I'm in a melancholy mood

[lilminx]

I just thought of someone I hadn't thought of in a while, someone who I cared about very much, but who really hurt me and I cut off contact with. Tonight I wanted to e-mail him to let him know I was thinking of him, and I just realized that when I reformatted my computer, I lost his e-mail address. I have no way of getting in touch with him.

 

[nasty1]

If you ever wanna vent, a PM is only a click away. Thought you might need those.

 

[patient1]

I just thought of someone I hadn't thought of in a while, someone who I cared about very much, but who really hurt me and I cut off contact with. Tonight I wanted to e-mail him to let him know I was thinking of him, and I just realized that when I reformatted my computer, I lost his e-mail address. I have no way of getting in touch with him.

You could always E-mail Mellon Collie

 

[lilminx]

I knew someone was going to say something to that effect.

 

[nasty1]

Damn, that was my idea. Why didn't I say that?

 

[Black_Bird]

I just thought of someone I hadn't thought of in a while, someone who I cared about very much, but who really hurt me and I cut off contact with. Tonight I wanted to e-mail him to let him know I was thinking of him, and I just realized that when I reformatted my computer, I lost his e-mail address. I have no way of getting in touch with him.

Do a google check on your old screen names and his old screen names...

You'll never know what might pop up! I got in touch with two friends I had thought I totally lost contact with just by doing this. It's worth a shot.

 

[kiwiwolf]

 

[lilminx]

Re: Re: I'm in a melancholy mood

Do a google check on your old screen names and his old screen names...

You'll never know what might pop up! I got in touch with two friends I had thought I totally lost contact with just by doing this. It's worth a shot.

I don't remember his e-mail address, and we never chatted via aim or anything.

 

[Black_Bird]

Re: Re: Re: I'm in a melancholy mood

I don't remember his e-mail address, and we never chatted via aim or anything.

Okay... You know his real name, right? Use that. Use any information you have on him. Again, it's worth a shot.

 

[lilminx]

Well, I looked his name up on www.whitepages.com. 75 men with his name came up that live in Manhattan, and he moved when I lost touch with him. What am I supposed to do, call EVERY one of them that lives on the upper west side? Plus, the phone might not even be in his name. I just wish that there was a way I had his e-mail address.

When I reformatted, I thought I saved the e-mail addresses on CD, but when I tried to get the address from it, it was a read-only file and I couldn't get the address.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

considering that you had a good reason to cut him out of your life, do you really want to potentially let him back in? I've had nights where I've wanted to contact people that would be better off out of my life, and I'm just glad that like you, I no longer have their email, phone number or other methods of contact for them. Just give it serious thought...no one deserves unhealthy people in their life.

 

[Saint Peter]

You might try to copy that file off the cd onto your hard drive. Go to properties and unclick the read only attribute.

Good luck.

 

[IrishWolfhound]

Minx hun...perhaps a dumb question, but why? I mean why go to the bother? If a person hurt me that badly, AND cut off all contact, I think it's time to lose that e-mail addy, my friend. Why add to your pain?

I've met you. You are a beautiful and nice person. (Not may people could stop a 6-way conversation dead in it's tracks just by walking in the room. That poor bartender never quite figured out how Dillinger & I were surrounded by that many beautiful women.)

Time to live in the present my friend.

 

[lilminx]

You might try to copy that file off the cd onto your hard drive. Go to properties and unclick the read only attribute.

Good luck.

I just tried that- it didn't work, but thank you for the help.

Deliciously Naughty and Irish Wolfhound, you're probably right, but I haven't spoken to him in months. He was, I think, the only person I have ever been in love with. And if I'm wrong about the love thing, he is the closest I have ever come to it. I miss him- looking at him, talking to him, being with him. I felt that I had something with him that I have never had with anyone else, and possibly never will.
He was in a relationship when I met him- he no longer is. By the way, I was the one who cut off all contact with him, not the other way around.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Hugs Minx....


