I was wondering how many of you have?

[Jade]

How many of you have met someone, anyone, from over the internet?

If you HAVE met someone in person from over the internet, how many people have you met?

I was just trying to get an idea. I know there has got to be a norm for things like this.
We have a huge range of people here all the way from "super -cautious" (eg: L Latina, Dcl, Lasher, etc.) all the way to "nothing to hide" (eg: Xander, Tiggs, Melody Lane, etc.)

I was just trying to get an idea of why we make these choices, be it being open to all or being completely secretive.
I think I already can see both sides.
I just need a little help with this b/c I am trying to determine steps that I will make regarding "future" internet friendships as well as posts on this site.
Therefore all input will be appreciated.
I realize this isn't a very organized thread, but hopefully that will not affect anyone's impression of my ability to think rationally.

Oh, and one more thing... for those of you that HAVE met someone... how many of them were literoticans?

Thanks!
Gosh I hope at least SOMEONE responds!

 

[Juliangel]

I am in an email group, there are about 40 of us, all women, and about half of us met in Cape Cod over the summer. I am going to Vegas in Feb. with this same group.

 

[Ambrosious]

I am in an email group, there are about 40 of us, all women, and about half of us met in Cape Cod over the summer. I am going to Vegas in Feb. with this same group.

A bunch of wild women loose on the streets of Cape Cod? Watch out Mass!

And no I never have but my brother has met both of his wives this way.

Ok, he divorced the first one THEN found #2.

 

[catlover]

internet meetings

I have, and have related the whole story on here more than once so there is no point in massaging it again, but I'll leave it at saying that I'd do it again in a heartbeat if the circumstances permitted and were right

 

[Guest]

Well, Jade, it seems you already know my answer since you mentioned me in your opening post. Omaha has a huge online community in AOL. There has been many parties, bowling leagues, soft ball leagues, volley ball leagues, etc. I have met a lot of great people. I've met new friends, few assholes, and some ex boyfriends. lol In fact, some of my friends are now married to one another, etc., and they had met from the net too. I have also met one LD person from the net, but that one proved to be a waste of time. ~sigh~ I have yet to meet anyone specifically from Lit (I drug Ezzie & HungryMan here myself...lol). By the turn of the new year I should be meeting two Lit people though. I'm very excited about that one!! Hee hee hee...

 

[Sammyjo]

I have not, as yet, met anyone off Lit...but I hope to very soon.

I have met 3 men off the net...all have turned into utter disasters...yes, including the Toronto guy.

I have met one woman off the net, and due to the fact that I won't sleep with her, she won't talk to me anymore...gee thanks...good enough for sex, not for friendship.

Anywho...it was all fun while it lasted...

 

[Ticklish Girl]

I've never met a Literotican. I'm still settling in here, getting comfortable. I certainly wouldn't object to the idea, if I really hit it off with someone from the board, and if I took all the reasonable precautions.

I post on a Yankees BB. A number of us became very friendly, especially during the winter, and so we began to plan parties. About every 6 weeks or so, we get together, usually at a restaurant in NYC. The groups usually number between 10 and 20 people, and we've had smaller parties at people's houses. We always have a lot of fun.

The best party happened in July. About 80 of us bought a block of tickets to a Yankee game, and before the game we had a tailgate party on the roof of a parking garage a few blocks from the stadium. We had one of those giant sub sandwiches, lots of beer and soda, and someone even brought cupcakes with the Yankees' "interlocking NY" logo done in frosting on their tops! And, best of all, we had a surprise guest. One of our members was the sister of Roger Clemens, and she was able to persuade him to stop by for a few minutes. What a great day. The only bad part was the Yankees lost.

So, my experience with meeting online friends has been very positive. I haven't met someone for romantic purposes, but I am not opposed to the idea. I've gotten very friendly with one of my cyber partners, and we've spoken about meeting. I like him a lot, so I think it'll happen soon, as long as I take precautions.

[Edited by Ticklish Girl on 11-17-2000 at 02:14 PM]

 

[Xander]

Well jade.
i haven't been out meeting as many online friends as Tiggs have. But I have met quite a few. Also had a few Net-Dates.
It's quite fun. And can be very bad also.

