I'm bummed: No more boob-play

[BurningMonkey]

So I slip up behind the wife last night at the sink and slide my hands around to caress her boobs, something I've done a thousand times. She has really nice boobs, and I just like to feel them without necessarily meaning or needing to to go anywhere else.

And she says, "Please don't. I don't really like that." I was floored!

I say, "What? You always acted like you liked it."
She says, "Actually, I never really liked it. But it seemed to turn you on, so I allowed it."

Fifteen years--twenty counting the time we were dating--and you're just getting around to telling me this NOW?!

So no more boob-play for me. There's no point in doing something your partner doesn't enjoy.

I'm bummed, to say the least, particularly in light of the fact that I am, and always have been, a boob man.

Any other ladies out there who've done or allowed things that they really haven't liked without ever telling your partner that you didn't like it?

 

[cumunder]

I could live without being titty fucked doesn't really do much for me but men like it so I allow

 

[bobbyinhouston]

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So I slip up behind the wife last night at the sink and slide my hands around to caress her boobs, something I've done a thousand times. She has really nice boobs, and I just like to feel them without necessarily meaning or needing to to go anywhere else.

And she says, "Please don't. I don't really like that." I was floored!

I say, "What? You always acted like you liked it."
She says, "Actually, I never really liked it. But it seemed to turn you on, so I allowed it."

Fifteen years--twenty counting the time we were dating--and you're just getting around to telling me this NOW?!

So no more boob-play for me. There's no point in doing something your partner doesn't enjoy.

I'm bummed, to say the least, particularly in light of the fact that I am, and always have been, a boob man.

Any other ladies out there who've done or allowed things that they really haven't liked without ever telling your partner that you didn't like it?

From a mans perspective, my lovely wife of 25 years is going through her change in life. I have always done the same as you but now it will piss her off at times. 3 out 5 times when I attempt to caress her breasts will draw a rebuke.

I try to do nice things for her like all the honey do's and even try date nights when we can so I can away with touching her. She is not a total cold fish as we are both involved in the lifestyle but at times I do watch my step around her. I do want to spend another 25 years with her.

Good luck in your situation.

 

[StrayKat]

I cannot imagine my husband spending 15 years with me and having to be told what I like or dislike. I dont do things just to please someone. If the pleasing is not mutual, forget it. And I dont think I could be with someone capable of NOT noticing what I like or dont like.

 

[bleublood]

When my wife went through her life changes, it all went out the window. Now there is my hand :-(

 

[BurningMonkey]

I cannot imagine my husband spending 15 years with me and having to be told what I like or dislike. I dont do things just to please someone. If the pleasing is not mutual, forget it. And I dont think I could be with someone capable of NOT noticing what I like or dont like.

Well, see, that's what's bumming me, really. She always ACTED like she liked it.
I guess orgasm isn't the only thing people can fake...

 

[NiceandSmooth]

So I slip up behind the wife last night at the sink and slide my hands around to caress her boobs, something I've done a thousand times. She has really nice boobs, and I just like to feel them without necessarily meaning or needing to to go anywhere else.

And she says, "Please don't. I don't really like that." I was floored!

I say, "What? You always acted like you liked it."
She says, "Actually, I never really liked it. But it seemed to turn you on, so I allowed it."

Fifteen years--twenty counting the time we were dating--and you're just getting around to telling me this NOW?!

So no more boob-play for me. There's no point in doing something your partner doesn't enjoy.

I'm bummed, to say the least, particularly in light of the fact that I am, and always have been, a boob man.

Any other ladies out there who've done or allowed things that they really haven't liked without ever telling your partner that you didn't like it?

I told some of ya'll that not all women like their boobs played with, and it doesn't turn every woman on.

We men think just because we like something that the women like it. That's why I posted a topic before, about which women really enjoy having their boobs played with and worshiped.

Some women it really turns them on. But some women it doesn't really do anything for them. But a lot of women, pretend they like certain things to please their man.

I want a woman that really really, likes her boobs played with and worshiped. The more a woman loves that stuff, the more I want to do it.

 

[Sidney_1]

Perhaps she just meant she hates it when she is at the sink doing something else. Secretly, she might be annoyed that you're not helping to clean up.

I'm from the north, so you know what I like/don't like and I'm not going to fake it.

I like boob play, I think it's very relaxing, but I don't like it when I'm trying in earnest to get a task done. Any other time. .. .sure.

 

[Makitsu_Trinity]

Woman's opinion...

I will be honest. I simply adore attention on my breasts. I love them massaged, caressed, kissed, licked, cupped, whatever! What I hate is that men seem to assume nipples are automatically included in that territory. Honestly, they're not. Just because they are attached does not mean they have the same "feel-good" reactions.

Maybe she just doesn't like the form your attention is taking? Try a different approach, maybe? Just a thought...

 

[lilydance]

Well, maybe she just doesn't like it at that particular time. I can tell you that I don't like it when my husband just reaches over and starts playing with my boobs but i love my boobs played with as a part of foreplay. The way I see it, woman are more like an oven, we need to be preheated. Men are more like a light switch, they can be turned on or off effortlessly.

Don't take it personally, just try a little more preheating. Good luck.

 

[j1greene]

If you do not tell what you like and do not like, we will never know

I cannot imagine my husband spending 15 years with me and having to be told what I like or dislike. I dont do things just to please someone. If the pleasing is not mutual, forget it. And I dont think I could be with someone capable of NOT noticing what I like or dont like.

My ex-wife's standard response the first year or two was that 'She should not need to tell me what she wanted.' She was my first, and she knew it, but apparently she never had to tell any of her past 38 to 50+ boyfriends what she wanted even the other virgins; they all just magically knew from the first day.

After year 2, she just preferred to scream at me for 29 out of 30 days, then she left me after 14 years. Leaving me was the nicest thing she ever did for me.

I have no problem with someone refusing to do something they do not like, but if you either tolerate the behavior or fake enjoyment, men will be to dense to notice unless you say something.

 

[lonely_niceboy]

I've been taught that marriage is a good thing and that a man should aspire to have his own home. It seems that when marriage really works it can be sweet.
But sometimes when I look at real life situations like the ones being posted it truly scares me.

Going back to the immediate topic of this thread, I just cant even imagine how I would feel if after 15-20 years my wife told me every time I made love to her she was merely "putting up with it." What a nightmare....I guess the worst thing about it is all the time you invested in one person, knowing now that they never felt the same way about you.
My true heartfelt sympathies are extended to burning monkey and also to j1greene--i cant imagine what it was like being yelled at and demeaned every day for 14 years.