I thought you people said my life couldnt get any worse!!!

[Naked Hunny]

We will start on a good point!! I start school on January 15th!! but I changed my studies tocomputer programming!

Bad day started when I called my mom all happy about school and she tells me to meet her at children and youth. My stepmother has accused me of sexually abusing snickerdoodle. Im a mess and i dont know what do anymore!! HELP!!! I took 4 valium and im still shaking!!

 

[Cheyenne]

I changed my studies tocomputer programming!

Can't help you there. I know the on and off button on the pc and that is about it.

As for your daughter, why worry if it isn't true? They can't prove something that hasn't happened.

 

[Naked Hunny]

Imnot worried because i know nothing happened but damn im already going through withdrawl i havent seen herin a week and now I cant see her til the case comes back

 

[Guest]

 

[KillerMuffin]

Firstly Nek, knock off with the drugs. They won't help your case regarding snickerdoodle. It will work out, it has so far hasn't it?

Secondly, find a lawyer.

 

[Whispersecret]

Ah, I second the tossing of the drugs. I know you didn't ask specifically for my opinion, but if you post your problems here, expect people to respond. Here's the tough love deal:

I don't know the details of your life. I haven't read all the threads about it, but I seem to remember you saying you were fighting for custody for your daughter. If you really want her as much as you say you do, GET SERIOUS.

If people are looking into your fitness as a mother, they're not going to look kindly on a person who tosses back large amounts of Valium as a matter of course, gets drunk, and frequents a porn site. Clean it up if you want to keep your daughter. For her sake as well as yours.

 

[Naked Hunny]

The Valium was actually prescribed to me. I hardly ever get drunk. And umm since when does frequenting a porn site make me a child molester

 

[Nogard]

You need to get your butt to legal aid today. You have some big problems facing you. You really need to do the legal aid thing today before this goes any further.

 

[Shylady]

Naked Hunny

I have read quite of few of your posts but have never replied before. YOu have on a number of times talked about your family and the things that go on there and the things that went on when you moved out .. the assualt charges and the lastest one was your ex stabbed and your friend missing .... Maybe you were innocent in these things but does your daughter really need exposure to this stuff?
If they have filed these charges on you then you should get imediate counsel. You should make immediate changes in your lifestyle. If you are serious about wanting your daughter then you grow up and be responsible.
Coming to a porn site does not make you a child molester but it won't look good for your credibility.
Starting school is a good thing but if you don't stay in school and study it won't do anything for you but waste the time and money that is being spent.

 

[CreamyLady]

I know you have a brain in there somewhee, NH. So sit down and think this through.

You can't keep hanging around here. No, frequenting a porn site doesn't make you a child molester, but it doesn't look good to the anal retentives at Child Protective Services, or whatever it is. The Valium may be a prescription, but given your family's history, ANY drug use is suspect. You take on the color of your surroundings, and that includes people.

So, turn off the computer. Get a lawyer. Get through this mess and get your life on track. Then, when you have things organized, come back and visit. Until then, though, we can't help you. You have to grow up and help yourself.

And if this sounds harsh, I've given a variant of this speech to my own daughter.

 

[Shelby]

NH - I am also thinking that this would be a good time for you to be very careful. I believe you gave this site to the police as an alibi when your ex was stabbed. That is now on a file with your name attached. You have posted quite a bit of very personal info on this site. I would be worried about someone gathering those posts together. I realize the chance of that happening is slim, but this world is much too small at times.

 

[Naked Hunny]

Well talked to the lawyer today. he is suggesting a lie detector test. The guy from child services told me he doesnt think this will gothrough the system and my father and stepmother are going to be investigated for making false charges with children and youth. Now my laywer is thinking i should make defamation of character charges or seomthinglike that!

so basically i just have to wait for the paperwork to be pushed then my baby is coming home!

 

[Guest]

Whispersecret, Shelby and Creamylady are right. Popping valium (prescribed or not) and whining about the things that happen to you aren't going to prevent them from continuing to happen, or fix things. Some of the things you describe are things you let happen to you, then you whine about how unlucky you are! (Your ex, for example. Why is this guy even in your thought process?) You need to straighten up, grow up, take charge or you will continue to see your life fall apart as you let others control it.