But I must say. If you're not willing to take a few chances, you never know what you'll miss.

As for Literoticans. I've met:

Angelique
SierraSky
Laurel
Manu

 

[Hecate]

I have - and will again!

I am the "web mistress" of a family rated web community that developed as a European side fraction from a big US community. It all started by "us Europeans" being disappointed to never make it to the reunions in the USA that seemed to be so much fun so we decided to organize ourselves and voilà .. we had a meeting in spring this year - about 12 of us renting 2 bungalos in the Netherlands for a long weekend... it was GREAT FUN, and we are already working on the next meeting which will (most likely) be in Summer 2001 in Ireland... and since last time was such a success we are hoping to be at least as many people from all over Europe coming next year.

so far NONE were Literoticans ... unless you count one member from the other on-line community who took a "sneak peek" into Lit for a few odd posts, but I had met and known him for a while already before even mentioning Lit to him.

I am actually not quite sure how this is going to fit into your picture, since I am having a real paranoia about giving away my real name or pics (that show my face anyway ) or phone number .. I even hesitate revealing the city I am from ... but at a certain point and with certain people I just have a "feeling" that I can trust them.

 

[Guest]

The best party happened in July. About 80 of us bought a block of tickets to a Yankee game, and before the game we had a tailgate party on the roof of a parking garage a few blocks from the stadium.

My sister would have loved that! lol She is a HUGE Yankees fan. She has driven down to KC (about 3 to 4 hours from us) several times when the Yankees have played the Royals. Back when I had been "hooked" on AOL chat rooms, I used to tease her about going to many various BBs. lol Go fig, huh?

 

[lala]

i have not met n e 1 form the net yet, but i've been talkin' on the phone with someone i met online who lives in my area, and i hope to meet him someday as far as divulging info, if someone really wants it there are many ways to get it, but i won't hand it to them on a silver platter, so i'm not psycho about giving or not giving info, i just hope for the best,...

 

[Ksss]

As I am more of a Literotica chatroom addict, I have met several from chat, and hope to be meeting more. I enjoy reading the posts here on the BB and have been doing that for quite sometime. Until recently, I had never submitted any postings here. You all seem like very nice people.

 

[Guest]

Caution

 

[Melody_lane]

How many of you have met someone, anyone, from over the internet?

If you HAVE met someone in person from over the internet, how many people have you met?

We have a huge range of people here all the way from "super -cautious" (eg: L Latina, Dcl, Lasher, etc.) all the way to "nothing to hide" (eg: Xander, Tiggs, Melody Lane, etc.)

Huh, I wasn't aware I had nothing to hide...hell, I wasn't even aware that you even knew who I was.

To answer your questions-I have never met anyone from off the net. I don't think that there are too many that I would. I think I could name 4 people off the net that I would actually consider meeting and only 1 of those is from lit. I've thought a bit about why that is-and I think it comes down to a combination of things, including:
First, feeling safe and comfortable meeting that person, which comes from knowing them an adequate amount of time.
And also, having an expectation of deriving a worthwhile experience from the meeting, because let's face it meeting people over the net takes time, money, and energy.
There are a lot of people that I like just fine over the net to talk to on occasion, but I wouldn't dare think to meet them, primarily (and I know this sounds harsh) because I wouldn't want to be bothered with knowing them in reality. But, also because I don't think I'd be willing to give up my time, money, or energy on them. Yeah, I'm a bitch (and yet that damned sparks' test said only 30%).

Anyway, I think that most people that know me in RL would say that I am a private person. I don't get close to many-probably because I don't consider most worth getting close to. I guess the same goes with people from the net. At the same time, I'm no more scared to talk to some stranger in a club, than I am some stranger off the net.

I could go on forever---probably bored most to tears by now, that is if you aren't sleeping...

Hope I helped, if only a little, Jade.

 

[Skibum]

Not yet, but soon, I hope!

