I used to knock this board because of the typical turnouts and the idea that....

[Starfish]

hotmalestud looks for young virgin in tight panties to have wild love affiar over the phone, and the likewise, just seemed to be not getting anyone anywhere.

If a woman posted on here to the men, she'd be swamped and drown in replies and requests for cyber, and for her to write email to him. How is one woman supposed to reply to 10,000 men? It isn't possible, or likely that she would even want to try. Take the now infamous "Got fuzzy Zebra thong" thread.

Why then is it that a man could post....

Sincere man looking for a friend, maybe lover, to explore, and grow with, in all areas of life. I love to spend weekend mornings cozy in blankets with my partner and enjoy laughter, reading, coffee/cocoa drinking, lounging and more reading. I regularly love to cook exotic foods, and I like to go out dancing and walking through the city at night.

...........and get zero response???

It is because women are vaunerable on a board like this. It is true. There are liars and bad people all over the place, and I am sure there have been a few here, looking to prey on women.

It is Good to see that the impersonality of this board has faded a bit and people here, looking or not, are being more communally sociable.

It helps people to get to know, trust and feel a connection possibly?

Good luck to all you searching for whatever you are searching for. I hope the best for you.

I am looking for my mind. It's around here somewhere.

 

[PaganZepher]

Hello starfish!

Welcome to our little corner of Lit. Yes not everyone who posts on this board is a heathen. Ok at least not most of us. Well, at least not all of us! Some of us actually use the personal board as a place to put personal ads! (What a concept!) Others like to meet and greet both old and new friends her.

Some use this board as an alternative to the GENERAL board. I don't understand why? But it seems when we do read or post to the general board we find (more often than not) a bickering between the cliques there, a feudal domain of the landed gentry (read old timers) and the peons (read newbies), and the latest "I'm leaving" post. So we like it here! There are some great folks on the General board. But the fun here is much easier to come by. (BTW we are relatively speaking mostly newbies.)

So welcome to you Ms starfish!

 

[princess4u]

welcome starfishy

.....Good luck to all you searching for whatever you are searching for. I hope the best for you.....

imagine if you will that many of us are "searching" for nothing more than what the people on the general board are searching for - oftentimes it just feels a little more personal here ~

 

[sexyspank]

I think it is more personal here and the newcomers who are looking for that something special I usually advise to just post here ,become known and the rest naturally follows. I feel it is good to welcome everybody here and make them feel at home and I hope that I have done that. I think this works better than just one personal ad looking for......because people get to know you a little bit first.




Wendy

 

[Desdemona]

I'm searching for my lost marbles.....

Have you seen them?
I post on this board because I've made some friends here. Admittedly, some of us ARE heathens.... including my friend PZ who is obviously in denial about his heathen status. I've also been known to post on the GB and in other places too. It all depends on my mood.
Occasionally, I do get the odd unwelcome PM from some unkown perv. It's not a problem. I just either delete it or send a suitably scathing reply. It really is a safe corner of Lit for any of us to play in. Hang out once in a while. You'll see.

 

[LipstickKitten]

I agree. Posting here in the Personals is much more rewarding than on the General board. Even after all this time, I feel like an outcast when posting on the General board, where I've always felt right at home right here in Lit Personals. <sigh>

I'm a happy kitten. <purrrrrrrr>

 

[twodogs]

posting

I'm very new at this got lots of problems but nothing bad.
Icame here to meet people and make friends, Ifeel that friends well there no price you can put on them ,affairs are a dime a dozen ,dont get me wrong I love the women as much as anybody else but that's not why I'm here, your right they will tell them anything to get them lie, cheat , and what ever.
This old dog has been up and both sides of the street and throughthe allys I don't it all but what I do know there are a whole bunch of wonderful people in here that do not need to be led on or taken advantage of.
well that's my opinion for what it worth. TWO DOGS

 

[Starfish]

It is so true that people judge too quickly over on the GB, both newbies and oldtimers. I am guilty of it for sure. It isn't fair to new people, but I think that most people over there are not cliquish, as stated, but could see why it would be seen that way so I don't doubt the occurance of feeling out of place there. I've had it happen so I do know first hand, how it feels.

