I want to have sex...what the hell's wrong with me?

[satindesire]

I've noticed that in my past relationships, my drive is ALWAYS higher than my partners. Although, the message I get from the media, message boards, and any male friends I hear talking....is that the MAN always wants more sex.

Why can't I seem to find a man who likes to get laid?

What gender are you and your partner, and do you want to have more sex than them?

 

[intothewoods]

I've noticed that in my past relationships, my drive is ALWAYS higher than my partners. Although, the message I get from the media, message boards, and any male friends I hear talking....is that the MAN always wants more sex.

Why can't I seem to find a man who likes to get laid?

What gender are you and your partner, and do you want to have more sex than them?

Ha ha! I have had this problem as well. My drive used to be more or less compatible with partners, but in the last year, it shot through the roof!

 

[graceanne]

Me and K are pretty sexually compatable (read: always horny). But if I were with someone with a normal sex drive we'd probably have issues. At the very least me and BOB would be very well acquainted. I know K's had problems with women who don't have a similar sex drive.

 

[kiten69]

What gender are you and your partner, and do you want to have more sex than them?

Gender...me=F...partner=M

Hmm...my sex drive is extremely high. However, my current partner keeps up with me fairly well . We complement each other nicely...there will be times when I am in the mood and he is not, and vice versa. And then there are the times where it seems like we just can't get enough of each other, and go at it for hours until we are both exhausted!

 

[storyteller_md]

It's all about.....

age. After going thru the nurturing phase.....your body is telling you to make up for lost time....and go sow your oats......like men did when they were 18. However, those men who aren't still selfish, should have learned how to become excellent at oral sex and know how to please you in order to meet your increased sex drive.....i know i have.

Neal

 

[neonflux]

I have always had a very high sex drive, much higher than most of my partners either male or female - and it has presented problems. In my last long-term relationship, I literally ended up turning my sexuality button to the off position because it became so frustrating (obviously, in this case, there were many other problems).

Now, not quite on the verge of menopause, it's gone through the roof - I don't know if it's because I want to use it before I lose it, or what?!?!?! I am lucky that my current SO (6 years my junior or I don't think he'd be able to keep up) has a libido almost as great as mine... I am the first woman he's been with whose sex drive is even close to his own and I sometimes joke to him, "Be careful what you wish for..." LOL.

Neon

 

[myinnerslut]

my sex drive is higher then A's. he jokes that i am insatiable.

its to bad that hes the one in charge...

 

[Snoozebutton2]

Sex??? Whats sex my hand is getting a action grip from self love and carpal tunnel is acting up too.

 

[satindesire]

age. After going thru the nurturing phase.....your body is telling you to make up for lost time....and go sow your oats......like men did when they were 18. However, those men who aren't still selfish, should have learned how to become excellent at oral sex and know how to please you in order to meet your increased sex drive.....i know i have.

Neal

Not in my case.

I'm 22, he's 24. People reach their sexual peak PHYSICALLY in their late teens/early twenties.

It's a common myth that older women reach their peak in their 30's. It's only because they (usually) become comfortable with themselves and their bodies, and familiar with what makes them tick.

Statistically, Sir and I should be shagging like bunnies. There isn't a day that goes by that I wish somehow my sex drive would just...disappear...so that I wouldn't feel so left out.

 

[lushlucid]

i have a higher sex drive than my bf
he always sex we've got plenty of time to do that

wtf?!

 

[intothewoods]

Not in my case.

I'm 22, he's 24. People reach their sexual peak PHYSICALLY in their late teens/early twenties.

It's a common myth that older women reach their peak in their 30's. It's only because they (usually) become comfortable with themselves and their bodies, and familiar with what makes them tick.

Statistically, Sir and I should be shagging like bunnies. There isn't a day that goes by that I wish somehow my sex drive would just...disappear...so that I wouldn't feel so left out.

So the bit about women reaching their sexual peak at 40 isn't true?

