I'm going to bitch for a minute...

[Mean2sluts]

So I am recently divorced and just started dating again. I'm being super picky with the women I date because, well, I want a woman who has at least some of the kinks I do. I've met a few women who have been awesome in every aspect but bed.

Then there are the women who just get freaked out when we talk about sex.

Dating sucks.

 

[Mean2sluts]

And another thing!

I also am shaky on the rules of dating right now. I mean, if a woman invites me over to watch a movie, are we just watching a movie? I get confused.

When is a movie just a movie?

 

[1sickbastard]

People get freaked out about sex because people don't know how to talk about sex. If your goal is just to get laid, just take the sex that's offered and don't expect anything more. If you want to find someone to share your kinks, you might have better luck finding people who share your kinks first.

When is a movie just a movie? If you have to ask, it's probably just a movie. If you want to know for sure, ask her.

 

[babyjane20011]

I also am shaky on the rules of dating right now. I mean, if a woman invites me over to watch a movie, are we just watching a movie? I get confused.

When is a movie just a movie?

first of all, don't whine, find out what kinds of things you & your dates are truly passionate about. if you don't things well never change.

Nancy

 

[Mean2sluts]

first of all, don't whine, find out what kinds of things you & your dates are truly passionate about. if you don't things well never change.

Nancy

Not whining, bitching. There's a difference. I do find that stuff out, it part of the whole "getting to know you process". But you see, you hit it on the head... I'm passionate about kinky sex, and when dating, it's not like you can bring it up on the first date without looking like a complete whack job.

So you spend time getting to now someone, and get really into them, and then find out that you are not at all compatible in bed.

I'm just venting, is all. let's not take this too seriously, please.

 

[Mean2sluts]

People get freaked out about sex because people don't know how to talk about sex. If your goal is just to get laid, just take the sex that's offered and don't expect anything more. If you want to find someone to share your kinks, you might have better luck finding people who share your kinks first.

When is a movie just a movie? If you have to ask, it's probably just a movie. If you want to know for sure, ask her.

That's good advice. I assume that nothing is ever on the table, so to speak. But It's been almost 10 years since I've dated and I'm just rusty at picking up the signals.

 

[dreamykitten2]

Have u tried Fetlife?

So I am recently divorced and just started dating again. I'm being super picky with the women I date because, well, I want a woman who has at least some of the kinks I do. I've met a few women who have been awesome in every aspect but bed.

Then there are the women who just get freaked out when we talk about sex.

Dating sucks.

Going to munches in your area would be a good place to start! I think being with like minded persons to start with might help!!!
Kitten

 

[Mean2sluts]

I found Fetlife to be a pain in the ass to navigate. but that's a good point.

thanks kitten.

 

[dreamykitten2]

I found Fetlife to be a pain in the ass to navigate. but that's a good point.

thanks kitten.

You are right it is but if u play around with it for awhile u will at least be comfy with it!
Kitten

 

[dreamykitten2]

Friend me there!

You are right it is but if u play around with it for awhile u will at least be comfy with it!
Kitten

U need to find which groups u want to join that will help also. My addy there is dreamykitten2