If a man sucks a cock, does that make him gay?

[Ekim321]

I just asked that question in another thread and thought it would be a good idea for a new thread.

If a guy sucks a cock, does that make him gay. I'm sure most guys would immediately say yes.

A lot of us guys claim to have that curiosity about what it would be like. I'm one of them. I think that if I ever do suck a cock, it will happen in a mmf threesome. For various reasons. I think if the woman helps me along, you might say gives me a lesson, having me follow her lead, that it would be easier for me to accomplish satisfying that curiosity. It's a scary thing in a way, and it probably shouldn't be. Like I said in the other thread, I think that under certain circumstances, a guy winds up sucking another guy, like in a mmf threesome, he doesn't automatically become gay just because of sucking the cock. He has merely explored another aspect of his sexuality. At least, I keep telling myself that. No, I really believe that, I really do.

Now I want to know if there are any guys that feel the same way, and what do you ladies think about my reasoning.

 

[Lance Hardrock]

You dont "become" gay

in my humble opinion, you don't become gay. Period. You are or you are not. Now, I know that will touch off a stream of replies.

So let me narrow it down, sucking a cock if you are man doesn't make you gay. It's an experience. If a woman licks another woman, it doesn't make her a les either. It is just that, a sexual experience.

And I know, since I've been with 4 or maybe 5 men (hmmm, that one time, was it 2 men or one?) Anyhow, I know what I'm talking about. Trust me, as much fun as it was. And by God, it was hot, I am not gay, never have been and unless all the women disappear, I never will be gay. Actually, I still wouldn't be gay. I'd just be finding the best sex I could under the circumstances.

All you have to do is read my posts to see what forms of sexual experiences I enjoy.

Having any (that is ANY) sexual experience will NOT make you anything, except maybe a better lover.

I know. I know. Most of the men will spam me now, but that is my story and I'm sticking to it.

 

[Ekim321]

I don't know why they would spam ya Lance. I thought that was an honest response.

And I agree, and if I had put more thought and time into my post, I probably made a similiar statement. One does not "become gay".

Thanks again for responding.

 

[Lance Hardrock]

thanks

We'll see. I maybe overreacting here. Most of the guys on lit are pretty cool or at least confident with their own thoughts. Let's see what others say. This is the first poll I have become involved with so early.

 

[SexyChele]

Well, I've only been involved in a MMF once, and the 2 guys didn't get anywhere near each other. So, while I can't offer any real practical knowledge, I can give you one woman's thoughts.

First, no, I don't think that a man sucking another man's cock will make him gay. There are quite a few men who have this curiosity - either giving or receiving - but it is such a taboo subject in our society, that most men either don't say anything or deny it. But, if you look at women, they can enjoy one another, and walk away from the situation considering themselves fully heterosexual. It's an experience that can heighten one's sexuality. I think the key is feeling comfortable with the other person(s) involved. Knowing what they expect, and what you expect, are key. Also knowing boundaries is important as well.

Second, for me personally, I would like to see men enjoying each other. Oh, maybe not TOTALLY into each other - not saying it's "bad", just not sure how I could handle it. But I think some fondling, some sucking, licking both my pussy and another man's cock while he is fucking me - all sounds great to me. And, no, I would not come away from the situation believing either man to be gay. (well, unless one or both had previously admitted to being bi - but that is a different story!)

 

[Lance Hardrock]

with a man and woman

Well, I wouldn't mind being sucked or doing the sucking, but when it comes time to cum, I'd want it be with the woman. Just personal preference.

 

[SlyFox]

I agree

I've got to agree with you guys. Although I've know several gays who have been married and even fathered children, almost without exception they've told me they were really only interested romantically in other men. They obviously could get a hard on and fuck women, but they tell me their thoughts and fantasies were always about men. Although I can and do fantasize about sucking and fucking other men, I definitely prefer women - especially romantically.

