I want out of the closet

[Ciceri]

I'm a gay man married to an oblivious woman. I've considered coming out countless times but I am unsure of one thing: Will I lose the novelty of being secretive about my sexuality? Is anyone out there regretful to have revealed himself only to feel.. bleh.. afterward?

 

[Buffy47]

Depends on you planning what life be like during and after divorce. Lose house lose kids?

 

[Sckrfay]

Depends on you planning what life be like during and after divorce. Lose house lose kids?

word. Kinda where i am.

 

[Buffy47]

word. Kinda where i am.

If life is so miserable you hate yourself then what ever happens would be better than what you have.

I'm guessing you have a Gay lover? Part you always have to remember is life at home is real life, bills, problems, and not always fun and anything secret is all exciting until thst life becomes real life then excitement ends.

 

[load69]

I'm a gay man married to an oblivious woman. I've considered coming out countless times but I am unsure of one thing: Will I lose the novelty of being secretive about my sexuality? Is anyone out there regretful to have revealed himself only to feel.. bleh.. afterward?

I have no idea if you will or not. I am bicurious so nobody but Lit friends know. It would be great to not have to hide it but I have too much to lose to have anyone find out.

By the way, you are absolutely one of the hottest panty/garter wearing guys that has shared pics here. I hope you keep posting more! DM me if you want to chat.

 

[Ciceri]

If life is so miserable you hate yourself then what ever happens would be better than what you have.

I'm guessing you have a Gay lover? Part you always have to remember is life at home is real life, bills, problems, and not always fun and anything secret is all exciting until thst life becomes real life then excitement ends.

Real life - as you mention - is not always fun but there is comfort in knowing I'm not alone in the endeavor of living. The fantasy is just an escape and only occupies a small part of my mind. Life is good. I wasn't trying to be a downer

 

[cdstefi]

I'm a gay man married to an oblivious woman. I've considered coming out countless times but I am unsure of one thing: Will I lose the novelty of being secretive about my sexuality? Is anyone out there regretful to have revealed himself only to feel.. bleh.. afterward?

Different situation but I am out to my wife as a crossdresser (she's fine with it and not threatened at all), I regularly wear lingerie and skirts/blouses around the house.

Having it in the open does lose some of the taboo thrill of sneaking it in secret. Before, I'd take whatever dress up time I could get and get incredibly turned on incredibly quickly. I'd usually cum inside a couple of minutes, although this would at least be partly down to being frustrated and backed up, whereas I can now do it whenever I like so there's not the same urgency to get it done.

Dressing is so normal for me now that I don't always even get erect or masturbate when I do, sometimes it's just going about the day but in a skirt, bra and panties.

 

[Ciceri]

Different situation but I am out to my wife as a crossdresser (she's fine with it and not threatened at all), I regularly wear lingerie and skirts/blouses around the house.

Having it in the open does lose some of the taboo thrill of sneaking it in secret. Before, I'd take whatever dress up time I could get and get incredibly turned on incredibly quickly. I'd usually cum inside a couple of minutes, although this would at least be partly down to being frustrated and backed up, whereas I can now do it whenever I like so there's not the same urgency to get it done.

Dressing is so normal for me now that I don't always even get erect or masturbate when I do, sometimes it's just going about the day but in a skirt, bra and panties.

I met an elderly gentleman online who has been crossdressing since the 50s. He says there's no eroticism anymore. He lives alone and doesn't hide anything. He has no 'male' clothes in his possession. Sounds a little sad.

 

[PinkPanties4me]

My situation is as such. I definitely have those bi sexually feelings and they are magnified when I dress in my lingerie. I have been married to my wife for many years.(50 this year) . She has included my fantasy in our sex life, which until a few years ago was active. But, my love for her and my family will not allow me to act out on my feelings. Having a family and my wife is more important to me. Something you should consider as I did.

 

[Sol41]

If the thrill of being exposed is what gets you going, theres a good chance coming out isnt what you think tou want.

Its hard, for reasons that are obvious, but its better for me than hiding and always worried about being exposed.

Theres a modern philosopher-type named Zizek who has a pretty good take on this, paraphrasing: in a lot of cases fantasy is a dream and its happy to be dream. And sometimes when fantasy becomes reality, it becoms nightmare.

 

[Ciceri]

My situation is as such. I definitely have those bi sexually feelings and they are magnified when I dress in my lingerie. I have been married to my wife for many years.(50 this year) . She has included my fantasy in our sex life, which until a few years ago was active. But, my love for her and my family will not allow me to act out on my feelings. Having a family and my wife is more important to me. Something you should consider as I did.

Having an affair 15 years ago ruined my life. I lost everything. I regained everything except my former wife. I was in a relationship with a man after my divorce and you'd think that satisfied my need to experiment but I still fantasize about that time. I should just be grateful for what I have. Can't live two lives. Thank you, btw

 

[Sckrfay]

If the thrill of being exposed is what gets you going, theres a good chance coming out isnt what you think tou want.

Its hard, for reasons that are obvious, but its better for me than hiding and always worried about being exposed.

Theres a modern philosopher-type named Zizek who has a pretty good take on this, paraphrasing: in a lot of cases fantasy is a dream and its happy to be dream. And sometimes when fantasy becomes reality, it becoms nightmare.

Word!

 

[Ciceri]

If the thrill of being exposed is what gets you going, theres a good chance coming out isnt what you think tou want.

Its hard, for reasons that are obvious, but its better for me than hiding and always worried about being exposed.

Theres a modern philosopher-type named Zizek who has a pretty good take on this, paraphrasing: in a lot of cases fantasy is a dream and its happy to be dream. And sometimes when fantasy becomes reality, it becoms nightmare.

Some of the best sex I've enjoyed was with a dominant man. Nothing comes close to that. When he first penetrated me - hands on my hips, then shoulders, then around my throat. It's become a regular fantasy but I have to let that go. Life goes on..