I told my girlfriend that I'm a Bisexual Guy !

[Samuelx]

I've been going out with this girl named Wendy for 16 months.



I recently told her that I was a bisexual male. She was mad. She was in denial about it. I told her that I loved her and had been faithful to her for the whole time that we were together. She said that she needed time to think about it.....she came back 3 weeks later and said that she wanted to give our relationship one more chance.


She's told me that she's been reading books on bisexuality and even watching videos in an effort to understand me. That's not all. She seems to think that I will only love her if she acts more masculine. I like her as a girl, thank you very much. She's shaved her hair and dresses like a guy now. That's not all. She bought a SEX TOY to USE on ME !!!! and I have always been freaked out by sex toys and such. I dont want to go through with it. I also want her to become a normal girl again. I just wish things could go back to the way they were. I care for her a lot and want to be with her. I want her to stop the freakiness.


How do I do that ?

 

[Jander1]

I've been going out with this girl named Wendy for 16 months.



I recently told her that I was a bisexual male. She was mad. She was in denial about it. I told her that I loved her and had been faithful to her for the whole time that we were together. She said that she needed time to think about it.....she came back 3 weeks later and said that she wanted to give our relationship one more chance.


She's told me that she's been reading books on bisexuality and even watching videos in an effort to understand me. That's not all. She seems to think that I will only love her if she acts more masculine. I like her as a girl, thank you very much. She's shaved her hair and dresses like a guy now. That's not all. She bought a SEX TOY to USE on ME !!!! and I have always been freaked out by sex toys and such. I dont want to go through with it. I also want her to become a normal girl again. I just wish things could go back to the way they were. I care for her a lot and want to be with her. I want her to stop the freakiness.


How do I do that ?

I went through a little of this when I told my wife, not to the same extent however. In my opinion I think its'obvious that if you have not already talked to her about this you need to do so. Best advice I can give is to explan to her that your need to share sex with a man is completely seperate from your relationship with her.

 

[Johnny Rockets]

I went through a little of this when I told my wife, not to the same extent however. In my opinion I think its'obvious that if you have not already talked to her about this you need to do so. Best advice I can give is to explan to her that your need to share sex with a man is completely seperate from your relationship with her.

Exactly...perhaps a more detailed explaination of the subtle nuances of the nature of your sexual relationships with men would also help to clarify your girlfriend's understanding of your unique desires.

At least she's trying, more than MANY females would...be patient, she'll be okay.

 

[BohemianEcstasy]

I'd explain to her why you told her--not because you want HER to change at all, but because you care about her deeply (just the way she is...er, um, was) and you just wanted to make sure she knows who you are, in your entirety. Tell her you like the old her!

 

[Wolf of Mibu 69]

Sounds like she's treating it like you're a gay man who just came out of the closet, and is trying to keep you for fear of losing you.

Stress to her that while you swing both ways, it's her you love and her you're devoted to. After she understands that, let her know that she doesn't have to change who she is just to "please" you, because you find her to be pleasing the way she is.

 

[Samuelx]

Sounds like she's treating it like you're a gay man who just came out of the closet, and is trying to keep you for fear of losing you.

Stress to her that while you swing both ways, it's her you love and her you're devoted to. After she understands that, let her know that she doesn't have to change who she is just to "please" you, because you find her to be pleasing the way she is.

Life is much better since those days.

 

[Kumani]

I've been going out with this girl named Wendy for 16 months.



I recently told her that I was a bisexual male. She was mad. She was in denial about it. I told her that I loved her and had been faithful to her for the whole time that we were together. She said that she needed time to think about it.....she came back 3 weeks later and said that she wanted to give our relationship one more chance.


She's told me that she's been reading books on bisexuality and even watching videos in an effort to understand me. That's not all. She seems to think that I will only love her if she acts more masculine. I like her as a girl, thank you very much. She's shaved her hair and dresses like a guy now. That's not all. She bought a SEX TOY to USE on ME !!!! and I have always been freaked out by sex toys and such. I dont want to go through with it. I also want her to become a normal girl again. I just wish things could go back to the way they were. I care for her a lot and want to be with her. I want her to stop the freakiness.


How do I do that ?

Sounds like she does not truly understand what you meant when you came out so to speak and told her you were a bi-guy. Maybe she misunderstood and thinks that you are gay and you do not or cannot appreciate her femininity.
Maybe your best option would be to have a full heart to heart chat with her explaining to her what your bisexuality means to you. Meaning how you classify yourself as a bisexual.
For instance there are some bisexual men who prefer only being with a male partner alone and a female partner alone intimately (not at the same time) nor do they like the opposite gender to act differently (meaning they don't want the female to be manly nor do they prefer a male that is feminine).
So the onus is on you. You need to speak with her. It is only with open honest communication that you will resolve this issue. After all you are the bisexual in question. Own your sexuality and what you prefer!
If you don't chat about it then you never know one day she might "bend you over" against your will.
Best of luck

 

[Samuelx]

Sounds like she does not truly understand what you meant when you came out so to speak and told her you were a bi-guy. Maybe she misunderstood and thinks that you are gay and you do not or cannot appreciate her femininity.
Maybe your best option would be to have a full heart to heart chat with her explaining to her what your bisexuality means to you. Meaning how you classify yourself as a bisexual.
For instance there are some bisexual men who prefer only being with a male partner alone and a female partner alone intimately (not at the same time) nor do they like the opposite gender to act differently (meaning they don't want the female to be manly nor do they prefer a male that is feminine).
So the onus is on you. You need to speak with her. It is only with open honest communication that you will resolve this issue. After all you are the bisexual in question. Own your sexuality and what you prefer!
If you don't chat about it then you never know one day she might "bend you over" against your will.
Best of luck

Whoa, that was SUCH a long time ago. These days, Wendy is the mother of my sons. We're good.

 

[Wolfman1982]

Whoa, that was SUCH a long time ago. These days, Wendy is the mother of my sons. We're good.

Congratulations about the kids Samuel

 

[Samuelx]

Congratulations about the kids Samuel

Thanks, Wolfman. How have you been ? It's been eternity since we last spoke.