If you could.....would you?

[eatinggrapes]

On the curious side, I have a two part question.....

Who are the people that you fantasize about being sexually intimate with? I'm doubting that too many people really indulge thoughts of celebraties, but perhaps they do. So who is it....a neighbor? spouses best friend? high school or college secret crush? high school or college boyfriend/girlfriend? your child's teacher? your doctor? Who do you lust after????

Second part, when you are being most honest with yourself.....not with the self you want to think you are or have others think you are......would you really take the opportunity to be intimate with them.....if you knew nothing would ever develop out of it and no one would ever know?

 

[Delta Boy]

To the first part:

I fantasized about one woman for a long time. For years, in fact. She hardly noticed I was alive in a sexual sense. She was a celebrity of sorts. She was also my friend, my confidant, and my professional partner.

To the second part:

I finally did get her and it was everything I wanted and more. I was scared to death. Why the hell would a woman like that want a man like me ? But she did. Miracles do happen!

Would I tell anyone? Hell, yeah. I'm going to marry her.

Dreams do come true.

 

[ReadyOne]

If there was a way to have a good romp with <insert list of names> and not cause any problems with my SO or others, I would jump at the chance.

Isn't this a no-brainer?

 

[homunculus]

If you've lost that part of your brain having to do with trust, loyalty and respect for your significant other, then, yes, it's a no-brainer. For others, issues around betrayal are too painful to make realizing the fantasy an easy option.

 

[eatinggrapes]

I'm curious about who the people are that are fantasized about.....specifically. Not names, of course, as what point would that serve....but my fantasies tend to center around one person primarily....a specific person from my past.....I'm curious if there are others who spend so much of their fantasy life around one particular person.....actually another one has entered the mix as of late, too.

It's definitely not a no brainer....there are all sorts of ramifications when acting upon fantasies.....even if no one knew....not the least of which is living with the choices made and the realities they create.

 

[midwestyankee]

Re: Who's the object of your fantasy?

I have a short roster of women I see in the neighborhood about whom I fantasize often. The qualifications: they don't really know me, they share some attractive features, and I see them often enough (one I see a few times a week, others much less so) to keep the images fresh in my head.

Since joining Lit I've also added a couple of others to the list, but with mostly fictitious avatars it's tough to get the right image in one's head.

And no, I can't imagine doing anything but fantasizing.

 

[Icingsugar]

Funny, I don't think I've never really fantasised about any real person.

Well, of course there are some general thoughts about how it would be to sneak off on a quickie with random women I meet, or just admire as the pass me on the street. You know, the "she looks like a moaner" kind of musings.

No, there have always been quite imaginary women in my bed, in my head.

Two exceptions. I had loads of imaginary sex with this one girl in school who I had a major crush on. But she was spoken for, and I wasn't really enough in the in-crowd to dare to ask her for a date. And the same thing happened a couple of years later with another girl, who I did ask out. So we bumped around for real too.

But to answer your second question: How the hell would I know? First of all there is no particular girl in question, more places, situations and stuff with pretty, but nondescript women. But even if there were someone in particular, I have no idea how I'd react. I'd like to think I'd back off, since I'm engaged to a walking wet dream already. (Who I love like nuts, and who on occation have acted out a few fantasies of her and of mine with me. )

But you know, I'm just a big, dumb ape like the rest of you.

 

[RunicRath]

I'm not really taken at the moment, so given the chance, yes, I would go for it. It wouldn't matter to my SO, for the simple fact that I haven't got one.

There's a guy I know in Texas that I used to cyber with, and we figured we'd get together someday (which fizzled out into friendship). If I had the opportunity to be with him now, I most definitely would, I still think he's the sexiest piece of man I've ever known.

 

[Chuckwrox]

When I'm masterbating and fantasizing about a single individual, I have to say that it's my wife. Really. I love the way that she touches me, she's a very sexy woman. I don't fantasize about celebreties or cow-orkers or neighbors. I've tried, but they just don't turn me on like my wife does. Even in my fantasies they don't!

Unfortunately, she's a little turned off by her 'saftig' figure, I think. So I wind up fantasizing about her more than I wind up actually DOING IT with her. And with this baby due next April (Yay!), that's not likely to change for the better, either! But that's what I signed up for, so I'll just choke the chicken more often and get through it, winding up with a new little girl/boy and a stronger right arm!

 

[BlueSugar]

These thoughts come and go, I've made mistakes and so have past lovers with acting upon these thoughts and plans.