My first time sucking a guy was when I was introduced to the idea by a much older man. He asked me if I would like to get a blowjob. I was only about 19 at the time and "dumb as a post". Since I had never had a blowjob by a man (or woman, for that matter), I said, "Sure, do you know any women who do that?"

"Well, does it have to be a woman?" he asked. And, as they say, "The rest is history..." He taught me a LOT about the many varieties and joys of sex.

SlyFox

 

[SexyChele]

Re: I agree

My first time sucking a guy was when I was introduced to the idea by a much older man. He asked me if I would like to get a blowjob. I was only about 19 at the time and "dumb as a post". Since I had never had a blowjob by a man (or woman, for that matter), I said, "Sure, do you know any women who do that?"

"Well, does it have to be a woman?" he asked. And, as they say, "The rest is history..." He taught me a LOT about the many varieties and joys of sex.

SlyFox

I wonder how common this is? I've met and/or talked with several men who have said their very first blowjob came from an older man. Most were extremely embarassed about it, thinking they would be branded in some way. But the more men I talk to, the more it seems this is not that uncommon an occurance.

Sorry, Ekim, if you feel this is "highjacking" the thread. If you think it is, just let me know and I will edit it out.

 

[SlyFox]

Hijacking? Not at all

Sorry, Ekim, if you feel this is "highjacking" the thread. If you think it is, just let me know and I will edit it out.

I don't care what Ekim thinks, as far as I'm concerned you're more than welcome to share your thoughts on this (or any other) topic. I think it's always helpful to have a "woman's" viewpoint on just about anything. - She's ususally gonna express it anyway [just teasing, girl]

SlyFox

 

[heterotic]

I'll repost this here, since its relevant more to this thread than the last one:
If we want to find out for sure, I think we need experimental verification, not a vote. I'm in Georgia too, so if Ekim and I could get together with a female volunteer, we'll spend a weekend together or something and report back on whether it made us gay or not What are some good dates for you?

Here's a couple pics of real me, although I don't have a very good camera, and had no one to take them:
http://members.tripod.com/heterotic_string/mypics/bod.jpg
http://members.tripod.com/heterotic_string/mypics/bod5.jpg

 

[VeryBadGirl]

But doesn't it mean you're bi?

But I think some fondling, some sucking, licking both my pussy and another man's cock while he is fucking me - all sounds great to me. And, no, I would not come away from the situation believing either man to be gay. (well, unless one or both had previously admitted to being bi - but that is a different story!)

So you could have MILD contact and not be bi?

What I mean is, if you prefer woman for romance, but like physical contact with men now and then, aren't you bi? Do you have to have romantic feelings toward your own gender to be bi?

My hub and I have discussed what we thought were bi-curious fantasies. He says he would probably suck a cock (and whatever) if he were really "worked up." He says he doesn't want to kiss a guy, but that cocks do hold a certain fascination for him, and he does like me to play with his ass and can take a pretty good-sized butt-plug. We both like gay porn occasionally. I would like to try being with another woman, but the softness and kissing and breasts are what I think about - I don't have an active mental desire to lick pussy (though I feel I would definitely do it).

So are we bi-curious, or just cock-curious and tit-curious?

VeryConfusedGirl

 

[kinsey2]

I am a 58 y/o MWBiM, happily married guy that fantazies about women and men and have been with more than 50 different men sexually in the last 45 years. I am not into m2m kissing and such but do loove cum. I am oral only and do not request or require recipocal activity. I consider myself bisexual and look for other bi or bi curious guys. I have been married 15 years to a wonderful and sexy women that is everything I want except a hard cock to suck and the prize and cums with one. She knows I have had m2m experiences before meeting her and would consider any sexual activity a breach of our marriage.
I sometimes feel compelled to suck so I am secretive about my bisexual activity.
Cheers, kinsey2

 

[heterotic]

It's a good question. I, myself, wouldn't enjoy kissing 95% of guys out there. But there's been a few, probably less than 10 I've met my whole life, that I thought I could have gotten romantically involved with if circumstances had permitted. I've thought that about a considerably higher percentage of the ladies I've met.

