If You Have Children....

[juicylips]

In all honesty, do you prefer one above the others?

Not necessarily love one more than the other, but enjoy one more?

I'm always haunted by that one scene in Sophies Choice where she has to decide right on the spot whether to give up her son or her daughter to the Nazis.

I know. Not a typical jl thread.
jl

 

[Cibo]

I don't have any kids...but I hope to God that I won't favor one over the other. Even tho I will like most people favor anything over anything else. Only time will tell.

 

[juicylips]

Cibs......do you eventually want children?

 

[Cibo]

Yup, not sure on 2 or 3 yet tho.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Every child has their own personality. So you will get on better in some areas with one child than the other. But in most families it evens itself out in the end.

But when it comes down to it you love them all and treat them even...

 

[Debbie]

I have two boy chilluns, 14 and 9.
I try not to favour one above the other.
My oldest says my youngest is the favourite
and my youngest says I'm always on the oldest
one's side? Maybe they are both right!

I find my youngest is more easy going, fun loving
and down to earth. My oldest is a good kid, but a little
annoying and shy. lol But that's 'cos he has hormone issues.
Teenagers.


I enjoy my youngest 'cos he's a thinker and wants to invent stuff, always thinking, questioning, learning.

I enjoy my oldest because he is developing a great sense of
humour and loves practical jokes.


Both have completely different personalities.

I had a terrible nightmare once where we were
caught in a flood and I only had time to reach one
child. I couldn't choose and woke up crying.

 

[juicylips]

I had a terrible nightmare once where we were
caught in a flood and I only had time to reach one
child. I couldn't choose and woke up crying.

I think those kinds of dreams are the epitome of a true nightmare.

Hugs, debs.

 

[horny_giraffe]

I was clearly not my mother's favorite child. But I lucked out because I believe I'm my father's favorite child. There's one sibling who is the semi-favorite of both, and one who is my mother's favorite, and then there is the last...

Fortunately, my mother was always scrupulously fair to us. So I know that she loved us equally--even if she loved some more than others. My dad is less scrupulous--but maybe it just appeared that way to me.

 

[juicylips]

I was clearly not my mother's favorite child. But I lucked out because I believe I'm my father's favorite child. There's one sibling who is the semi-favorite of both, and one who is my mother's favorite, and then there is the last...

Fortunately, my mother was always scrupulously fair to us. So I know that she loved us equally--even if she loved some more than others. My dad is less scrupulous--but maybe it just appeared that way to me.

Morning, hg.

If we have siblings, I think we believe there is some unfairness in how we were treated or loved when compared with them.

 

[horny_giraffe]

Morning, hg.

If we have siblings, I think we believe there is some unfairness in how we were treated or loved when compared with them.

Yes. Part of it is the child's point of view, I suspect. One my small sadnesses is that I never knew my mother as an adult. (She died when I was 19.) I can only ask my father about these things for the adult perspective. But I had as close to a perfect family life as almost anyone has, nowadays, and for that I feel lucky.

 

[Draco]

I'd give my two away in a heartbeat...UGH, teenage girls...who needs em...?

Seriously, I love each of them the same. They each have their own personality and strengths, it makes them who they are....

 

[MissTaken]

I couldn't chose.
No, never.

There are times I feel I am showing more time or attention to one than the other, and it is often true.

It depends on who is more needy, at the time.

My son had a difficult spring and managed to get my time and attention, positive and negative.

He is settled now.

So, my daughter is now going through her own little personal crisis and she gets my time and attention.

But no, I dont' favor one.

There sure are days where it would seem like it to the casual on looker though! Hang on! She has is taking a screw driver to the tv set!

 

[SexySlut2]

I have 4 children, ages 13, 10, 8 and 5 and I don't think I favor one over the others. There are times when each of them have their own extra attention though. Of course, if you were to ask my kids that question, they would undoubtedly say I had a favorite! Which one would be whoever was not in trouble on that particular day.

 

[Soblue]

Good morning!