 

[WriterDom]

I'm nearing 50 and still in my peak.

 

[Sexy_Angel]

I know what you mean hun. I'm 24 and he's 26 and I could have sex 3 times a day, 365 days a year and he hardly ever wants it! It totally sucks!

 

[Netzach]

Other than when I'm on steroids, my libido has been higher than all male partners except one, and equal with female partners. The girls I've been with have been self-described nymphos, however, and would probably kill me in the long term.

Uh, I beg to differ about the peak in 20's thing. I am about as free of hang ups as anyone I've met (thanks, mom, you got something right) and I definitely enjoy screwing more and more.

 

[intothewoods]

I'm nearing 50 and still in my peak.

and so modest too!

 

[WriterDom]

Yep, once I had 5 orgasms in a row without getting out of bed. And the chick probably could have kept going. Damn Scorpios.

 

[satindesire]

We sexually peak in the late teens early twenties PHYSICALLY. I think I caps it last time but I guess it wasn't seen. I don't mean mentally sexually peaking, as in the DESIRE to have sex, but the ability and fertility of the body at that time.

Physically, the general population is strongest, fittest and healthiest, and most fertile at that period of time. To the body, sex is about procreation and we are most likely to have kids because we're at our PHYSICAL peak at that age.

Mentally, anyone can peak at anytime. Once we realize what feels good and get comfortable enough to seek it out, that's when we can have the most fun. I was twenty when I had my first orgasm, so I came in a little late...but now I'm enjoying what I can when I can.

You might be surprised to hear the stories I do from my peergroup. These people are lightyears from being sexually aware or openminded. One of my co-workers has never masturbated, never used a toy, never had oral sex performed on her and never given oral sex, and swears up and down she'll never do it.

A lot of people, mostly women I'd say, my age are bashful, even embarrassed when it comes to their own sexuality. That's holding them back from a lot of joy and I pity them.

And ya'll, everyone's peak will be different. I know a man who's almost 40 and can boff with the best of them...and I know a 27 year old who can't manage more than once a week. So please keep in mind that your sexual abilities and desires are gonna be different from the next tomcat or kitty. I'm not speaking for the individual here, I'm trying to be a little more scientific ans general about it.

http://www.womens-homepage.com/sexual-peak.html

Men and women develop the same hormones at the same time: puberty. The only reason why women seem so much more interested at a later age is because we were taught NOT to be interested in sex when we were kids. If you experimented with sex like the boys did, you would be labeled the town Jezebel. Only when women mature are they able to feel more comfortable talking about and practicing sex. They finally open up and begin to feel normal about desiring sex.

interesting site about aging...

http://www.senescence.info/definitions.html

In humans, our body's functional decline tends to begin after the sexual peak, roughly at age 19 and perhaps some functions decline even sooner.

The Kinsey New Report on Sex

If you're counting orgasms, there is scientific evidence to support the idea that women's sexual peak it later than men's. Most young men during adolescence and their early twenties report more frequent orgasms than men in older age groups....Women in general, on the other hand, experience their highest number of orgasms from their mid-twenties to early forties...

When I mean sexual peak, I really don't mean the ease and number of orgasms, but what should be the time when we are physically at our hormonal and fertile best.

Just doing this to clear up any misunderstandings. No offense meant.

 

[graceanne]

Quite frankly if I get any more horny as I get older I might kill myself or K. lol

 

[graceanne]

We sexually peak in the late teens early twenties PHYSICALLY. I think I caps it last time but I guess it wasn't seen. I don't mean mentally sexually peaking, as in the DESIRE to have sex, but the ability and fertility of the body at that time.

Physically, the general population is strongest, fittest and healthiest, and most fertile at that period of time. To the body, sex is about procreation and we are most likely to have kids because we're at our PHYSICAL peak at that age.