It is not that I don't see why you guys wouldn't feel comfortable over on the GB, because I myself am rarely feeling accepted or understood over there, but that in the ad section is where this community popped up. Don't get me wrong. I love the anarchy of it. Besides, I don't have disdain for random, unorganized occurances of people gathering. I just think it is interesting that this occured here. I wouldn't imagine it normally happening, but you all said it well that acceptance at the GB is quite a problem for many people. Don't I know it.

Back when I was a real newbie, a year before I was registered as G.R. which became starfish, I had joined under a name that was sexy, sultry and quite nice, but for the strange idea that because I was admittedly blonde in my name (I am no longer blonde), that I was dumb and most of the women talked to me as though I was a two bit whore of an unmentionable class, just out to sleeze around the board. It sucked. It was very unjust, but that is what I got for representing myself in a way that didn't sit well with others. I left lit and only reregistered as G.R. because it suggested nothing about me, and I was able to build my reputation on my mind and not my screen name.

Thank you for the welcome. It was well recieved.

Though I owe my allegiance to Laurel and Manu, not a section of the website, it is good to see you all found a place you fit into and can connect and feel good. I will be happy to have fun here and get to know you guys... Oh and being a heathen isn't usually a problem for me. It is psychotics and serial murderer/rapists I have issues with.


For validation's sake I will say and stand behind the idea that you are all correct. The problems on the GB are enumerable.

 

[LipstickKitten]

Starfish, it's nice to see someone with a long history here acknowledge some of the problems the GB has. I haven't quite given up on it. Through RPs I've met a lot of wonderful people who rarely visit the Personals but hang out in the GB. That leads me to believe that it can't be all bad, so...I'll keep trying over there. But really, my heart is here in the Personals. See?

 

[weathered2]

Thanks for this thread. I went to the GB looking for something besides just the usual pics, (not that there's anything wrong with them; I should be the last person to say that, obviously). However, on the GB, I've always felt a little behind, or out of synch or something. It's nice to know I'm not alone in that.

 

[LipstickKitten]

Me, too, weathered2. I always thought it was me, but it seems we're not alone in our feelings. Thanks for the validation.

 

[pipercatt]

Definitely not alone, Kitten. I post in the GB occasionally, but not very often. I like the personals board because it's less intense, maybe a tad more diplomatic. And easier to keep up with. But it's fun to get to know people on the boards. In my short time here, I've met some very nice people, and made a few online friendships, etc.

Still addicted...LOL

 

[PaganZepher]

Hi ya' Fishie!

I see that you do understand why we like it here and why we have the fun we have here. As with anywhere else on the boards our reasons for being here are as varied as the individuals that post here.

The only thing I may disagree with you about is the cliques on the GB. The majority of people there may not be in a clique. However those obvious cliques that do exist seem to cast a pall over the GB. The only other thing I don't feel comfortable about on the GB is "Where do these people come up with the ideas for the threads they start?" I mean this is a erotic literature porn site. We will not find the answers to world hunger, who is or is not a third world country, are the Taliban detainees legal POWs, etc. It seems we on this board don't need a "weighty question or lead in" to post. *Of course* they may post whatever they want. I guess I have enough *issues* and problems in RL. I don't need to take on things I cannot change.

However, I do post (now and then) on the GB and will continue to do so. It is just if my time is limited, I'd rather spend it where I will enjoy posting and reading the posts of others.

Ms Starfish I will post on your thread anyday! I like your sense of humor and your sense of fairness.

Oh and LipstickKitten? I have admired your posts and threads for a long time!

 

[Starfish]

I like all of this input. Thank you all for sharing. I hope others feel that they can express thier thoughts on this matter here.

I would like to spend the most time replying to what PZ said...

You've brought up an excellent side topic in your post about the type of posts on the GB and I'll be adressing that, but I wanted to make a general disclaimer on the matter of cliques first.

