I told my sister I was bisexual...

[Volz]

And I'm not quite sure how to react to her reaction. lol

She seemed surprised. She said that while she didn't think the thoughts I have about women are wierd, but she's just shocked that I'm the one having them.

We talked for quite a while and I get the impression that she thinks that I think I'm bisexual, she thinks otherwise. It was really hard to explain my feelings to her. And I know she understands, as she done quite a bit of 'experimenting' in the past, I just don't think she took me seriously. And I really got tired of trying to explain to her the 'reasoning' behind me being bisexual.

And I'm sure me being married doesn't help matters either. That seems to be a hurdle with most people I know who are married and bisexual.

So, while I was excited to finally tell someone other than my husband, I really don't feel all the great about it.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

It's irritating when people project their feelings onto you. I've always felt very slimy whenever I've attempted to explain to others why I'm gay. It's almost like trying to justify why your hair is brown or your eyes are green. On top of that, it's rarely ever good enough for them. It's as if people are expecting some sort of cosmic reasoning behind why you're different from the masses.

At any rate, I'm sorry it didn't go as you'd hoped. Perhaps as she has more time to roll it around, she'll see things in a different light and wind up closer to the truth. I hope so. At least your husband seems at ease with it. That could be a little awkward, I imagine.



~lucky

 

[niteloser]

My sister came out as bi long before I even understood what that meant! so I've always knew that women like women and men like men. She was very supportive when she found out that I too was bi. I guess it doesn't make things easier on a marriage, but I'm sure you will find your way through. Any positive support is good when you're unsure of things. So I'm happy you revealed yourself! honesty isn't always easy but it is for the best most of the time!

 

[John Doe]

The marriage accompanying ___-sexuality is a problem with homosexuality too. People are like, "But he can't be gay, he's married!" because people just assume that people whoa re gay always knew they were gay or always accepted it or that people only get married for love/sex.

Likewise with bisexuality as you mentioned, not because the attractions wouldn't interlock, but because bisexuals are seen as sluts who won't commit.

 

[bimori]

I think it should'nt matter if your staight , BI , Gay . If your happy with yourself why does it matter to other people who or how you chose to have sex . I know I would tell anyone ( other than a partner ) . How or what I like for sex . I say stay out of my bedroom unless your here to play .

 

[sexy-girl]

i think sometimes people wonder what they're meant to do with the information ... maybe she wondered why you were telling her all this ... especially if you're married ... maybe shes wondering if you're going to split up with your husband

i think sometimes people have a hard time understanding that people sometimes want to talk about their sexuality just to get it out there

 

[Volz]

I'm very lucky I suppose. My husband is very comfortable with my sexuality (and his own) and has given me some freedoms to explore. We have an awesome marriage and I would never do anything to jeopardize what we have.

And that was one of my sister's questions. She asked, "Well, what if you decide that women are what you want?" I don't think understands that I want both. lol She's worried about me 'going gay' and giving up on my husband and the life we have right now. I explained to her that I am very much deeply in love with my husband and that we are happy, and I would never give that up. I think this is what confuses her. Oh well, I haven't talked to her since then, so I guess we'll see how it goes when I do talk to her again.


And thanks for all the support guys.

 

[niteloser]

I'm very lucky I suppose. My husband is very comfortable with my sexuality (and his own) and has given me some freedoms to explore. We have an awesome marriage and I would never do anything to jeopardize what we have.

And that was one of my sister's questions. She asked, "Well, what if you decide that women are what you want?" I don't think understands that I want both. lol She's worried about me 'going gay' and giving up on my husband and the life we have right now. I explained to her that I am very much deeply in love with my husband and that we are happy, and I would never give that up. I think this is what confuses her. Oh well, I haven't talked to her since then, so I guess we'll see how it goes when I do talk to her again.


And thanks for all the support guys.

I'm very happy to support you !

 

[geishaGirl]

i think sometimes people wonder what they're meant to do with the information ... maybe she wondered why you were telling her all this ... especially if you're married ... maybe shes wondering if you're going to split up with your husband

i think sometimes people have a hard time understanding that people sometimes want to talk about their sexuality just to get it out there

I would certainly agree with this I told my younger sister I was bisexual some months ago. She didn't seem too "caught off guard" or anything, she was a bit surprised, sure but she's the sweetest person I know and would love anyone dear to her no matter what.

I do think people don't realise that you just want to talk about it so somebody knows, you're revealing yourself and it's important to you

 

[MintSoda]

And I'm not quite sure how to react to her reaction. lol

She seemed surprised. She said that while she didn't think the thoughts I have about women are wierd, but she's just shocked that I'm the one having them.

We talked for quite a while and I get the impression that she thinks that I think I'm bisexual, she thinks otherwise. It was really hard to explain my feelings to her. And I know she understands, as she done quite a bit of 'experimenting' in the past, I just don't think she took me seriously. And I really got tired of trying to explain to her the 'reasoning' behind me being bisexual.

And I'm sure me being married doesn't help matters either. That seems to be a hurdle with most people I know who are married and bisexual.

So, while I was excited to finally tell someone other than my husband, I really don't feel all the great about it.

Bisexuals tend to get that response, as if it isn't an actual sexuality but a stopping point on the way to either fully gay or fully straight, as if we're just testing the water to see if we want to jump in.

I'm in a very similar situation where I've been engaged for almost a year now and with the same wonderful man for almost 5 years. I'd consider myself bi but in the time I've been with him I've only been with him, so by most people's standards I would be straight. My explenation when people ask why I consider myself bi is "if you only use a screwdriver to unscrew things is it any less of a screwdriver?" Just because I haven't been with women in quite some time doesn't mean I don't still desire them. My fiance has told me he would never deny me anything and that if I wished to spend time with women I was free to, but I've choosen not to.

As someone already said here, bi isn't something you do, it's something you are.