I went on a tinder date

[pollynova]

It was my first time meeting someone from online ever. At first, I thought he was really nervous, which is okay, because I was nervous too. But everything seemed to be going okay. Then all of the sudden, he says he has to go and that I'm really nice but it just wouldn't work out. I asked him why.

He said, "You look too much like my ex. I thought that was a good thing, but it's really distracting."

 

[pointless]

i don't understand why you're confused. that would totally suck. boys have feelings, too.

 

[pink]

He didn't even give you a chance?


I won't call him any bad names but I want to.

 

[yossi]

That's pretty shitty. I hope the next date goes better.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

That sounds less than fun.

I sure hope you find a better match next time!

 

[pollynova]

i don't understand why you're confused. that would totally suck. boys have feelings, too.

It's odd because he knew what I looked like before.

 

[pollynova]

He didn't even give you a chance?


I won't call him any bad names but I want to.

We hung out for a few hours.

I get that he doesn't want to be reminded of his ex, but then why did he want to go on a date with me?

 

[BabblingBrooke]

It's odd because he knew what I looked like before.

From your first post, it sounds like maybe he thought it wouldn't bother him, but then it did. It's a shame he couldnt get past that to get to know you.

 

[pink]

We hung out for a few hours.

I get that he doesn't want to be reminded of his ex, but then why did he want to go on a date with me?

I think you're pretty great, he missed out.

 

[Killswitch1]

I hate to tell you all this especially th OP but the you look like my ex lines bogus.

Don't worry about it.

 

[pollynova]

That's pretty shitty. I hope the next date goes better.

That sounds less than fun.

I sure hope you find a better match next time!

Thank you

 

[pollynova]

From your first post, it sounds like maybe he thought it wouldn't bother him, but then it did. It's a shame he couldnt get past that to get to know you.

Maybe. I hope that's it.

 

[pollynova]

I think you're pretty great, he missed out.

Thank you!

 

[pointless]

It's odd because he knew what I looked like before.

well, yeah. i got that from your post. but i get why it might be more of an issue than he might have thought beforehand once he was there in the moment. i'm guessing dude aint over the breakup in one or the other and seeing someone right there in front of him who looks like his ex was likely causing him to think way too much about shit he really didn't want to think about.

was he a fool? definitely, but an understandable fool. it's just too bad you got taken for a ride on his emotional roller coaster, but you can also be thankful that he let you off before it could get truly fucked up and weird.

 

[pollynova]

I hate to tell you all this especially th OP but the you look like my ex lines bogus.

Don't worry about it.

I've never heard of it before.

 

[Eyereadtoo]

It was my first time meeting someone from online ever. At first, I thought he was really nervous, which is okay, because I was nervous too. But everything seemed to be going okay. Then all of the sudden, he says he has to go and that I'm really nice but it just wouldn't work out. I asked him why.

He said, "You look too much like my ex. I thought that was a good thing, but it's really distracting."

Wow, sorry about that Polly. I'm really surprised someone went on a tinder date that didn't end in sex...sorry about that, too.

 

[pollynova]

well, yeah. i got that from your post. but i get why it might be more of an issue than he might have thought beforehand once he was there in the moment. i'm guessing dude aint over the breakup in one or the other and seeing someone right there in front of him who looks like his ex was likely causing him to think way too much about shit he really didn't want to think about.

was he a fool? definitely, but an understandable fool. it's just too bad you got taken for a ride on his emotional roller coaster, but you can also be thankfully that he let you off before it could get truly fucked up and weird.

Maybe that's it then.

 

[lovetoread]

Eh, I am gonna bet he was hoping for a quick hookup and you were too nice for him to push for it.

 

[pointless]

Maybe that's it then.

it's theory, anyway. run with it if it helps.

 

[Killswitch1]

Eh, I am gonna bet he was hoping for a quick hookup and you were too nice for him to push for it.

and his time was up and his wife was waiting at home with the kids.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

It was my first time meeting someone from online ever. At first, I thought he was really nervous, which is okay, because I was nervous too. But everything seemed to be going okay. Then all of the sudden, he says he has to go and that I'm really nice but it just wouldn't work out. I asked him why.

He said, "You look too much like my ex. I thought that was a good thing, but it's really distracting."

I say you track down his doppelganger ex, befriend her, then have the two of you do a "separated-at-birth-sisters" girls' night out on the town.

Limoncello from lemons and all that!

 

[pollynova]

Eh, I am gonna bet he was hoping for a quick hookup and you were too nice for him to push for it.

I thought about that too. But I'd like to think I was worth putting the effort into.

 

[pointless]

I say you track down his doppelganger ex, befriend her, then have the two of you do a "separated-at-birth-sisters" girls' night out on the town.

Limoncello from lemons and all that!

no, fake lesbian incest is the only real way to go here.

 

[pensivepoet]

I've never heard of it before.

Sorry bout the jerk. KS is right.
A line as old as time, right up there with "it's not you, it's me"
Or
"you're just too good for me"
Be happy he's someone else's nightmare now.

 

[pollynova]

and his time was up and his wife was waiting at home with the kids.

He doesn't have any kids.

And his wife said he could stay out as long as he wanted.