I would do anything for love. . .

[Eilan]

. . . but I won't do that.

For some reason, this song's been running through my head all day. I've heard lots of people try to interpret the lyrics, but if you listen carefully to them, you'll realize that they're really pretty straightforward.

I won't pop zits on someone else's back.

What will you NOT do for love?

 

[silverwhisper]

anything that suggests i should not be what is best and noble is what i won't do for love. real love doesn't demand, IMHO.

good thread, eilan!

ed

 

[EJFan]

this depends... if it's for the love of the chick in the video, i'd do damned near anything. and, btw, that's not her singing.

i don't know what i wouldn't do though. i've haven't been in love for a while, so i'd either do anything OR i've just given up and i'm just waiting for love that i don't have to do a damned thing for.

all in all, i'd probably draw a DEFINITE line at changing my personality/habits. i've made that mistake a time or two and it never works out. i am who i am and i need to have respect for, and get respect from whomever i'm in a relationship with... and it has to be at our face values.

 

[Eilan]

all in all, i'd probably draw a DEFINITE line at changing my personality/habits. i've made that mistake a time or two and it never works out. i am who i am and i need to have respect for, and get respect from whomever i'm in a relationship with... and it has to be at our face values.

Good point. I've never tried to change who I am for anyone. I don't think I'd feel right if I couldn't be myself.

 

[EJFan]

Good point. I've never tried to change who I am for anyone. I don't think I'd feel right if I couldn't be myself.

for me, this issue started because i never really knew who i was until recently. it's only been the last couple of years that i could say what kind of person i am and really define myself. know what i mean? because i didn't really know myself, i couldn't stay true to myself.

 

[Ricwilly]

I wouldn't eat poop.

 

[Ricwilly]

I have changed some personality defects and bad habits. Hopefully I will continue to do so. Not for love, rather to be a better human being and to live a more productive and happy life. Oooops I went off topic. sorry.

 

[Monazwx]

Lying to friends and family is a definite no-no.

 

[dcraz]

Interesting Thread and Question

Those that know me, know these truths about me...

I would do, and have done, almost anything for someone I love. If your love is true, and genuine and complete, you will risk much, you will take chances, you will make personal sacrifices and you will change. I have and will.

What I will NOT do is betray someone (emotionally, or in confidence) and use love as the justification. Although many do. Nor would I sacrifice my personal integrity.

That is who I am and those that know me will confirm it.

 

[Missingmeds]

I will not lie, to cover my own ass, or the ass of someone that I do love. Period. Those that know me will tell you so.

 

[AppleBiter]

I will not betray him.
I will not use sex as a weapon or bartering tool.
I will not withhold affection.
I will not disrespect him.
I will not take our marriage vows lightly.
I will not settle for anything less than all of his love.
I will not give him anything less than everything I have to give.
I will not hurt him on purpose.
I will not refuse to acknowlege when I have been wrong.
I will not forget to tell him that I love him even one day.
I will not take him or his love for granted.

 

[Erotic-Kiss]

. . . but I won't do that.

For some reason, this song's been running through my head all day. I've heard lots of people try to interpret the lyrics, but if you listen carefully to them, you'll realize that they're really pretty straightforward.

I won't pop zits on someone else's back.

What will you NOT do for love?

I won't.......

share (the person I love)

(Only child syndrome, perhaps... but there it is.)

 

[bisexplicit]

I feel like answering something silly, but it seems like aside from eilan's first suggestion, that this has been fairly serious - so, I'll answer when I'm feeling serious.

 

[silverwhisper]

i don't trout-smack for love, either. :>

[trout-smacks bi]



ed

 

[bisexplicit]

i don't trout-smack for love, either. :>

[trout-smacks bi]



ed

I'm not sure if I should be insulted...

 

[SweetErika]

Well, there are lots of things I won't do to someone I love, but when it comes to doing something for love, I think it boils down to not going against my core morals/values. Some examples...
-Staying with someone who was consistently disrespectful or abusive in any way
-Crossing hard boundaries out of the bedroom (e.g. seriously breaking the law or putting myself at risk)
-Crossing hard boundaries sexually (e.g. anything rape related, blood, scat, serious pain, and, at this point, a MMF or watching my husband with another woman)
-Getting rid of multiple people and things I really value
-Live in a place where I'm not happy long-term
-Deny or fundamentally change who I am (I have and fully expect to make changes to be a better person and partner, but I wouldn't be willing to try to change something like my sexuality or spiritual beliefs for someone else)
-Go along with any big, life-changing decisions just because the other person wanted to

 

[SweetErika]

I will not lie, to cover my own ass, or the ass of someone that I do love. Period. Those that know me will tell you so.

This struck me because, while it depends on the circumstances, my husband does lie for me on occasion. The main lies are to family members about where I am or what our plans are...we figure it'd do everyone more harm than good to tell them I'm on a date, with someone else, or have gone off somewhere for the weekend. He's welcome to tell the truth, but we've discussed it and can't see how sharing my sexuality or the decisions we've made together will be beneficial to anyone. I would lie for him if the situation were reversed.

 

[dcraz]

Well, there are lots of things I won't do to someone I love, but when it comes to doing something for love, I think it boils down to not going against my core morals/values.

I think that first sentence sums it up for me as well. What I was saying above.

As always, SweetE offers some sage advice.

 

[Eilan]

Well, I wasn't feeling particularly serious when I started this thread (hell, I was just trying to get that damn song out of my head), but I can't say that I mind the seriousness of the answers.

In keeping with the changing of who/what I am, I wouldn't alter my physical appearance (e.g. cosmetic procedures) for someone who professed to "love" me.

 

[Missingmeds]

This struck me because, while it depends on the circumstances, my husband does lie for me on occasion. The main lies are to family members about where I am or what our plans are...we figure it'd do everyone more harm than good to tell them I'm on a date, with someone else, or have gone off somewhere for the weekend. He's welcome to tell the truth, but we've discussed it and can't see how sharing my sexuality or the decisions we've made together will be beneficial to anyone. I would lie for him if the situation were reversed.

I just can't lie. Period.

 

[Ricwilly]

I just can't lie. Period.

The only place you should lie is in bed. Well maybe on the couch too.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

I will not betray him.
I will not use sex as a weapon or bartering tool.
I will not withhold affection.
I will not disrespect him.
I will not take our marriage vows lightly.
I will not settle for anything less than all of his love.
I will not give him anything less than everything I have to give.
I will not hurt him on purpose.
I will not refuse to acknowlege when I have been wrong.
I will not forget to tell him that I love him even one day.
I will not take him or his love for granted.

This is a good list that describes a lot of things that I would say as well, even a few more. I probably will not consider sharing my man as well (at least with other women anyways).