Ideas for a 3-way Date

[Luna_Bella]

My husband and I have been discussing the idea that I like women and that I would enjoy a 3some with an other girl, At first he was not too keen about it but we discussed some more and he finally came to the conclusion that it would definetly turn him on to see me with an other woman and that he would enjoy it. A few weeks ago he formely asked me to find us a "playmate". I started laughing because the chances for me to find other girls willing for a 3some (in my opinion anyways) are pretty slim.....

Well, here is the deal... one of my friend came forward (although I have never discussed my fantasies with her her or made any comments regarding this matter).......and, surprise! wants us to go for a date. (I always knew She liked my man but never figured she was interested in me!)

Now what should we do.... I don't feel like a dinner and movie
kinda date........

so the question is Ladies ,if you were to go on a 3-way date what would you like the evening to be like?? (and it really doesn't have to end up in the bedroom, first, we all need to discuss the technicalities, I want it to be a great experience for all of us)

 

[infinity706]

So, what's wrong with dinner and a movie? Just because it's something "everybody does" doesn't make it necessarily bad. If you're really looking for this to go toward a threesome, though, you can't go wrong with a game night. Afterall, it very often leads to strip [game].

 

[bebe42081]

i would do dinner and drinks. maybe some dancing. dinner would be good for discussing things(and you're totally right about setting ground rules first) and drinks and dancing to get the mood going. my husband and i have had a few threesomes but we never did a date thing. we just did it lol. if you have any other questions feel free to pm me! i would be glad to answer anything!

 

[Luna_Bella]

Thanks for your ideas !
game night I suppose would be ok and it could turn out kinda cool.....
I love the dinner dancing thing but my hubby doesn't dance....( I ve been trying to get him to for 7 years now!!! lol)

bebe thanks for the offer I will keep it in mind if I have some more questions

 

[ApprenticeApril]

Even if the hubby doesn't do much dancing, it could still be fun. How exciting would it be for him to see the two of you dancing, plus it could help you two feel more comfortable with each other and the situation.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

Try dinner and drinks and then go back to your place. Have another drink and start chatting, start getting affectionate with your husband and then ask her to join. If she hesitates, ask if she wants to watch.

 

[lindahotstuff]

I agree that dinner (forget the movies) is the best - a few drinks, good chat, relax and who knows where it will end up. Alternatively, stay home and rent an X-rated movie

 

[kskittles]

I'll bet a million dollars your husband contacted your friend about the idea....and neither will ever admit it.

 

[infinity706]

I'll bet a million dollars your husband contacted your friend about the idea....and neither will ever admit it.

Does that even matter? When you're talking about adding in a 3rd or more people for sex, it's pretty admirable to pull a few strings to boost a shy partner's confidence. It can really help build them up and make them feel like an equal. After a few times, they might even be confident enough to catch someone without any assistance. It's not like anyone started out as a love machine over night.

 

[Luna_Bella]

lol I wish my man would have done that Kskittles!!! No My man is really shy!!!!!..... lol especially that he doesn't know her that well.... I talked a lot about sex with her and what it is like for us(my husband and I) exploring different things and always trying to improve sensations etc... and she is a few years younger than we are(she's 19 and we are 23 and 25) and hasn't had a steady enough partner (her saying) to feel completly at ease with or that would actually take time enough to care about her needs ( I doubted she ever had an orgasm brought on by someone else but her......) I think she got curious....... and since she knew that I am bisexual she just figured it was something we would do..... you know for the sake of her to show her what sex is really supposed to be like.....

 

[ms_sub_liminal]

what about making dinner together at your place? something fun like sushi. rent a movie too, but not necessarily an x-rated one though. if it gets too weird you end up hanging out and having a good time with a friend orrrr cuddling during the movie could lead to some light introductory fun or more.

i've got zero experience with 3-somes, wouldn't even know where to begin there, but i've always found this and a board game to be a successful group date.

 

[silverwhisper]

me personally, i think that seeing the social dynamic sans sex would be a really good idea. it's always been my feeling that as a rule, sex is a means of communication more than it is anything else. therefore, for me at least, seeing how you get along outside of the bedroom would provide useful clues as to whether or not moving things to the bedroom would be a good idea or not.

given that: i suggest getting to know one another and seeing what the dynamic between the three of you is like before going any further. the prospect of possible sex is not one that factors into most three person social dynamics, you know?

ed

 

[satindesire]

I might suggest forgoing drinks.