 

[SexyChele]

Re: But doesn't it mean you're bi?

So you could have MILD contact and not be bi?

What I mean is, if you prefer woman for romance, but like physical contact with men now and then, aren't you bi? Do you have to have romantic feelings toward your own gender to be bi?

My hub and I have discussed what we thought were bi-curious fantasies. He says he would probably suck a cock (and whatever) if he were really "worked up." He says he doesn't want to kiss a guy, but that cocks do hold a certain fascination for him, and he does like me to play with his ass and can take a pretty good-sized butt-plug. We both like gay porn occasionally. I would like to try being with another woman, but the softness and kissing and breasts are what I think about - I don't have an active mental desire to lick pussy (though I feel I would definitely do it).

So are we bi-curious, or just cock-curious and tit-curious?

VeryConfusedGirl

I think it all comes down to how you define "bi". The way that I have heard it defined is the desire, romantic or otherwise, to be with people of both sexes. Also, the ability to possibly form lasting, serious relationships with persons of either sex.

After my own experiences, I do like women. I think being with another woman is exciting, erotic, fun, and beautiful. But if I were to never be able to be with another woman again, it truly wouldn't bother me. I prefer men. I like men. I would make a lifetime commitment to a man. For me, women are fun to play with on occasion, men are the ones I would want to be in serious relationships with. So, no, I don't consider myself bi at all. And bi-curious is usually for those who want to experience a person of the same sex, but haven't had the opportunity yet.

So, if I'm not bi, but I still like women, what am I? LOL!!! Still trying to figure that one out! (And, no, for those who may ask, it is not because of societal pressures that I do not "want" to be called "bi") I can appreciate men and women as sexual beings - in both giving and receiving pleasure. But I prefer men, and would consider myself to be heterosexual, but open and willing to be with another woman on occasion.

Okay - so have I confused you even more?

 

[sudsy]

The discomfort here doesn't seem to be with same sex contact so much as it "does it make me gay." Like it's an insult or something bad happening to you, something you could catch from touching another guy. I get that most of the people adding on the thread are broader minded than that, but still. I don't see why the label (or in this case, avoiding the label) should be such a big deal.

 

[SlyFox]

Re: But doesn't it mean you're bi?

So are we bi-curious, or just cock-curious and tit-curious?

VeryConfusedGirl

IMHO - ALL of the above...

SlyFox

 

[SlyFox]

Re: Re: But doesn't it mean you're bi?

I think it all comes down to how you define "bi". Okay - so have I confused you even more?

How about "multi-sexual"? Cover all bases???

SlyFox

 

[spazmodious]

A thought

This is a very interesting debate, me I like the term Omni-sexual.
But to be truely omnisexual I think one would have to find a way to truely have intercourse with ones self, (not just masterbation)
I mean there is always auto falatio for those lucky few fexable enough to pull it off.
But me, I want to clone myself and get it on, I am talking about a full clone that acts and moves just like me,with all my memorys,
and I would take my time trying everyting I could think of sexualy,
sucking,fucking threesomes (m-f-m, m-m-m,) you name it.
I would also like a female clone of myself, the female version of me and do the same thing.

But intill then if someone calls me bi, based solely on the fact that I have had sex with a guy, and no women were present to participte in any way, so be it, I really don't give a rip what people think or what label they put on me.
As long as they don't ruin my fun, live and let live I always say.

 

[camee]

Multi-sexual

It doesn't make any difference what anyone else thinks. Everyone (except Lit people) are so hung up on labels. If you enjoy sucking cock, go for it!! So long as you are safe and are not hurting anyone else you should be able to do whatever you want. In my books what you do in the "bedroom" doesn't make the person that you are. It's the person outside the bedroom that makes you the person you are.

 

[Zidane]

agreed Camee.

also, who are the two idiots that voted yes? :/

 

[zantac666]

who cares do what you like i like to play with my friend and feel his cum run down my hand. And i like to feel his hand around my dick. But i like to cuddle up next to the softness of a women kiss her sweet lips and the warmth of her pussy rapped around my dick. So if that makes me bi so be it.