Mentally, anyone can peak at anytime. Once we realize what feels good and get comfortable enough to seek it out, that's when we can have the most fun. I was twenty when I had my first orgasm, so I came in a little late...but now I'm enjoying what I can when I can.

I was 19 when I had my first orgasm. lol I masturbated a bit but not much cause it really wasn't worth the effort.

You might be surprised to hear the stories I do from my peergroup. These people are lightyears from being sexually aware or openminded. One of my co-workers has never masturbated, never used a toy, never had oral sex performed on her and never given oral sex, and swears up and down she'll never do it.

A lot of people, mostly women I'd say, my age are bashful, even embarrassed when it comes to their own sexuality. That's holding them back from a lot of joy and I pity them.

I know what you mean. I have a friend who thinks oral sex is about as kinky as it gets, and refuses to even consider it. To her credit, her husband agrees so it'd be moot point for them. Frankly oral sex was always a given in me and K's relationship. I believe we had oral sex before we even had intercourse.

And ya'll, everyone's peak will be different. I know a man who's almost 40 and can boff with the best of them...and I know a 27 year old who can't manage more than once a week. So please keep in mind that your sexual abilities and desires are gonna be different from the next tomcat or kitty. I'm not speaking for the individual here, I'm trying to be a little more scientific ans general about it.

Out of curiousity sake, I'd say that the people here are a bit more sexual than the average person. If you posed this question on a forum that isn't attached to a site that has free erotica your answers would most likey be differet - if you got answers at all.

 

[satindesire]

Out of curiousity sake, I'd say that the people here are a bit more sexual than the average person. If you posed this question on a forum that isn't attached to a site that has free erotica your answers would most likey be differet - if you got answers at all.

I agree, that's why I tried to be as general as my own limitations allowed.

 

[skittles_lm]

I've noticed that in my past relationships, my drive is ALWAYS higher than my partners. Although, the message I get from the media, message boards, and any male friends I hear talking....is that the MAN always wants more sex.

Why can't I seem to find a man who likes to get laid?

What gender are you and your partner, and do you want to have more sex than them?

I am in a...well, huh... I guess I'm officially a lesbian at this point?

And I want more sex than her. not by much, and she's suprised by it, by I think i want sex...

well, all the time! i never say no. thank goodness, she doesn't say no very often, either. Still, there are times. *sigh*

 

[skittles_lm]

Yep, once I had 5 orgasms in a row without getting out of bed. And the chick probably could have kept going. Damn Scorpios.

don't be damning the scorpios, now! It's not our fault no one can keep up!

 

[graceanne]

don't be damning the scorpios, now! It's not our fault no one can keep up!

Excuses, excuses.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Not in my case.

I'm 22, he's 24. People reach their sexual peak PHYSICALLY in their late teens/early twenties.

It's a common myth that older women reach their peak in their 30's. It's only because they (usually) become comfortable with themselves and their bodies, and familiar with what makes them tick.

Statistically, Sir and I should be shagging like bunnies. There isn't a day that goes by that I wish somehow my sex drive would just...disappear...so that I wouldn't feel so left out.

Hmmm, actually there have been multiple research studies done on this which shows it is real that women reach their sexual peak around 30, and believe me it has nothing to do with being more comfortable with themselves and their bodies etc., and a lot to do with hormone levels....males peak around 18-22. If I remember correctly, most studies assume the reason for this hormone leap at that age is it is the best time for the female to begin having babies physically, financially, and emotionally so nature has taken that into account to maximise the survival potential of the young. I personally never had any issues around my body, sexuality, or what made me tick from my teens onward, but when I arrived at 30, something definately happened which was not as great as it sounds as I had always had a higher libido than most men. Fortunately now I am almost 50, I have finally found a male who is around the same level of libido as myself and so much fun is had on a daily basis.

Catalina

 

[skittles_lm]

Excuses, excuses.

*sticks tongue out at you* gee, Gracie, I made you truffles, too, but I left em on another thread.