if your online lover found someone in RL

[perks]

would he/she leave you completely?

If you are married and your online lover is single, and they meet someone and fall madly in love. What becomes of you?

 

[juicylips]

Good questions!!!!

Ok...

If my online lover were single, but then found a r/l lover I would be ok and probably happy for him. After all, r/l IS r/l, ya know??

Would he leave me?? I think it would depend on whether he was satisfied with her or not. How much of a void I filled in his fantasy life, etc.

Cassidy

 

[cymbidia]

You get left.

To some degree, you get left behind.

Either they want to be monogamous with the new everyday world lover, in which case, you get completely left behind.
-or-
The want to spend more time with the new everyday world lover, in which case you get less time, and you get partially left behind.

There don't seem to be many avenues open in this scenario besides those.




I don't have online lovers at all anymore so this question is academic in my case.

 

[perks]

Re: You get left.

Either they want to be monogamous with the new everyday world lover, in which case, you get completely left behind.

this sucks.

 

[rexfelis]

I hope that my online lover knows she is very important to me, and that if she found someone in RL who made her happy, then her happiness would take priority over our relationship.

One way or the other, I am hoping that someday in the future I can go get her and if she is not still available and/or interested, at least try to win her.

 

[perks]

I hope that my online lover knows she is very important to me, and that if she found someone in RL who made her happy, then her happiness would take priority over our relationship.

One way or the other, I am hoping that someday in the future I can go get her and if she is not still available and/or interested, at least try to win her.

even if that person doesn't even want to talk to you anymore, because they're trying to do this whole RL relationship?

When do Online feelings become as real as RL feelings?

 

[Moridin187]

Had it happen to me before. She sent me an email one day telling me she'd always been in love with this guy and never really loved me and now she was with him. Never heard from her again.

 

[perks]

Had it happen to me before. She sent me an email one day telling me she'd always been in love with this guy and never really loved me and now she was with him. Never heard from her again.

so what did you do to get over it? errrrm..or have you?<if this is too much of me being nosy, tell me to shaddup>

 

[Moridin187]

so what did you do to get over it?

Lots of angry music
Lots of pot
Lots of whoring myself out online

And yeah, I'm over it now, and if I didn't want people to ask, I wouldn't have brought it up

 

[sigh]

When do Online feelings become as real as RL feelings?

the online feelings are absolutely as real...or at least they were (are) in my case

online love is a very confusing, very frustrating (and yet so very rewarding) experience...and when it's complicated with a real life lover, it's dizzying

i don't even like using the term "real life" lover because the online lover is so very real too

still sorting it out if you haven't noticed

 

[Cheyenne]

When do Online feelings become as real as RL feelings?

For some of us, they are the same from the very beginning.

 

[perks]

Lots of angry music
Lots of pot
Lots of whoring myself out online

And yeah, I'm over it now, and if I didn't want people to ask, I wouldn't have brought it up

if that person tried to get in contact with you right now, what would you say to them?

 

[April]

Feelings are feelings, whether it's online or off.
Saying they are not real is a cop out and a lie.
We all deserve better than that.

 

[april-wine]

My .02 cents.....

you met online, you bonded online, you shared intimate moments online.....or on the phone, or in voice chat......

personally, feelings whatever they may be are real no matter where they start.......is this real life? Yes, What you see here is me....I do not distinguish between online or real life, I haven't that capacity......we may not be sitting in my kitchen drinking coffee, but if we were I would be the same person.....

 

[TigerClaw]

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[T.H. Oughts]

If I could not for some reason be with my lover in RL and they were single I would be ok about them finding someone that they could actually hold in their arms and spend sensual time with..... I would back away to give them the space they needed.

But of course I would be sad because if they were my online lover in the first place, that would mean they were a very special person... their mind, body and soul

 

[perks]

Re: I suppose it depends on the rl they found...

if it is only an on line lover it depends solely on the rl partner that was recently met. Can he/she accept it? Luckily My Online Lover is my rl lover. Hmmm, Gots the best of both worlds, eh?

yes you do.

 

[Silverlily]

I hope that my online lover knows she is very important to me, and that if she found someone in RL who made her happy, then her happiness would take priority over our relationship.

What he said.

That situation can also draw the line between love and lust. The only online lover I've ever really had is getting married very soon. Due to the fact our relationship was so sexual in nature, we decided it was best to break communication.

It sucks, I miss him, but I am happy for him. He and his soon to be wife are perfect for each other and deserve a chance for that to grow uninterupted. It's the least I can do for him.

 

[april-wine]

Re: Re: You get left.

this sucks.

hmmmmmm hugsssss perky

 

[Moridin187]

if that person tried to get in contact with you right now, what would you say to them?

Probably something along the lines of:
"What do you want whore?"

 

[perks]

Re: Re: Re: You get left.

hmmmmmm hugsssss perky

thanks for the hugs, but seriously this is not about me, well at the moment anyway.

 

[Elizabeth]

When do Online feelings become as real as RL feelings?

They always were one in the same for me. I think I would be pretty crushed but since I can't have a R/L relationship with my online lover, then that's the chance I take.

 

[lovetoread]

Online love is real. I think to say it is not is doing yourself a disservice.

If your partner finds someone else in r/l then it isnt "real" for that person,not you. I would let him go,but it would break my heart.

 

[april-wine]

Probably something along the lines of:
"What do you want whore?"

ouch that hurts.........

 

[perks]

ouch that hurts.........

maybe that was his pet name for her.......