I want my wife's friends husband...

[Baskin Robbins]

I am 6'4" 190# Brown hair and blue eyes. I cry in movies and my wife is fairly masculine. She never cries and has expressed lesbian tendencies in the past. She won't admit it when sober, but the ONLY sexual fantasy she has EVER expressed involved a girl she was 'mortal enemies' with in high school. Her friend at work is exactly like her and her husband seems very much like me. We are all straight, but there seems to be a connection between him and me and my wife and her.

I need to tread very gently, but i really want him and I think my wife would enjoy "spending time" with her.

I need some help here!

I don't want ANY other guy except him. I don't walk down the road and see a guy and say, "I want him." He is the only guy I'm interested in...

Any advice?

 

[deezire1900]

Swinging is not an easy thing...so I have heard. Why not try one of those parties and see what happens. Do you have one in your area? Ask the couple to go, becuase you are scared to go alone.

My only question is...If you are interested in one guy and one guy only, why is it not ok for your wife to have been interested in that one woman and only that woman, sounds like a double standard to me.

 

[John Doe]

My advice? Have sex with them.

Swinging is not an easy thing...so I have heard. Why not try one of those parties and see what happens. Do you have one in your area? Ask the couple to go, becuase you are scared to go alone.

My only question is...If you are interested in one guy and one guy only, why is it not ok for your wife to have been interested in that one woman and only that woman, sounds like a double standard to me.

He didn't say anything about it not being okay for her to have that fantasy. If anything, she's the one who thinks there's something wrong with it if she can only admit it under the influence.

 

[deezire1900]

He didn't say anything about it not being okay for her to have that fantasy. If anything, she's the one who thinks there's something wrong with it if she can only admit it under the influence.[/QUOTE]

That has a harsh tone to it, jerk.

Your right, but what I was saying, or what I was hearing from him was he said she has ONLY had one woman that she expressed a interest toward, but now he wants her to pick this other woman...because he wants the husband...the ONLY man he has had interest in.

So...even thought he can't pick another guy who may be more available, he can ask her to pick another girl.

 

[John Doe]

That has a harsh tone to it, jerk.

Your right, but what I was saying, or what I was hearing from him was he said she has ONLY had one woman that she expressed a interest toward, but now he wants her to pick this other woman...because he wants the husband...the ONLY man he has had interest in.

So...even thought he can't pick another guy who may be more available, he can ask her to pick another girl.

What has a harsh tone to it?

He didn't say that either. He said that his wife and this other woman have a connection and that he thinks they'd enjoy spending time together. Nor do I see how he expressed the attitude that she should be interested in some other women besides her fantasy when he should only be interested in his fantasy.

The way it reads to me is he thinks it would be a convenient arrangement since it's two married couples who already have formed a "connection."

 

[Baskin Robbins]

It's fine if my wife wants to play with her friend. I'm equal opportunity here. He is just the ONLY guy I have been attracted to. Smart, successful, brown hair, blue eyes and fit. He reminds me of me...

 

[Baskin Robbins]

No need to be harsh... Just looking for advice!

 

[John Doe]

It's fine if my wife wants to play with her friend. I'm equal opportunity here. He is just the ONLY guy I have been attracted to. Smart, successful, brown hair, blue eyes and fit. He reminds me of me...

Not to say I told you so, deezire, but...I told you so.

Um, you're not sexually interested in him because he reminds you of you, are you? That would be a little weird.

 

[Baskin Robbins]

No. That's just twisted. He's a good looking, intelligent guy and I have high standards.

 

[brw02]

Good for you. I don't question your motives, but what's meant to be, will be. Good luck to you.

 

[Baskin Robbins]

Does anyone have any tips?!...

 

[deezire1900]

BR~

Is the wife of this guy, the woman you mentioned your wife was interested in? You said it was her mortal enemy in High School....Is it Hot guys wife?

 

[BoneyMoreOny]

tread lightly

I can certainly understand your desires, a friend makes the experience twice as good. If your wife does not agree, you have a problem. If she has similar desires for his wife, you might have mutual interest to work with. I am lucky, my wife and I are both bi, but we make sure we agree when it comes to sex. I would certainly recommend having the initial encounter to be private, for you or your wife. Swinging takes a special mindset

 

[bi_asian_guy]

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