It's funny how your heart grows with each child you have. You think you love the first one more than anything in the world, then the second and third come along, and you find that you love them just as much.

My oldest and youngest share the same type of personality, they are the clowns, the charmers. They know just how to behave to melt your heart.

My middle child is definitely more complex, wouldn't you know, she's just like her dad! *lol* She and I can butt heads a lot, but she is so, so special and loved very much.

So, it's all different, and all wonderful.

And man JL, I hate watching tear jerkers like Sophie's Chioce! Not my kind of movie, especially if children are involved in the tears.

 

[juicylips]

Good morning!

And man JL, I hate watching tear jerkers like Sophie's Chioce! Not my kind of movie, especially if children are involved in the tears.

Morning!

I have never watched that movie again. It's been over ten years ago.

 

[calypso_21]

What an interesting question JL! I have a son and a daughter, 2 and 5 respectively. I don't favor or love one over the other. I'm lucky enough that I get to spend time alone with each of them durning each and every day so that they feel they have "Mommy and Me" time. Each has their favorite things to do during that time.

It is really difficult to say that one may get more attention over the other. That rarely happens, I can't say it doesn't at all but the times are few and far between. The three of us are very close. If anything they give each other more attention than ME!! Which I absolutely love. To sit back and watch them interact with each other is one of my greatest joys.

 

[someplace]

Good Morning JL. I have 4 kiddos, mostly grown. I enjoy the grown ones much more than the teenage ones. I think the baby is going to be the death of me yet. I love them equally, although I don't think I like them equally. (That changes from time to time.) My oldest is my favorite all around, because he's a really interesting person, more than slightly off center, but really really sweet and considerate at heart.

 

[woodgie2]

In January a close friend of mine had a daughter. She told me that she's scared to have more in case she starts to favour one over the other(s).

I can see how it can be a parent's fear. I don't have kids so I really don't know what it's like, nor do I think I can imagine it.

I just hope it doesn't actually happen to me, not that I have any evidence that it ever happens to anyone anyway.

 

[PepperminTrish]

Wow ........... very interesting topic/thread JL!

My situtuation is a bit unique as far as treating/loving all of my sons the same. If you ask my two youngets they'd answer in a heartbeat that I love the oldest the most and they've even asked me if I do. This came as a perfect time for me to sit down with each of them and explain again why I do so much for Nicholas and that I realize it may SEEM as if I love him more but I don't. Then I go on to talk about the wonderful things that I see in each of them and reaffirm how much I love them also.

It's a balancing act and most of the time, I'm pretty sure that I screw it up but on those days when I do get it right, it's pure bliss.

I can't imagine having to actually choose between my children as the Sophie had to do. I shudder to even think of it.

 

[RawHumor]

I have two kids. One's 2 1/2 and the other is almost 5 months old.

The toddler is more fun right now, because she can do new things every day. She plays games with you and she can play by herself too. Sometimes just watching her is amazing and joyful.

The baby is just now getting to the point where she'll actively interact with you.

To be honest, I prefer one on some days on the other on other days.

 

[lost]

i only have one. i don't know how it would be if i ever had another (not that it is going to happed). i would hope i wouldn't favor one over the other.

 

[Backyard sweaty]

Draco said it best for me, everyday is a "world ending" crisis, LOL.

But I can easily see enjoying one over the other and I do it often. Every kid has their likes and dislikes so it depends on what we are doing at the time.

The trick is making sure I go to the same amount of movies as I do sporting events.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

I have 2. I think I love them both equally. They both have their trying times, but it doesn't last long.

 

[juicylips]

Wow ........... very interesting topic/thread JL!

It's a balancing act and most of the time, I'm pretty sure that I screw it up but on those days when I do get it right, it's pure bliss.

You are a terrific mom! Your boys are very fortunate to have you taking care of them.

Hope you have a terrific weekend, sweet pea.

 

[bad kitty]

I love them both more than I could ever imagine, but my daughter is 2 and more fun than my 5 month old. Go figure. he is getting fun now though.