All I can tell you is that the last time I contacted the man I loved, it was the worst mistake I've made in a long time (except perhaps getting back together with him the second time). Things had ended badly for us the second time 'round. I hadn't spoken to him in three/four months and when I justified a reason, we fell back into our pattern and I ended up getting hurt by someone who was unhealthy for me. He isn't a bad person, but we aren't good together, and I don't like who I am around him. But I still get the urge to call him. And the other man I've loved. Two men, neither of them good for me long term, and part of me still wants them back. Thank goodness I have a healthy 200 miles between me and them now. No chance of running into them on the street.

I feel for you sweetie. Do what you feel you have to, but take care with your heart. You're a wonderful person, especially on the inside...I liked you immediately and it had nothing to do with how you looked. I couldn't help but notice that you're stunning, but I liked your attitude first (and that was when you weren't even feeling totally yourself!).

 

[Raina]

Minx, what kind of file is it? Are you using Outlook? If it is a .pst file, or .pab file, I may be able to help you.

 

[IrishWolfhound]

OK, so you cut off the contact. The original point remains.

One sided loves never work. Trust me on this one. If he didn't love you then, he won't love you now. His being in or out of a relationship shouldn't have a bearing on that. In all probability you will get hurt all over.

 

[IrishWolfhound]

DN...how about we stand on either side of her and each shout the same thing into an ear?

 

[deliciously_naughty]

DN...how about we stand on either side of her and each shout the same thing into an ear?

I don't know if I'm up to shouting...how bout we whisper into her ears? Better on our throats and her eardrums

 

[lilminx]

Thanks, DN- I hear what you're saying, but I'd rather regret getting in touch with him and having him hurt me again, than regret not doing it. I hate wondering "what if?".

It's a .vcf file, whatever that means. I was clueless when I saved the addresses. I thought I was saving them and would be able to transfer them.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Thanks, DN- I hear what you're saying, but I'd rather regret getting in touch with him and having him hurt me again, than regret not doing it. I hate wondering "what if?".

Minx, if that's how you really feel, than all I can say is do what you must, and I wish you nothing but happiness. You deserve it

 

[IrishWolfhound]

I don't know if I'm up to shouting...how bout we whisper into her ears? Better on our throats and her eardrums

We seem to not be having effect with either technique. What say we find a private corner and whisper in each other's ears?

 

[freakygirl]

Minx

Ever hear the saying "Everything happens for a reason"? Maybe you lost that email addy for a reason.

I know how you feel.. I went through the same thing and found out the hard way that you can never go back.

 

[Raina]

Okay. A vcf file is a VCard file. I looked on knowledge base, and found this....it might help. I think you should be able to look at it using Notepad. I don't know much about VCards, but here is the link to knowledge base.

http://support.microsoft.com/default.aspx?scid=kb;en-us;Q197026

How To Manually Process a vCard as a Text File
A vCard record is just a text file. If you do not have an automated facility to process vCard records, you can open them with a text editor and use the information. The contents of a vCard file will vary with the information inserted by the file creator but a typical file created from a Contact record looks like the following when opened in a text editor.

NOTE: Text formatting applied to entries in the Notes field is not preserved when the .vcf file is save to the hard drive. The file format is preserved in ASCII text only.



BEGIN:VCARD
VERSION:2.1
Noe;John;;;
FN:John Doe
ORGoe Company, The;
TITLEresident
NOTE;ENCODING=QUOTED-PRINTABLE:This is a note associated with this
contact=0D=0A
TEL;WORK;VOICE987) 123-4567
TEL;HOME;VOICE987) 765-4321
TEL;CELL;VOICE987) 135-8642
TEL;WORK;FAX987) 246-1357
ADR;WORK:;;1234 North Street;Anytown;TX 751234;;United States of America
LABEL;WORK;ENCODING=QUOTED-PRINTABLE:1234 North Street=0D=0AAnytown, TX
751234 =0D=0AUnited States of America
URL:
URL:<LINK TYPE="GENERIC"
VALUE="http://www.doeweb.com">http://www.doeweb.com</LINK>
EMAIL;PREF;INTERNET:jdoe@nowhere.com
REV:19980114T170559Z
END:VCARD

 

[deliciously_naughty]

We seem to not be having effect with either technique. What say we find a private corner and whisper in each other's ears?

you're such a flirt but you never returned my email