 

[WhiteRose]

Why is it so much easier for society to accept two women being together than two men? It's not like male homosexuality is a new thing, it's been around since the beginning of documented history...and probably longer. It has been fairly accepted at different times in history, or at least not something to be ostracized for, and I understand the effect the Judeo-Christian values have had on society, but why is more accepted for two women to be together? Just wondering.

And yes, I'm bi-curious and have kissed another woman and am looking forward to doing a lot more with another woman, although my experience to date has been almost exclusively with men.

 

[MasterKT]

Fear seems to be the Key...

In My humble (HAH!) opinion, fear seems to be the key.
Most of us seem to fear being thought of as some certain thing
by other people, usually people who have no real bearing on our life,
or impact on our real lives. Why spend so much time with what others label you?
For myself, I prefer the term pansexual to identify my own curiosities & desires.
I love licking and sucking both cock and pussy, and fucking both pussy and ass.
The gender matters nowhere as much as the true quality of the person, the way
they love themselves & others, the way they laugh & cry, the way they accept me.
I find it much more of a problem being a self identified Dominant to find sex partners,
than it is being a self identified bi or pansexual.
People seem to think that I go around carrying a whip, ready to subjugate everyone
with whom I show sexual interest. I enjoy 'Vanilla' sex as much as any Casper Milquetoast
would, it simply means that I acknowledge that part of My identity as one I favor.
Likewise, I am fem oriented, romantically, though I have had deep relationships with bi & gay men.
Unfortunately, the gay men were far more concerned with my sexual orientation than I was with
theirs. It seems that male bisexuals are often vilified in both the Homo & hetero sexual communities,
and considered as people who are too weak to make up their minds one way or another.
I've found much more prejudice toward bisexuals in the Gay community than in straight society,
despite their protestations of greater tolerance for diversity.

Frankly, I'd just like to find some friends in My area to fuck, and be fucked by. Reasonably intelligent individuals
who don't spend their time worrying about sexual identities, and don't worry about whether
I have perfect teeth. Being 43, I'm fast developing feet of clay, and would like most of all to be accepted, held & loved for who I am, a Guy who works, lives, occasionally has sex with others, and likes to write dirty stories about Myself &
My Lady, among others.
So, I guess what I'm getting at is, do what you enjoy, with those who have similiar likes, and don't spend your time worrying about what others are doing, as long as they're enjoying themselves, and not hurting you.
Remember, everyone you see is your neighbor, and love them as you love yourself.

Ciao! MasterKT

"Yes Virginia, even Santa gets pimples on his butt..." - Me

 

[Thor69]

Gay or BI?

Straight means you only have sex with the opposite sex.
BI means you enjoy sex with either gender.
Gay/Lesbian means you only have sex with the same sex.

I am bi. I am 51/49% split. If there were a male and a female standing in front of me and I could have sex with either one, but only one, I would choose the female.

I was once curious...I wondered what it would be like. Then I tried it and it was hot and fun...so I did it again and that confirmed my thoughts and feelings. Man, am I glad I did. It has opened another world to enjoy.

Sex and romance are not always partners. I am very happily married to a wonderful woman. I am committed to her and we are romantically one. Sex can be totally separate...sex is not love, it is sex. Keep it simple and enjoy!

 

[VeryBadGirl]

Ah soooooo

OK, well, that's all about as clear as mud! To clarify my feelings, I'm not really worried or concerned about labels, I just wanted to know what bi meant, and I guess it means different things to different people! Kind of like "polite" "beautiful" and "reasonable."

I didn't want to be picky about the question (I knew what you meant), but I think that if a gay man sucks a cock, it means he's gay. If a bi man sucks a cock, he's bi. And if a hetero man sucks cock, he's ... hetero or bi?

Maybe the question should read, "If a man sucks his first cock and enjoys it very much, could it make him never want another pussy?"

VBG (do I have to tell you I'm a technical editor? )