If you feel you must imbibe in alcohol to 'loosen up' enough to have sex, then you shouldn't be having sex.

Sober encounters are ALWAYS more fun, or in the very least, less regretted in the morning.

I say this from a seasoned swinging perspective. Alcohol has absolutely no place in my sexual encounters...if I'm going to sleep with someone, I want to do it clear headed so I know I'm making my choices based on good sense, not alcohol-haze.

 

[Luna_Bella]

Our date is made, we are going out for supper , hopping to the video store getting some movies and coming home to watch the movies and or play games.

I agree with you Ed, We will have to see how it goes, I wouldn't want anyone to feel left out or on the outside (but then again what is between me and my husband she will never have, we are not looking for a 3rd "life" partner(we are not into polyamore) in our relationship , we just want a sexual partner. And that will be made clear from the get go.

Satindesire, you are certainly a wise woman I totally agree on not getting drunk, it would just end up ruining it I want everyone to know what they are doing and just enjoy it... I am not a fan of drinking anyways. like you say I like my choices to be made by good sense and not because I was in the vapours of alcohol!

 

[strider666]

Skittles!

Totally true! LOL!

 

[gentelman324]

i love this girl.

 

[subwannabe]

Let us know details!

 

[ReadyOne]

How could I forget about the infamous game "Twister"?

Stop by Wallyworld on your way to the video store...

(Twister is a mat with rows of colored spots, and a spinner to select a color/body appendage. The referee calls out "left hand - red" and everyone on the mat moves their left to an empty red spot, etc. You can create a lot of body contact by choosing which red spot!)

Add a bit to the rules, so an item of clothes (tops, bottoms, undies) come off after each round.

 

[Luna_Bella]

I do know about Twister!!! It might be interesting ::......

I will definetly let you know how it turns out!!!

 

[MattWright]

Nude Dinner Party

A number of years ago a couple that we were very close to invited us to their home for a nude dinner party.

The hostess greeted us at the door she was perfectly coiffed with earings and and heelsm but other wise naked.

So was our host. We soon became similarly attired and enjoyed a great meal and conversation over several bottles of good wine.

We ate and drank and talked mostly about sex and our admiration for each other.

The sexual tension built to a very nice crescendo. We palyed a board card game whos name I don't remember which required us to have light sexual contact with our own wives and with the other wife as well. and then the girls took turns going down on each other while we watched.

We then agreed to a ten minute separate bedroom brake with our own spouse followed by a ten minute private session with each others honey.

we wound up in separate bedrooms and rotated between the gals for a couple of very plesant hours. The girls spent some quality time alone while my friend and I watched a porn flick to recover our spent libido.

We remain friends although they moved out of town.

 

[Luna_Bella]

MattWright, Although I am very opened to that kind of encounter, my husband would not be thrilled about another guy touching me... He is very possesive of me and would never agree to that sort of arrangement.

I am not sure I would be comfortable being completely naked for a whole evening unless I am under covers ( I know it is psychological, if i do not have at least a thin fabric over my skin I get cold) but add lingerie( I am totally into bustiers and fishnets etc..) and I Agree that it would make for a very pleasurable night.

 

[silverwhisper]

luna, when will the date be?

ed

 

[working_girl]

If the date hasn't happened yet and if it's possible in your area, a trip to a casino would be a lot of fun. You don't have to spend much money but placing small bets will give you something to do and chat about. You can have dinner there and a few cocktails. There's something sexually charged about a casino that rubs off on people and you can get all dolled up and act like money.

 

[Luna_Bella]

luna, when will the date be?

It was scheduled for this week-end but something came up... So We Have to reschedule. Hopefully sometime in the next few weeks depending on my work schedule.

So I am Still listening to all of your ideas... the more time to prepare the better the date!!!

Working Girl, The nearest casino is 2 hours away... but hey It might be worth the trip if we rent a room....

 

[silverwhisper]

luna: i look forward to the update, whenever it's available. :>

ed