I want you to know !

[SweetMaj]

Tomorrow, my husband is being released from the hospital.

He is in a wheelchair and senile.

I've been offered a home nurse, witch I have accepted.

I need help with his hygiene and change of clothes.
And I don't want him to be alone when I'm at work !

This is a big change for me.
I am happy and relieved that he is home at last.

We have known each other for 26 years, and have been married for 4 years.
He is the love of my life.


So now I'm fixing our home. Things I don't want him to reach.

And rearranging the furniture to give him better access.

Fortunately there is an elevator our building.


I just wanted you all to know

 

[TxRad]

Great news

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Oh no! Brain damaged? Oh the poor man, and you, too. Yes, by all means get all the help you can. My father died of Alzheimer's and it was pure hell for mother until she finally put him in a home where there was professional care. Remember that to do so isn't abandoning him, it's providing him with best possible life, something you aren't trained to do.

 

[PennLady]

I'm with both TxRad and v_m. So glad he's home, and so glad you're getting the help you need. I haven't had to do it, but I know being the caretaker of someone with needs that great would be very taxing. Best of luck to you both.

 

[SweetMaj]

Oh no! Brain damaged? Oh the poor man, and you, too. Yes, by all means get all the help you can. My father died of Alzheimer's and it was pure hell for mother until she finally put him in a home where there was professional care. Remember that to do so isn't abandoning him, it's providing him with best possible life, something you aren't trained to do.

My father died of Alzheimer's too.
In the end he diden't recognize my mother, or my three sisters or me.

As for my husband and a nursing home, only time will tell.

 

[The_Fool]

Best of luck and most positive of thoughts for you and him.

 

[jomar]

 

[_Lynn_]

 

[Handley_Page]

 

[glynndah]

I'm sending good thoughts winging their way to you and yours.

 

[hottchic]

I am really happy for you that he did emerge from the coma, and yet his current condition is difficult for both of you.

Remember this, it is very easy to become lost in caring for his physical needs if you let your self. Self care is very important for you at this time, because apart from yourself you will be no use to him if you burn yourself out and become depressed.

So take all the help that is offered, don't be afraid to let others help you in caring for him.

Set aside time for yourself and make yourself spend that time on you, and always remember the beautiful, funny, happy go lucky Danish short girl that you are. Whatever happens remember how worth while you are, how lovable you are and how loved you are.

Keep giving yourself your love that makes you the bright, happy confident woman you are.

This is the best you can do for your husband keeping your bubbly personality around him and this is the best thing you can do for yourself.

Simone

PS: Sorry if I went on a bit

 

[SweetMaj]

Thank you for all your kind words !!!

My husbands home coming was better than I feared, though he is tired and confused.

We will have a home nurse two times a day for a few hours.


On the bright side : I have accomplished a little writing this evening.

It's a short story non erotic "Reunion" I will let you know when it is in the mix,
and give you the EXACT link

 

[TE999]

Thank you for all your kind words !!!

My husbands home coming was better than I feared, though he is tired and confused.

We will have a home nurse two times a day for a few hours.


On the bright side : I have accomplished a little writing this evening.

It's a short story non erotic "Reunion" I will let you know when it is in the mix,
and give you the EXACT link

I just saw this...

I'm happy for you that your husband is back home. It's sad that he has brain damage, but with home care it will not be quite as difficult. Best of luck to you both.

 

[Tarakin]

 

[SweetMaj]

I need your support so much !!!


When I got home from work today, my husband was laying on the kitchen floor.
Somehow the wheelchair must have tripped. He was on his stomach crying, and he has
a bump on his head.

I managed to get him up off the floor, without hurting my back.

Our homenurse suddenly left today. I have the option of getting another one, if she Isen't
to my satisfactory - and she is NOT !!!

I'm in chock !!!

Right now my husband is a sleep, and I'm waiting for the doctor.

I feel so hollow and empty inside.

I think I'm gonna cry. In fact, I am.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

http://i264.photobucket.com/albums/ii177/1volupturary_manque/bears/bear_n_girl.jpg

 

[SweetMaj]

Thank you, Bear.
It is warming my heart. !!!


My husband has been hospitalized for observation. I don't know yet for how long,
maybe a day or more.

Before I left, one of the nurses gave him some medication, that will make him relax and sleep.

It was heartbreaking, to see the confusion on his face, before he felt the effect
from the medication.

I'm with one of my sisters at the moment.

It has been a confusing and sad day, and I need to relax and think realistic. (If I can)

I will write a poem about this. It helps me.!!!

Again, thank you, Bear.

 

[Handley_Page]

I know the 'lack of recognition" .
It was terrible when my ole' Dad looked at me, then at my Mother, and said "Who's this?"

May, please accept my very best wishes.

 

[TE999]

My sincere condolences, Maj.

 

[SweetMaj]

Thank you, HP.


Thank you, Tom.

 

[Tio_Narratore]

My best wishes that all turns out as well as it can. Be strong, but also remember yourself.

The wheel chair issue is a difficult one to protect against. He probably wheeled himself to do something, and then tried to get up without setting the brake. My M-i-L did that when she was in our care, and badly broke her hip.

 

[SweetMaj]

My best wishes that all turns out as well as it can. Be strong, but also remember yourself.

The wheel chair issue is a difficult one to protect against. He probably wheeled himself to do something, and then tried to get up without setting the brake. My M-i-L did that when she was in our care, and badly broke her hip.

Thank you, Tio.

Fortunately nothing is broken, but he has some nasty bruises.

They are keeping him for another couple of days. He is very tired and confused.

I try to be strong, and I do remember myself !!!

Thank you, again.