i'm a dating snob

[Andraste]

i've finally admitted this to myself.

been single...what...three years?
for the first two, i took numbers from guys who gave them, i even went on a few first dates. ok, most of them i never called, or refused to take their calls, or declined a second date.
now i don't even take their numbers.

ok, partly it's because i'm not lonely.
sure, i get horny sometimes...but i LIKE having my bed all to myself damnit!
i just don't miss having someone special. if i need a hug, i've got a dog...and he doesn't leave the toilet seat up!

but that's a reason not to be in a relationship, not a reason not to date...

it's that i'm a snob.
if i can't have someone who blows my socks off then i'll pass.

..................................

so, the question to all you daters...
do you compromise?
do you go out on dates with people who haven't really impressed you that much?
or do you decide within 10 seconds that their looks/accent/views/intellect are not what it takes to spark your interest?

also, to everyone, have you ever been proven wrong?
ever dated someone you weren't really that interested in, only to be pleasantly surprised?

 

[~Avalon~]

I wouldn't call myself a dating snob. But, I'm tremendously picky. Only once in my single life have I gone out on a date with a guy that I wasn't all that in to. It was horrid and I'll never do it again.

I want my socks knocked off. If I don't feel chemistry with someone, I don't see the point in going out with them. Chemistry is there or it's not.

 

[Honeybee80]

I'm no longer dating so I won't answer the questions. I'll just toss my two cents into the ring.

If you're happy being alone, then don't settle for less than you really want.

However, you really have to give a person more than 10 seconds. Come on, people are awkward. A lot of amazing people give crappy first impressions, especially if they are nervous. If the first date wasn't totally horrendeous, I'd give it a second.

 

[NewEnglandGirl]

Yes, I agree with both of you - a duo I am proud to join, by the way!

Even when lonely, I don't like to compromise. If he can't be my best friend, my loyal supporter, exciting and challenging to be with,and an amazing lover, I don't want to play along.

 

[Andraste]

I wouldn't call myself a dating snob. But, I'm tremendously picky. Only once in my single life have I gone out on a date with a guy that I wasn't all that in to. It was horrid and I'll never do it again.

I want my socks knocked off. If I don't feel chemistry with someone, I don't see the point in going out with them. Chemistry is there or it's not.

yes, but i can count on the fingers of one hand the amount of times i've found chemistry in my life.

good job i like being single eh?

 

[Fitness_Freak]

I don't see anything wrong with your attitude at all....

You have a right to be happy and set your own standards...

Go forth and be happy !

 

[Honeybee80]

Not to get too heavy or anything but... being picky is fine, as long as you're not using being picky as an excuse to avoid intimacy. (Not making judgements, or pointing fingers, just stating a fact)

Chemistry is a funny thing.. sometimes it's there from the begining and sometimes it just bops you on the head one day.

I had a friend years ago, that would drink beer and play cards with me every Friday night. This went on for eight months with no chemistry at all. Then one night, we just had one of those moments. We just stared at each other for a long time and then started making out like crazy. We ended up dating for a while.

 

[Andraste]

Not to get too heavy or anything but... being picky is fine, as long as you're not using being picky as an excuse to avoid intimacy. (Not making judgements, or pointing fingers, just stating a fact).

if a person is happy single, then why would avoiding intimacy be a bad thing?

i don't really like intimacy.

 

[unregistered]

 

[richard_daily]

i've finally admitted this to myself.

been single...what...three years?
for the first two, i took numbers from guys who gave them, i even went on a few first dates. ok, most of them i never called, or refused to take their calls, or declined a second date.
now i don't even take their numbers.

ok, partly it's because i'm not lonely.
sure, i get horny sometimes...but i LIKE having my bed all to myself damnit!
i just don't miss having someone special. if i need a hug, i've got a dog...and he doesn't leave the toilet seat up!

but that's a reason not to be in a relationship, not a reason not to date...

it's that i'm a snob.
if i can't have someone who blows my socks off then i'll pass.

..................................

so, the question to all you daters...
do you compromise?
do you go out on dates with people who haven't really impressed you that much?
or do you decide within 10 seconds that their looks/accent/views/intellect are not what it takes to spark your interest?

also, to everyone, have you ever been proven wrong?
ever dated someone you weren't really that interested in, only to be pleasantly surprised?