Millions of people have been in your position and reclaimed control. Maybe you could use your time on the 'net to look at the stories of Oprah Winfrey, the black judge with the TV show (I forget his name), Elie Weisel, and dozens of others who have battled difficult situations to see if they have any inspiration to offer you in your difficult struggle.

Good luck with your struggle. I hope that you never look over your posts in the future and realize why your daughter was removed from you.

 

[Madame Pandora]

The Truth of the Matter

Hmmm...

Okay. Speaking as a person who has worked with child services...that dog won't hunt.

Hunny, I think there is a more pressing issue here.

I have read your posts without comment, but I think there is real help you are asking for and it has little if anything to do with the subject of your posts.

I have noted MANY inaccuracies in your posts. Outlandish stories. If these really do indicate your life, then you have been both very lucky and very off the curb.

I think what's more likely is that you invent or over inflate these things because you want the sympathy or attention. Sadly, many people feel they have to create a crisis in order to be worthy of being noticed. You would not be the first or the last to do this on an internet BB.

Hunny, if you really feel that the only way you deserve attention is by this behavior, you need to get help. You need to stop making up ridiculous stories and you need to focus on the real issue. Your lack of self-esteem. You need the support of a trained professional.

I don't think I'm the only one who sees the impossibility of your posts. And, despite what I'm sure you will think, I'm not being cruel. I'm just trying to direct you to look at the REAL problem and get the help you need. Lies may be fun, and these false cries for help may give you the quick fix, but you need more help than you're ever going to find on a Literotica board.

I wish you the best of luck, sweetie. I really do. But I wish you luck with the REAL problem at hand.

MP

 

[Naked Hunny]

MP

i know you are new to the board and really dont know me but if you did I think you would realize that these arent stories or fabrications of my mind this is my life. And unfrotunately I deal with what is handed to me everyday. Why dont you talk to one of the people i converse with regularly this string of badluck is a new occurance i was once a very happy person who was trying to make single parenthood the best it could be.

 

[Guest]

It looks like we have another Patryn here. How many of us have told her why continuting to post here for now is a bad idea if she wants her kid back, which she says she does? And what's she doing? That's right guys, still posting here.

Why don't you get off the computer, find some REAL people to help you, and stop this fucking whining. Every time the 'spotlight' is off you on this board, it's time to feel sorry for Naked Dummy again.

Let me tell you something. If you've already changed your mind about school, you ain't got it. Try something, if you don't like it, then change your major. Your'e going to have to buckle down, log off every once in a while and study and learn. Your kid deserves a mommy that can support her, and if you have an education, she's more likely to go on to college when she gets older. I'm a first generation student, and let me tell you, it's not easy when you come from an uneducated background, so it's not going to be easy, but if you go through with it, you're going to have to committ.

To tell you the truth, I don't believe your stories either. You may be having problems, but no Dept of CPS anywhere is going to take a kid away from her mom for a simple assault charge unless there's something else going on. So it either never happened, or it's exaggerated. As for talking w/the people you "converse" with every day, all they have is your word. It's still not proof any of this is going on.

On the off chance this is really going on, get some damn help. None of us here can help you. Find a lawyer, find a shrink, and find a doctor. And like a few others have said, grow up. If you grew up in shit, join the club, but that doesn't mean you have to continue to live like that. You're an adult now, you control what you do and who you see. Choose wisely.

 

[Shylady]

Naked Hunny
It doesn't work that way...if charges have been filed no lie dectector test is going to make it go away just like that... I agree with MP not all of this is real and if it is then don't bring your daughter back in it.

 

[Guest]

Lie detectors aren't admissable in courts anyhow. Taking one wouldn't help you any at all. Although, it would be interesting to see you take one to see how much of this is bullshit.

 

[Naked Hunny]

If lie detectors arent admissable in court why would the investgator in children and youth suggest one?

 

[TN_Vixen]

NH

call me a sucker, but I do believe you. I believe all the horror and anguish that you've lived with prior to having snicker and after.... and at such a young age, it is easy for people here to, in their objective sense, to tell you to grow up. The fact is, you can't listen to someone's advice and do it,you have to live it...

Seems like you've chosen the hard road with your daughter and as a result are living the results. That's a tough thing and it is also very sad that your ex and his wife are taking over control of your God given right as her mother.