There are some unsaid things though that a lot of people don't think of, or overlook that need to be remembered. The General Board has History up the wazoo, and most of it has been rocky, troll ridden, and painful for many. It is a community that has esteemed characters, who by all means have established themselves and who have proven to be decent people. In that, they pride themselves in having fun, and speaking up against bullshit as they see it. There are a lot of people who come onto the GB and start threads that are just there to tick us off. They know it will push buttons, so they do it for a laugh. This is why I choose, from last Thursday on out, to never respond or give shit stirrers another bit of my energy. Other regulars do because they have something to protect and they feel that it is worth protecting.... their integrity. Well, often times, newbies don't realize that it isn't your opinions that others have a problem with, it is the way you convey them. They end up looking like assholse and then we have to stand up againt it because is isn't okay to just let the peace of the board fall to shit or else no one could play over there.

All in all it is just a respect matter. Those who have earned their reputation and tried to keep respect for others, have to be shown respect for a few things, before they'll embrace another person into their lives.... Don't ask me why, but I sort of see them as the morality police. They are needed. It is because of the long history of trolls that have plauged us. If not at least for some people setting a standard for respect, then those who never take on the responsibility to pall a shadow (of protectiveness) wouldn't have the half decent place to play that they do, over there.


These people, the regulars remember, are not without fault. Myself included. I see that fault yes, and that is where I also see the truth or should I say, the catylistic stance that is continually occuring there, that makes you all feel better and more comfortable over here.

Although we are simply trying to have fun, keeping the peace, and watching out for our friends is number one if we are to keep our integrity. If that is cliquish, then it is only cliquish because there is a bond there.

Now, some of them only seem to be exclusionary, but the truth is... they can't be there to open up to, and accept everyone as their buddy. There just isn't enough time in the world. They've gotten comfortable in their routine of things, and are fine with newbies and the inexperianced, but will not make an effort to get personal or strike up chat threads to openly embrace new people because they cannot afford the time it takes. Each one of those people you may have felt these vibes, that turned you off, from have very different reasons for being standoffish. I must include that not one of those people are alike enough or childish enough to the degree of being exclusionary based on a group mentality. You will only find a true group mentality over there on the matter of trolls and shit stirrers.... 'they suck, we hate them'. That is about all that any of us agree on. This is a fact.

Literotica.com is an Erotic Fiction Website that contains a bulletin board. In that bulletin board are different sections for people to read in, and post on. Those sections have different titles and that is because the are set up to be geared toward a specific area of sex and/or life. In each section, there are different groups that will congregate and talk about an array of things, not just sex.

The General Board is there so that people who don't want to talk about sex all of the time have a place to do so. If I feel like posting a thread about How I get my dog to stop eating my bra, I would do it there. Why? Because although it is a 'how to', it isn't a really sexual 'How to'. It is a general question. If I want to find out 'How to fuck the cardboard center to a paper towel roll?" I'd post it over on the How to board.

I've always thought of a Personals section as somewhere you'd only see personal ads, even if most are wasted to no replies. I liked the fact that I saw the threads here varied and more involved than normal, because I wasn't really aware that the talk over here was mostly sexual disscussion. This is a strange question, but do those of you who post in the personals section fell that you may be deserving a board of your own?

Maybe what lit needs is simply a Sexual Disscussion Board.
If those of you who post over here for sexual disscussion had a board on here like that, would you post there?


The reason I bring this up is that there are so very many people who do have a problem with sections of lit taking on forms that aren't what they are designed to be. It will eventually happen where someone comes along and rips this board a new asshole for not being straight in line with what they expect a Personals Board to be like. They may see it as that the topic threads make the ads fall to the wayside faster (I am not sure if they do, but I am just playing DA for the sake of looking at all things and maybe trying to solve problems before they start), who knows? But it is bound to happen. I am not saying that it even matters if it does. Most of you, I am sure, won't be phased by it.




Just a thought. My forsight is about 20/11 just like my eyesight.

 

[PaganZepher]

Thanks Starfish!

Hello Ms Starfish!