I now have an open relationship, so all is well

 

[sheath]

Dreams do come true.

Indeed, they do.

Okay, who do I fantasize about? Gawd, what a list that is, lol. There are a few very fine guitarists that I can imagine in my bed, and I do that imagining quite often. So far as my favorite fantasy, it's usually my man, with a third or fourth guy thrown in for good measure. The third or fourth guy is always a musician. I just have that kind of fetish, but of course, everyone knows that by now.

If I could have anyone I wanted, with no repercussions, would I do it? No way. Maybe nobody else would know, but I would, and I'm the only one who has to face myself in the mirror.

Some fantasy lovers are best left right there...in the decadent bedroom of my fantasy world.

S.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[pplwatching]

Gotta agree

Okay, who do I fantasize about? Gawd, what a list that is, lol. There are a few very fine guitarists that I can imagine in my bed, and I do that imagining quite often.

Musicians do seem to have a certain creative spark. A girl who likes to improvise and experiment would definately be on the top of my list. Musicians are also pretty passionate once their in the groove. It's also a big plus that she can beta test my software ;-)

 

[warrior queen]

who do i fantasize about?

well, there's a whole list of people!
guys from my past - women from my past - generally real-life people who i've had brief (or longer) encounters with - also sometimes people i meet casually in my day life.
but they're all 'real' people - i have never fantasized about celebs.
oh, and there are a few people here at lit i've had a thought or two about!

would i fuck them?

hell YES!
life is way too short for me to go to my deathbed regretting a single thing.
and if there were no repurcussions, i'd probably fuck them more than once!

 

[Bystander]

did fantisize about a teacher once but other than that I've never really fantasized about a real person. They're usually made up
I do however, when I'm bored, draw conclusions about various girls on the street/in the bus/etc as to which positions I would like to have sex with them.

Would I have fucked my teacher...dunno, probably only if she seduced me first. No way I'd ever feel confident to make the first move.

 

[ReadyOne]

One of the easiest ways to get onto my "fantasy" list is to be a female associated with some client of mine.

The bookkeeper for which I upgrade her accounting package. The office manager who had me install new machines in her office. The real-estate agent who needs a high speed network connection setup. The neighbor who want some tutoring so she can prepare a cookbook for publishing. Someone who works where my SO does and needs a larger hard drive. And especially the wife of a guy who has me come to me several times to fix their machine, upgrade the software, set up a home page for their business, and clean up a virus infection. Really have to watch myself to not start using innuendos and endearments with her!

Alas. Business is always business, and fantasy starts after I leave. But it gets hard when some of them really want to flirt with you!

 

[CelticFrog]

Nah, I wouldn't...

But oh boy, have I learned in the past few DAYS alone that there are in fact people I DO fantasize about. Never knew it before, in all honesty. Epiphanies happen, I guess.

I think I am more likely to answer the question of acting on a fantasy before the question about who I fantasize about. No. Flat out. No. Not in a million years. Why? Because number one, I seriously doubt any fantasizing I have ever done or will ever do is anywhere near realistic. Not even close. I would hate to be disappointed like that. Number two; like Sheath said, I am the one who has to look at myself in the mirror and I just couldn't face myself afterwards. There is no such thing as 'nobody would know' in my book, because I would have to tell my SO. I understand that having an open relationship or being poly can work for a great many people, and I admire them for that. However, I could not morally (my morals, nobody else's) accept myself if I were to ever cheat on my partner.

Now, having answered that question more than I probably should have, there ARE a few people I have fantasized about. My husband and I had a conversation just the other day about how he had a fantasy about a threesome with us and his exwife (she was visiting us at the time, we're all friends). I had to admit then that I had had the same fantasy. Would I ever do it? No. Would he if given the opportunity? In his words, "I'm a stereotypical male who would jump at that opportunity! Just think of what I could tell the guys at work!!!" I have had fantasies about men I was friends with in the past, men I have had in the past (what could have been), men I am friends with now, women I have been friends with, and occasionally even complete strangers. Ironically, the strangers have never been men. Hm.

Just one more glimpse into my head that I'm just starting to be able to see into myself.
Ang

 

[DirtyJJ]

I have fantasized about various people here and there over time, mostly brief thoughts about what they might be like in bed. But recently, I have met someone who I have fantasized about more than anyone I can remember in a long time, at least since I have been married. I work with this man, and we are friends but there is something about him that makes me want him VERY badly.

