If not a collar, then what?

[arctic-stranger]

Ok, i am just not crazy about collars...call me untraditional, a non comformist, or just leery of confusing it with a clerical collar, but i dont like them.

But i would like some kind of ceremony and way to indicated a Maitre/esclave relationship with the French Girl.

What other non-traditional ways have some of you formally and symbolicly indicated your relationships?

And for the record, i cannot have a tattoo. I am allergic to ink, and the thougtht of piercing turns us both off.

 

[graceanne]

How about branding?

 

[Lilith]

What about matching jewelry but not necessarily rings. A bracelet for you and an anklet for her ~or~ Matching silver cuff types, maybe, one for your wrist and one for her upper arm. I also think stone jewelry is extremely symbolic, you could have something custom made.

http://healing.about.com/od/gemstonesaz/

http://www.owlsdottir.com/elements/rock/quick_reference_to_stone_propert.htm

http://www.sobrietystones.com/resources/GemBook/gemstones_meanings.htm

 

[BlondGirl]

Matching keychains.

Got to a booth and get stickers made with a pic of you to together. Stick those on each of your bathroom mirrors.

Get mehndi tattoos.

Buy matching sheets and other bedding.

Join a social SM group together.

 

[serijules]

For a gift for my Domme when we first got together, I gave her two tiny gold eternity rings with our birthstones...garnet for hers, amythest for mine, and sapphire for her other submissive. She wears them on a chain around her neck, and I wear matching ones for her and my own stones.

I've also given them to her other sub, and her subs' sub So everyone in the family has a set with the stones corresponding with our own birthstones and that of the people we belong to/own.

The eternity ring symbolance is very fitting IMO, the birthstones are identifying, and they are very pretty.

Perhaps you can find something similar to that concept that works for you.

Another thought...although you don't like collars, how about a tag? I also wear a dog tag with "property of D" on it, and the date of my collaring. I wear a bracelet as well, as an everyday collar. Jewelery seems to be the most fitting and customizable alternative to me.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

And a collar need not necessarily be a collar. It can also be a necklace with an identifying (to you) charm, e.g. a tiny lock, with the key on your keychain. My almost-ex sub/wife and I also had matching rings made - silver bands with gold handcuffs - that we used for wedding rings. While the marriage is no longer, I still often wear the ring - either on my right hand or my left thumb.

Given the size of my hands and the concomitant size of the ring (14.5), it's a striking emblem of who/what I am, and has drawn both knowing and curious comments. To the curious comments/questions ("That's a neat ring. Are you a cop?") there are a number of potential answers (my favorite: "No, I just like handcuffs," with a smirk and a look directly into her eyes)...

 

[Four_Inch_Heels]

My boys wear gold chains to show My ownership. Only they and I know the significance of that piece of jewelry.

serijules, I love your birthstone ring idea!

 

[Aeroil]

Perhaps, AS, you could get some thing, perhaps a ring or bracelet with a small engraving on it "property of" etc., so as not to be too obvious.

 

[serijules]

My boys wear gold chains to show My ownership. Only they and I know the significance of that piece of jewelry.

serijules, I love your birthstone ring idea!

Here is a picture of the particular mini eternity birthstone rings that I got.

http://www.palmbeachjewelry.com/images/us/local/products/thumb/13564_S.jpg

 

[Guest]

Ok, i am just not crazy about collars...call me untraditional, a non comformist, or just leery of confusing it with a clerical collar, but i dont like them.

But i would like some kind of ceremony and way to indicated a Maitre/esclave relationship with the French Girl.

What other non-traditional ways have some of you formally and symbolicly indicated your relationships?

And for the record, i cannot have a tattoo. I am allergic to ink, and the thougtht of piercing turns us both off.

The folks at Eternity Collars make both matching wrist, and ankle rings...
My Pearl has one of the wrist rings, aquired before I ordered her collar.
Their collars, cuffs, etc are quite nice, high quality, and don't arouse public comment.
Oh, and there isn't much chance of confusing their stuff with anything else...Except perhaps with modern jewelry.
Just don't lose the allen wrenches.

 

[arctic-stranger]

The folks at Eternity Collars make both matching wrist, and ankle rings...
My Pearl has one of the wrist rings, aquired before I ordered her collar.
Their collars, cuffs, etc are quite nice, high quality, and don't arouse public comment.
Oh, and there isn't much chance of confusing their stuff with anything else...Except perhaps with modern jewelry.
Just don't lose the allen wrenches.

Do you know this from experience?

 

[Guest]

Do you know this from experience?

What? About the allen wrenches???
Just a generic statement...that is how they come off..
So that there is no reaily visible joint ... Adds to the attractive appearance quite a bit.