Truth prevails. The thing about truth is that it can be misconstrued.... if you are taking any kind of medication.. no matter what the circumstances, it can and WILL be twisted against you. If you drink, no matter how little, it can and WILL be used against you... if you are in any way violent or unpredictable in your behavior, it can and WILL be used against you.

No one says this is fair or right or just, they are just saying it IS. If you are going to put forth a strong effort to fight for your rights as a mother, you MUST... you MUST listen to us.

The Court, juries, the law can be interpreted in your favor or against. Pretty much everything you've said holds validity.... but your reactions to what has happened to you negates that validity and the end result is that those without violent actions are held more respectable. It shouldn't be so, but it IS.

Understand how to behave and portray yourself, no matter how demeaning or debasing that behavior might be to you in order to win back your daughter.

Going back to school is a HUGE plus in a Judge's eyes, Hunny... it really is.



I wish you only the best.

 

[Stormy]

Hunny, LIE DETECTORS ARE NOT ADMISSABLE IN COURT!!!!! You must have a quack for representation! Everyone knows this. If you don't believe us then research it for yourself.
As for your child, you better look at what you have to offer her and what the present custodians have to offer her and decide where she really needs to be. I have been with ya and defended you....but, hell girl, this child doesn't deserve what you are dishing her! She didn't ask to be brought into this world, now get off the drugs, seek help for yourself, lose the Literotica shit and grow up! I have 3 kids...you are really pissing me off with your sob stories. We all have problems...you gotta get with the program and do what's best for her or either walk outta her life and quit wasting our time. Prayer dear.....prayer works wonders!!!!!

 

[Bonnie Wee Lassie]

I agree with alot of what has been said on this topic. NH I think you need to listen to everyones advice here and get some help for yourself. The BB can only help so much. It is going to be a hard road to get your daughter back but the only way your going to be able to do it is give those people nothing to use against you.

I wish you luck on you fight.

 

[Whispersecret]

The Valium was actually prescribed to me. I hardly ever get drunk. And umm since when does frequenting a porn site make me a child molester

I'll grant you the Valium point.

As for the drinking, I don't read that many of your posts, but I seem to recall several instances where you've stated you were drunk on this BB. If I'm wrong, forgive me.

Frequenting a porn site does not make you a child molester. Give me a break; that's a lame retort. But if you're naive enough to think that Children's Services won't look at your participation here with a baleful eye, you'd better grow up fast or your daughter will be living elsewhere.

And I say "grow up," not because of your chronological age, but because of the immature attitude you display here. (Wasn't it you who said you told a family member that the sweater they got for Christmas made their wrinkles stand out? How mature is that?)

Hell, if the school board found out I came here on a daily basis and wrote smutty stories, you can be damn sure I'd be out on my ass with no references. Teachers have to be shining examples of moral purity for their students, just like mothers. Of course, that's not reality, but if the authorities are judging your fitness a mother, you'd better start acting as if you were Mother Theresa right now. School is a good start, but it's not going to cancel out the rest.

 

[Naked Hunny]

ok got a question then because honestly i dont know anything about the legal system if someone would answer me without yelling please

I was told there cannot be criminal charges pressed until children and youth finishes their investigation if it comes up unfounded there are no charges. can children and youth use a lie detector test for thier investigation?


another thing!! How does me letting my daughter stay with my father and stepmother thinking that would be best for her until i do get my life back together and then out of nowhere have accusations of sexual abuse fly at me make me a bad parent. I havent even seen snickerdoodle. Why because when i would call my dad he would never call me back!! I am so confused and honestly dont know who to trust anymore!

 

[TN_Vixen]

NH

The justice system is very complex... of course the theory is that you cannot be proven guilty of facts that have no real substance, however, circumstantial evidence - sometimes when given in enough abundance/sequentially.. can lead to the belief that there IS a substantial harm to the child from that parent who portrays such behavior/activity/verbal abuse, etc.

The Law is not iron, it is adaptable to whomever is able to present the most convicing and believalble theory.. either that or it goes in favor to those who are able to provoke doubt in the other person's story... look at OJ

All we're saying here is to act as if you're Mother Theresa, b/c that will not allow the other party advantage. DON'T give them the advantage, Hunny.