You last post (as with your others) was well written and informative. With all respect (and I really mean that) I think we will have to agree to disagree on the clique thing. When I read the posts of: blackpanther, ginny, siren, cheyenne, bratcat, juspar, dillinger, to name a few. I can't help but feel/notice the ones that always seem to be at odds with someone else. It never stays between the two individuals, but each side has their "camp" join in the fray. The stuff always seems to boil down to "newbie/oldie" or a difference in what is tasteful and what is not. I agree that some of what some people post I find offensive. But this is still a free speech site so I just read it (or not) and go on to something else. I cannot see the reasoning or value of starting another new thread, so the same people can say the same things about each other. IMHO

I also would like to say that even though the personal board is not a solid list of ads, it certainly is a great way to advertise! The online friendships that develop here I believe have gotten more people together in real life that a grouping of just ads. What better way to get to know someone than to see how they post and what they post about. I for one, would be very sad to see a regimented personal ad section replace what we have.

So Ms Starfish, a great day to you! You make a great ambassador for the GB!

 

[Starfish]

Now I see what you are talking about. I do. I actually agree with you too. That is weird that I never noticed that before.

I guess I am always so busy first noticing what is being aruged about and not who is doing the aruging.

Makes me glad I am not partial to a group before I am to my own sences.

Well, I am glad that this board is so benificial and productive now.

I wouldn't think that anyone would want to change it because it seems that there are no problems over here. I am hoping that none of the politics or crap finds it's way over here.

Take care all, and I'll be seeing ya around here!

 

[Cheyenne]

Interesting.

But I won't comment, I don't think I'd be welcome in your clique over here.

 

[on_the_verge]

Interesting.

But I won't comment, I don't think I'd be welcome in your clique over here.

You are kidding me aren't you?

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Re: Thanks Starfish!

When I read the posts of: blackpanther, ginny, siren, cheyenne, bratcat, juspar, dillinger, to name a few. I can't help but feel/notice the ones that always seem to be at odds with someone else.

OK, Juspar looking pretty offended here. I'm not on anyone's side, and apart from the fans of my various Av's, I have few friends.

Sincere man looking for a friend, maybe lover, to explore, and grow with, in all areas of life. I love to spend weekend mornings cozy in blankets with my partner and enjoy laughter, reading, coffee/cocoa drinking, lounging and more reading. I regularly love to cook exotic foods, and I like to go out dancing and walking through the city at night

Damn, I didn't think I'd posted over here before.

 

[LipstickKitten]

Hey, Cheyenne and Juspar, I for one would love to get to know you better. I have found it much easier to relate to people on this board than in GB. I'm glad that Starfish gave us some insight into the past problems on the GB. It helps immensely.

I for one will not give up on the GB but will probably always spend my time here in the Personals and in the RPs.

Hang around us here, my friends, and I bet you'll make some new friends. I have, friends I'll cherish the rest of my life.

 

[Smiley777]

.

 

[Starfish]

I feel bad, because the way I said my last post was like I was agreeing that Chey, and Juspar, and even another that I know are bad people, when they are not. I am sorry if it seemed that way, and I'll explain below why I said what I said.

But first, I would, on behalf of Chyenne, Dillinger, Siren, and Juspar like to stand up for their integrity. They are all decent people. Chances are that the shit that follows them around isn't their creation. The others are either obvious or I don't know them.


What I was saying was that I do agree that there are those who have shit following their names, and it is their own doing. That is where I see what Mr. Zepher meant. It had just then had the thought cross my mind that most newbies would feel overwhelmed at trying to figure out who is good, and who is a shit stirrer based on just regular skim reading of the board, and not following the whole ordeals in detail.

I think that those who lie, who take advantage of others, and those partake in egging on a situation by fighting when they aren't involved, unless they are being mediators, or those making mean insults at those who are already in strife here, are the ones to avoid.


From what I know Juspar isn't one of them.
Dillinger isn't either.
Cheyenne has lots of shit stirring around her, but only that which she has perpetuated is her fault. Not that of the cause of most of it. She is usually made out to be a witch by those who don't like the fact that she is flawless in memory and can catch an erroneous statement with no effort, and she isn't afraid to call a person on it, and that is why there is shit associated to her name, not because she has a bad personality.