I am pretty much the complete opposite. I have slowed down, but I was going on at least 2 dates a week most of the summer and fall.

I can typically tell within 10 minutes if I'm going to have interest in someone, but sometimes they'll surprise you. I met a woman who I had absolutely no interest in, she told me within 20 minutes that she was bipolar, all sorts of family problems, etc... So I wrote her off, but we went out to eat anyways, and got to talking and she was quite interesting. I wouldn't want to get romantically involved with her perhaps (not just because of being bipolar, but because i didn't click with her), but I still talk to her.

I have compromised in the sense that I go on second dates with people I know I don't want to be in relationships with. However, I do my best not to lead anyone on. I am typically a make-out slut, but I don't go much beyond that usually unless there is some sort of connection.

I think there's probably a good middle ground between the two of our styles. Maybe you need to start giving your numbers to guys instead of waiting for them to come to you?

 

[Andraste]

Is this a cry for dates?


I don't know it they are in season.

do i get to shoot them and taxiderm them?

because that's the overriding impulse men are creating this morning.

 

[Andraste]

I think there's probably a good middle ground between the two of our styles. Maybe you need to start giving your numbers to guys instead of waiting for them to come to you?

i should give out my number to men who don't interest me?

that makes no sense.

 

[richard_daily]

i should give out my number to men who don't interest me?

that makes no sense.

Obviously not to guys who don't interest you. But the guys that are pursuing you seem to not be able to have your interest, so why not be proactive about it?

You know... Modern.

 

[NewEnglandGirl]

For some of us, time is tight... we have to prioritize what we do. I would rather be alone and relaxing (or working) at home than out to dinner with someone I am not attracted to mentally. The physical attraction can come with time, but if the brain ain't there, it is a no-go. I work a lot of hours, and need a reason to make time for someone.

 

[Andraste]

Obviously not to guys who don't interest you. But the guys that are pursuing you seem to not be able to have your interest, so why not be proactive about it?

You know... Modern.

why?
i'f i'm happy single, why do people think i need to go looking?

it.makes.no.sense

 

[TANG GOD]

you're a complicated woman who in reality is making things harder on herself. go ahead be lonely. nobody is stopping you. you're just a dirty waste of vag.

 

[richard_daily]

why?
i'f i'm happy single, why do people think i need to go looking?

it.makes.no.sense

You don't.. but if you meet someone that interests you, what's the harm in pursuing it?

 

[exec1101]

why?
i'f i'm happy single, why do people think i need to go looking?

it.makes.no.sense

Absolutely. If someone is happy being single, that is the ideal situation for them. Should someone very interesting come along, great. If not, at least in my own personal case, I am always happier being alone than being with someone uninteresting. The unending pressure from friends and society at large that we should all be with someone else, is bullshit.

 

[TANG GOD]

Absolutely. If someone is happy being single, that is the ideal situation for them. Should someone very interesting come along, great. If not, at least in my own personal case, I am always happier being alone than being with someone uninteresting. The unending pressure from friends and society at large that we should all be with someone else, is bullshit.

i bet you're not much to look at anyways - so it works either way.

 

[Lycantil]

Chemistry is not always a good thing if you are attracted to the wrong type of people for you.

If you happy being single that is pretty cool. Good luck Andraste!

 

[Andraste]

you're a complicated woman who in reality is making things harder on herself. go ahead be lonely. nobody is stopping you. you're just a dirty waste of vag.

but that's the point...i don't feel lonely.

if i want a hug, i've got pets.
if i want orgasms, i've got toys.
if i want to talk, i've got friends & family.

and none of them leave the toilet seat up, snore or drink milk from the carton.

 

[Andraste]

You don't.. but if you meet someone that interests you, what's the harm in pursuing it?

not an issue until i meat someone interesting.

*right hook to the ego*

 

[richard_daily]

not an issue until i meat someone interesting.

*right hook to the ego*

you spelled meet wrong

 

[TANG GOD]

but that's the point...i don't feel lonely.

if i want a hug, i've got pets.
if i want orgasms, i've got toys.
if i want to talk, i've got friends & family.

and none of them leave the toilet seat up, snore or drink milk from the carton.

yeah, whatever. i'm sure your pets will tell you what you need to know.

selfish loon cunt.

 

[b-slave]

I have a basement full of girls like you.