 

[teresafannin]

I have met a group of my online friends over the past 2 years. This group is all women, there are 12 of us. We have become very close & they are my best friends. I am actually closer with this group of women, than with any of my friends from work. Luckily, one lives about 30 minutes away from me & has become the older sister I always wanted. She is one of the few people that is always there for me when I have one of the really bad days. We planned our meetings very carefully, always in a restaurant or at a toy store, someplace very public, with the exception of one time.I drove out to the airport, never having seen her,guessed correctly who she was & we have been great friends for 2 years.I haven't met anyone else, no one from Lit, but there are some people from here that I would like to meet, if the circumstances were right. It is just like meeting anyone new, you have to be careful & you can't have too many expectations. RL personalities can be very different than on-line personas. So much of my life became public knowledge that I tend to be very careful about meeting new people,especially here in my home town. There are a lot of people out there who would love to use my real name & what happened to my son to further their own agendas. I still screen all calls & probably will have to as long as I continue to do the speaking engagements & televison appearances.

[Edited by teresafannin on 11-17-2000 at 06:52 PM]

 

[MunchinMark]

None whatsoever, I suppose its just me, it would be nice to blame "Englishness" but it really is just me, and that huge body of water that lies between me and most of the people I have met online.

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Cheyenne]

I have to go to Europe soon for a business trip and I've offered to meet someone from Lit then, but I don't know if our schedules will work out so that it will be possible. I'm waiting to hear.

 

[Guest]

 

[Mustang Sally]

nothing to hide

I'm a rather trusting person and I know I haven't been as cautious with this as I should be. (Uh oh, might be asking for trouble with that admission!) I'm usually quite honest and give personal details with little hesitation. Stupid? Probably. I engage in what I realize could be risky online behaviour, and surely only luck has spared me from evil thus far.

I have met several men from online in person. A few of them turned out to be nothing - one or two time meetings. Yeah, these were people I barely knew but just happened to live in the same city as me. I had no business meeting them. However, one such meeting turned into a nine-month relationship.

There was just one meeting where I was fully aware of the potential danger. And I went ahead and did it anyways. I met a guy I had been talking to online and on the phone for about a month - alone, in a big unfamiliar city, without telling anyone what I was doing. We met in a restaurant downtown and then I dumbly agreed to go back to his place after dinner. Wow, I was really asking for something bad to happen, yes?

Well, I ended up spending the night with him. Luckily, things turned out well - he had been as honest as I was online, and I'm still "seeing" him nine months later.

The lesson? I don't know. But please kids, don't do as I do. I'm baaaaaaad!

[Edited by Mustang Sally on 11-17-2000 at 10:41 PM]

 

[Mackdoggy_77]

I hope to meet Puddles soon! She's one hot bitch!! I've been cybering with her for months now.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Jade email me!!!!!

I want to know what is going on there... as for me well if someone wants to come all the way to Australia just to kill me I would be impressed. And since noone wants to meet me I will have to go to them!!!!

Babe...

hope you got what you wanted.

yes me

 

[Nobody Special]

If I tell you will you Promise not to tell THE WIFE??

OK well I will trust that you wont

I have met roughly about 10 people off the net.. One of which is THE WIFE.. and she is the Farthest one that I have travled to meet.. ( about 8 1/2 hour drive, other then that most of them were about 2 - 3 hour drives..) I was board and had lots of time on my hands and just made the disision to go.. it was somthing to do.. and it was fun too any way I have yet to meet some one from lit that I didn't already know before getting on or getting them to Join.. But I would like to meet as many of you as Possible..

and JADE I have some news for you if you have the time, seems we keep missing each other again.. Hope to talk to you soon

E

 

[FeistyFemale]

Hi Jade:

Just wanted to replay and tell my story. I've been online for 4 years now. I met a man from online in real life wich was a total disaster. The meeting was intended to be strictly platonic, but he obviously had more intentions. Needless to say, I came close to kicking the guy in the balls! I also met a very good girlfriend. We met in a chat room and talked for a year before we decided to meet. We've been taking turns visiting each other for 2 years now and have a wonderful friendship.

The best part is that I met someone very special and dear to me about 7 months ago. Thank God he only lives an hour and a half away from me, cause I'm not sure I could handle the long distance thing. Anyway, I'm now in the midst of seeking employment in his city and we plan on moving in together once I find employment there. It's a very serious and committed relationship and if it wasn't for the wonderful technology of internet, we would have never met.

So that's my story..hope it helps. Some people are great to meet in real life and others are frauds..but then again..don't we get that in real life anyway??

Carrie