland looking for a partner to provide me some much needed water and some desires and fun to help me find my way back to a life of caring and sharing. I’d like to think I’m smart (I know enough to get off the tracks if a train is coming), I’m friendly and probably patient to a fault, but I believe in letting relationships find their own rhythm and path rather than trying to force it.

I love smart girls (even if they’re smarter than me) and easygoing, sarcastic, shy and silly sounds like my kind of combination. I think most, but not all, issues dealing with sex can be weird and complicated, but two people working through that particular minefield can sometimes be both fun and beneficial to both parties. Deeply fucked up? Check, but being celibate for 21 years can do that to you and, quite frankly, I’d like to have someone as a partner to help walk me through this.

I’ll drop you a PM and hope to hear from you on the other side of it. Sounds like we could both learn, laugh and cry together.

 

[fitzroyology]

I don't think you sound niche at all, probably like many people can be on here, looking around for ages and pushing yourself to make that first post.