I want to know

[pliny]

I want to know what women really think and what they really like about sex. Its always puzzled me .

How does a man really know what a woman really likes?

I know it sounds like a simple question but I thiink it puzzles many men.

They don't really know how to communicate or understand what women want.

 

[niceguy2002tim]

I think all women are different. I am a man, and what I know about women is this... a good woman will tell you what she likes. And good sex is something both parties enjoy.

-Tim

 

[Torg]

I've found that a good rule of thumb, especially the first time you have sex with a woman, is to make her come first.

Now, this maybe a little difficult. Figuring out what it takes to get someone to come can be hard. If the woman is not forthcoming about what she likes, ask her. Sometimes she'll want lots of kissing and foreplay, sometimes just enough foreplay to get her wet and then Bang!

But one truism is that men almost always want to move faster than women do. So I suggest you slow down, spend lots of time kissing before you move on to fondling sensitive parts like breasts, spend more time doing that before moving on to touching her pussy, spend some time fingering her or going down on her (hopefully getting her to come at this point) before moving on to intercourse. And whatever you do, don't fall asleep after you come. Nothing is more annoying to a woman. Besides, you might be ready for more in a few minutes.

Each woman is different. Things that work with one won't necessarily work with another.

My current girlfriend and I can kiss and touch for hours before we even get naked. But once we get naked, we can still have sex for a couple hours, with multiple position changes, and her climaxing pretty continuously while we fuck, and me coming at least two or three times. There's lots of biting and pinching and fairly hardcore. We both end up with bruises from bite marks.

One girlfriend I had came up with method that we used often. Enough foreplay to get her wet, fuck, then I'd go down on her (which took long enough for me to recover), then we'd fuck again. All with in an hour or so. If I bit her, sex stopped and she'd be mad at me for awhile.

My ex-wife and I used to fuck til I came and then cuddle til we fell asleep. No marathons there (probably only twice during the time we were together did we ever have sex for over an hour). Lots of foreplay required.

One of my current spouses (I'm polyamorous) only has sex after she's had something to drink or smoke to loosen her up. A little alcohol turns her from a hard-as-nails "you can't get through my emotional armor" woman into a soft, "I want you to take me" submissive. She wants to be bitten, but only around the neck and not too hard.

My other spouse needs to mostly be in control, at least until it's time for intercourse. Then she wants you to just do it. She'll take a little light biting on the neck. But kisses must be soft and yielding -- no thrusting your tongue down her throat.

So, you see. They are all very different. It takes a few tries to get it right. Hopefully, they give you a chance to figure it out.

 

[Donsehan]

I want to know what women really think and what they really like about sex. Its always puzzled me .

How does a man really know what a woman really likes?

I know it sounds like a simple question but I thiink it puzzles many men.

They don't really know how to communicate or understand what women want.

well pretty much as niceguytim said, all women are different in what they like. Although if you try a lot of different things during sex or as foreplay, listen to her. You can find out where her favorite spot to be kissed is or her favorite spot to be rubbed. You really have to explore, but I think in general all women like good head. Note not blowjobs, but getting eaten out by their lover.

Oh yeah forgot, try a whole bunch of different positions, and well just listen and pay attention to how she reacts and you'll soon figure it out. If not, you can always dirty talk her, making her remember stuff you do to her, and see how she reacts to the different ideas.

 

[coolomon]

Yet another man replying here...

I think the absence of female respondents says something about the naivety of the question. They want what they need and that changes.
Perhaps one useful line of thinking is to begin with that saying: A man will fall in love with the woman he is attracted to and a woman will become attracted to the man she falls in love with. Or in other words (and more specifically): We need what we want and she wants what she needs!

Fella's... just be genuine and if she wants you for who you genuinely are, be strong and respectful, and when you touch her look into her eyes for the answer to the question "is that what you want?"

But of course that has nothing to do with Literotica. She probably likes reading dirty fantasies as much as you and I do