I want to cry i am confuse

[Purrde Flower]

I'm talking to my ex on MSN and he is begging me to go to counseling with him now. When we were together he flat out refused

 

[The Squid King]

Sounds like it is too late.

 

[freakygirl]

How long have you two been split up? Is this an ex boyfriend or ex husband? Do you have any children together?

I know I'm being nosey.. and you don't have to answer my questions. But I can't base my opinion off the initial question.

 

[Kitte]

I'm talking to my ex on MSN and he is begging me to go to counseling with him now. When we were together he flat out refused

I dont have any words of wisdom to offer. Just a hug from someone who understands. After 8 years of of being together the last 3 of them hellish at times my ex and I split up. He had some MAJOR issues and refused therapy. You need to think about you though, do you really think therapy will help at this point? Or is he just in that Im lonely and seeking what is comfortable phase?

Anyways, I know it is rough so *big hug*

 

[Guest]

 

[Oilpainter]

Hang in there PF. Having an ex reach out to you is sometimes very difficult. I am assuming this person is your ex for a good reason. Just stand by your convictions and do what yor heart tells you to do. Good luck.

 

[Purrde Flower]

We are actually still married. He will fight for custody if i file for a divorce right now and even though im likely to win I just can't afford it. We have been seperated for almost 3 full months now.

We had a very rough marriage. he hit on me. He didn't beat me but hitting is bad enough. I was always blamed for everything even if I didn't do it. We fought all the time.

He once told me that going for help was a waste of his time

 

[Guest]

Follow your gut. And, be good to you.

 

[april-wine]

Is your life better now?

Would it be better if he was in it?

Do you need him?

Do you want him back?

What will your kids be exposed to if he comes back?



You need to think about you, and your kids.....Tell him to go to counciling it sounds like he needs it....Then base your next decisions on his commitment.......

Take care of you......You and your kids deserve the best, and sometimes that means taking the trash out.......

april

 

[freakygirl]

woo.. ok hard one.

Only you can answer the question "Is it worth it?". If he is abusive I'd have to say no, it's not worth it. But.. on the other hand.. going to counseling doesn't necessarily mean you have to get back together.

Maybe counseling would be good for him.. and you.. and any children you have. (Having a civil divorce and after divorce relationship is a wonderful thing for everyone involved).


The way I am today.. I'd do it. I was where you are now, 8 years ago, and no I wouldn't have done it then.

Good Luck.. I wish you the best

 

[Purrde Flower]

I feel a lot better. i was just so shocked and confused. and i am afriad of this. I am afraid of being weak again. I am a lot happier now and so are the kids. i am looking forward to my life. This was just the first time in 3 months that i questioned my decision and it startled me

 

[Nora]

Is he willing to drag his sorry ass to Austin to do it instead of making you schlep you and the kids down to Houston?

Is he gonna stick to it?

WHY does he suddenly want to do this? What's his motive?

Do you feel there's anything salvagable of the relationship, and is it WORTH it to YOU (not to your kids, to YOU) to take him back?

 

[brisbon]

We had a very rough marriage. he hit on me. He didn't beat me but hitting is bad enough

If I understand the meaning of that, he physically abused you?

If so, that kind of thing does not deserve a second chance, and in fact if he did physically abuse you, no doubt he is good at mental abuse also, in terms of custody of your kids, don't let him intimidate you, fight hard not only for yourself, but for your kids to.

 

[freakygirl]

I feel a lot better. i was just so shocked and confused. and i am afriad of this. I am afraid of being weak again. I am a lot happier now and so are the kids. i am looking forward to my life. This was just the first time in 3 months that i questioned my decision and it startled me

Honey, You have answered your own question.


Be strong.. and stand on your feet. Your children deserve that and so do you.

*hugs*

feel free to PM me if you need to talk

I know what you are going through..

 

[Purrde Flower]

Does anyone wanna come hold my hand this weekend when i go down there for a day and half? So far I have been able to handle seeing him with out thinking I need to go back one time. That is how I know I can make it.

It feels really great to have people to talk to even if I talk in circles

 

[Nora]

aww sugarplum! Wish I could, but I'll be up here at home waiting when you get back. Sunday, when you get home, you tell me everything, ok?

 

[Purrde Flower]

Will do that! Im comming home ASAP on Saturday though!

 

[Nora]

There ya go! And Sunday we'll sit and have girl time and you can tell Auntie Nora all about it! *pats your hand reassuringly*

Now, think of important stuff. What kinda food do you want on sunday? *grin*

 

[Purrde Flower]

For lunch right? Hmm something American prez. i don't like to eat strange or exotic foods on a first meeting!