I guess I just reccommend to all the new people....

Pay attention, and/or get to know a person before you tag a lot of ideas about them onto their name.

It is a big job taking on getting opened up to a huge community like this.

 

[Woodmiester]

First time posting on this board, I think, don't hold me to it

(Dream Scene)
I get up and step away from my keyboard becuase I see a glare upon the screen, and I feel an intense need to find out why, as I journey away from the monitor I see it's coming from outside and it looks like a strange brightness but warmer than the white lights I've come to know as daylight, and as I approach this rather large wooden thing set into the walls, I see a brass extension I think is called a doorknob, and I feel the need to touch it, to see what may happen.
Oh my god ...
It moved, and it's caused this panel to open. This strange new light has begun to pour into the room, but do I want to look out, do I dare attempt to find its source? I don't want to for I know now I have memories of it, I think it's called the sun, but it's scary too becuase being outside means reality, up close and personal.[/COLOR]
Warmth!!!
The memories come flooding back now, and they are good ones, friends, family, fellow co-workers, it's okay, it's going to be okay.


Awake Now

Well as I said this is my first post on this board and maybe I've pissed you all off right from the start, but that wasn't my intention if it has. In my fashion it's my way of saying, huh?
I've read all you comments on this thread, the first that seemed to me to be interesting, and I sit here thinking, okay, this is interacting, we either do or do not develop contacts, freinds and whatever, but with that being said do we not also have a choice using the internet that provides something that knowing another in our "true" fresh and blood lives that it doesn't provide? The ability to ignore? To just not respond?
All the this person and that person issues get old doesn't it? We have to deal with it enough in out daily lives, so why deal with it here? For me, I have my own reasons why I first came to literotica.com in the first place, so do you. Is it really all that important that we each know the others reasons? I don't know, maybe I'm just rambling for my own amusement or if normal, I'm just not getting what all the fuss is about, but I wish you all well, I hope this adds to the value of your lives, and I sure as hell hope I don't get any hate mail. ( ha ha , tension breaker )

Most of my life I've worked and dealt with the public, seeing the best and the worst in life, the good and the bad, happy and sad, but there's an old saying we used daily if not every few minutes, that seems fitting ........

"Fuck'em if they can't take a joke"

(edit addition)
I guess I should add that if anyone feels the need to bash or trash my comments, and you want me to see them, I don't subscribe to threads so you'd need to send a PM, but keep in mind attitudes of hate don't get to me, I really don't take too much serious, lifes too damn short for all that

 

[Juspar Emvan]

I think that those who lie, who take advantage of others, and those partake in egging on a situation by fighting when they aren't involved, unless they are being mediators, or those making mean insults at those who are already in strife here, are the ones to avoid.

From what I know Juspar isn't one of them.

Thanks Fishie, that was my point. There sure is some shit out there, and more than a few who attract the trolls. But I'm one who the shit follows, and I'm not a shit follower either. Once or twice I've poked my nose in to stand up for a fellow community member who deserves defending, but that's it.

I'm in agreeance that the GB can be a nasty place, that it isn't really the community I got addicted to a year or more ago. But things change, and there is still an awful lot worth paying attention to over there. Though I may find myself spending more time here too - it looks pretty relaxed.

Woodmiester - good point.

 

[april-wine]

Fishey, First I would say you are understood and respected, by more than just a few posters on the GB, I am one of those people who simply think YOU ROCK GIRL......

I have read this entire thread, I am not one of those people who gets tangled up in the messes at the GB....I do try so very hard not to FEED THE TROLLS, but sometimes you just got stand up and call an ass an ass....The GB has a wondeful spirit that sometimes gets buried under all the TROLL shit.....I know I have seen how the folks can band together and really do some good....Cases in point, helping Never in her cross country journey, and Bubblegum get away from an abusive relationship.....And right this very very second, there is an incredible support network happening for Dustygrrl, she too is getting out of an abusive realtionship.....

I know this gotten a little long winded, that was not my intention, I just wanted to extend a hand and say HELLO.....It would be a pleasure to get know you folks........