 

[Deadly Guardian]

I agree with Winston I t does not have to be a COLLAR. Anything as long as you both know and understand exactly what it means to each of you. Be it matching tatoos, brands, colars, rings, jewelry. The list for what you can use is emmense. My ex had just a simple sterling colar with a charm on it marking her as mine. Elegant simple and she wore it with everything.

 

[TaintedB]

There's lots of very interesting "straight" jewelry out there. I'll show you something nice I once had. The photos don't do the set justice, but they are 18k gold nude women sculpted in a deco style with diamonds above them. Very delicate looking and the chains which wrap around their bodies are loose, not part of the tiny body sculptures. I was pretty stunned that someone would give me something this nice. Carrera & Carrera, I think.

 

[Iriadne]

Very pretted B!
(And a remarkably apt thread for my life at the moment....) I wear a small velvet collar that locks with the tiny padlock that comes with a luggage set. With the lock to the back and my hair down, it's simply a nice velvet choker. With the lock to the front, it's a statement to the world. The design of this particular collar is more symbolic than actually binding, in that it is very easy to remove without the key.
This particular item is homemade. Take a length of velvet about 3cm longer than your neck measurement and sew tiny channels in each end (works best if you do this by hand). Make sure the channels are wide enough for the lock of your choice. Then simply slip the lock through both channels and presto! The key can be kept by your PYL. If you lose the key you need only take out a few stitches to be free of the collar.
~I

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

So many interesting ideas

I'll add what I have to the fray. Collars don't just have to be, well, "collar-like". LOL. I work in a management position, deal with the public, and wanted something that was appropriate that I could wear but that still was permanent. Yes, I wanted something that was locked on, by him.

I found this collar, which is silver patterned wire, and secures with a special allen wrench.

It is made by Chaotic Creations

~Anelize

 

[Four_Inch_Heels]

Here is a picture of the particular mini eternity birthstone rings that I got.

http://www.palmbeachjewelry.com/images/us/local/products/thumb/13564_S.jpg

Just beautiful, serijules!

 

[esclave_PP]

I echo what's here, I've had a collar like Ane's and regular deco type necklaces. I think anything that is a special momento between M/s is fine. I also wear a leather cuff bracelet, toe rings, and my story of o ring and earings. The ring looks like this: http://www.showoffyourstuff.com/StoryOfOring.htm

 

[crazyivan]

I wear a collar when I am at home with a dog tag on it with property of meagan on it. Though when I go to work or some place else that I am unable to wear a collar, I have a silver necklace that is a chain pattern that my mistress gave me.
Only the two of us know the meaning, but that is all that need to know

 

[h_i_s]

serijules & TaintedB: VERY pretty examples !


i wear a few pieces of jewelry along with His collar, an O-ring, a simple silver bracelet, as well as another bracelet displaying the word, "Master's" (all on my left), as well as a silver & heart shaped black onyx ring (worn on my right).

The item worn can be just about anything, it's the honoring of the symbolism behind the item that is of the most importance.

Attachments below show examples of the silver collar & owner's tattoo, the "Master's" bracelet, as well as His leather collar (with a padlock charm worn on the O ring):

 

[rosco rathbone]

Why not a "mental collar", placed upon the (virtual) neck in a ceremony taking place in imaginal space?

 

[arctic-stranger]

Why not a "mental collar", placed upon the (virtual) neck in a ceremony taking place in imaginal space?

The French Girl and I already have more than enough "virtual" in our relationship. We are both more than ready for some reality, but thanks for the suggestion.

 

[Nyte_BlackRose]

serijules & TaintedB: VERY pretty examples !


i wear a few pieces of jewelry along with His collar, an O-ring, a simple silver bracelet, as well as another bracelet displaying the word, "Master's" (all on my left), as well as a silver & heart shaped black onyx ring (worn on my right).

The item worn can be just about anything, it's the honoring of the symbolism behind the item that is of the most importance.

Attachments below show examples of the silver collar & owner's tattoo, the "Master's" bracelet, as well as His leather collar (with a padlock charm worn on the O ring):

Where did you get the bracelet? I like it, and was thinking of something similar for my next sub perhaps.

 

[h_i_s]

Where did you get the bracelet? I like it, and was thinking of something similar for my next sub perhaps.

my Master could provide you with those details ... Feel welcome to email Him. i'll post His email on my profile (for it will serve a double purpose to include the troll who keeps emailing me repeatatively at present .... lol).

 

[Marquis]

Why not a "mental collar", placed upon the (virtual) neck in a ceremony taking place in imaginal space?

Dick.