Given the chance, would I act on it? I have asked myself this question over and over. I am married, and so is he - so it would require crossing a huge line that I had never thought I could before. But if I am being completely honest here... there is a small chance that I would do it, as much as I tell myself that it would be wrong. I have never met anyone who makes me want to act this way. I keep telling myself that the fantasy is better than the reality; it's not likely that the opportunity will present itself anyway. But if I was staring him in the face and if the temptation was there, I don't know if I would say No.

 

[ReadyOne]

Perhaps it's a good thing that I never get the opportunity for a no-strings encounter with a fantasy object. I've promised my SO not to do anything with any opportunity, even if it's shoved in my face.

But, I'd also regret not doing it because I would ache to play so bad.

(Remember, by definition, there are no external problems if one goes ahead. The consequences would only be what happens inside one's head.)

This approach-avoidance conflict could shut me down completely.

My personal fantasy goes something like my SO arranges a couple of GFEs for me with someone who trips all the lust triggers I have and matches my sexual appetite, and then we have one where SO joins in. And of course, everyone feels incredibly good afterwards.

 

[Tchalla]

The woman that I have been fantasizing about lately is my next door neighbor. We have been friendly for a few years but I never really fantasized about her.

This summer I saw her in a swimsuit for the first time and ever since then I have wondered what she is like in bed.

Would I do anything about it? No I wouldn't. She is married with 2 young kids and I couldn't do it because of that.

 

[dp69]

Great questions. I fantasized mainly about people I know as friends and/or co-workers. My bigest fantasy though is when I watch a tape I made of my wife while undressing at various times this leads to some great fantasies.

Would I go for it if there was no risk I have wondered this several times and wrestled with the thought but ultimatly I do not think I could live with myself after the fact due to the sense of betraying my wife so NO I WOULD NOT>

 

[Carnus]

On the curious side, I have a two part question.....

Who are the people that you fantasize about being sexually intimate with? I'm doubting that too many people really indulge thoughts of celebraties, but perhaps they do. So who is it....a neighbor? spouses best friend? high school or college secret crush? high school or college boyfriend/girlfriend? your child's teacher? your doctor? Who do you lust after????

Second part, when you are being most honest with yourself.....not with the self you want to think you are or have others think you are......would you really take the opportunity to be intimate with them.....if you knew nothing would ever develop out of it and no one would ever know?

well I won't say who I wold lust after,, but yes I have fantasies, mostly of women that are normal everyday people ,, and one in particular from here that has me libido raised, and to the second part, yes, if we both knew and understood what it meant I would do it.

To me intiimacy is something that can be shared with a frined, someone you have develped a tender feeling toward yet realzing for whatever reason that a physical relationship may be all you can offer or they can offer, if that feeling of desire is strong enogh and no one would be hurt then I think why not, enjoy the person you can be with and love them for the moment, even if the love is only physical.

Carnus

 

[warrior queen]

On the curious side, I have a two part question.....

Who are the people that you fantasize about being sexually intimate with? I'm doubting that too many people really indulge thoughts of celebraties, but perhaps they do. So who is it....a neighbor? spouses best friend? high school or college secret crush? high school or college boyfriend/girlfriend? your child's teacher? your doctor? Who do you lust after????

Second part, when you are being most honest with yourself.....not with the self you want to think you are or have others think you are......would you really take the opportunity to be intimate with them.....if you knew nothing would ever develop out of it and no one would ever know?

i think maybe the question here has been read wrong.....

...if you knew nothing would ever develop out of it and no one would ever know?

i took that to mean that not only would there be no repurcussions from anyone involved, but i personally would also have no guilt feelings or mental anguish as a result of it.

is this what you meant?

 

[cjbj]

fanta

I have found different fanta's for different women. Athletic women deserve one type, Soccer moms another etc.
Better question might be who haven't I (fantasized), or wouldn't I (fanta). Dreamin' is free...

 

[Lust Engine]

I think that's why fantasies are so wonderful to have. I still have them all the time. From ex-girlfriends to celebrities, I can still rummage through my sordid imagination and think about what it'd be like.

With some of the old GF's, it could be a possibility to hook up again, but there's always an emotional hurdle to overcome.

With celebrities, odds are slim and needless to say I don't need to get a restraining order slapped on me for stalking.

But yep, I fantasize all the time from just about any delicious piece of eye candy that can stroll past me.