I think I'm falling for someone. But how do I tell her how I feel?

[Renegade]

When I first came to Lit, I did it for the storys and it was just another erotic story site. Then, I found the BB and began to post regulary in the SRP boards. Through that board, I met many new people and made many friends that I've enjoyed talking with.

Then one day, I started a thread where I met this one poster that I got along with right away. She was sweet, funny, smart, and made some great posts that I enjoyed reading and replying to. We continued to post together in more role playing threads then we started to talk through emails and IMs. At first, it was about the possibilty of doing or own story and submitting it to Literotica for approval. But soon, we just talked to talk with each other. I found that she was a good person and shared alot of the same interests that I did.

After talking like this with her for awhile, I soon realised that I had began to have feelings for her that where more then those of friendship. Things where going great until something happened between us. I'm sure some of you know about the trouble I was having during most of November with certain posters here that got under my skin. Well, when that happened I just didn't feel like talking to anyone on the web anymore. Because of that, I might have hurt her since we've seem to have drifted apart ever since.

Now I'm trying to rebuild our friendship that we had because, in that time that we stoped talking, I realised just how much she meant to me. I've sent her an email explaining how much I like her as a friend, but have not told her my true feelings yet. The reason I'm having trouble telling her is, basicly, I've never felt this way about ANYONE. Ever.

I'm just so worried about what might happen when I tell her. How do I do it without coming on to strong? Does she have these same feelings for me? Am I rushing into this to fast? These are just some questions that have been running through my head lately.

So my question to you all is: How do I tell her how I feel without coming on to strong or scaring her off? I've never felt like this for anyone before, and I just don't want to ruin the whole thing. Plus, I'm not sure she feels the same towards me.

Thanks for any advice you might have.

[Edited by Renegade on 01-20-2001 at 07:41 AM]

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Bobtoad777]

over the phone or in the email or just point her to this thread

 

[Cheyenne]

I think you just did tell her, if she is a Lit member and reads the boards...... if she reads this and she's interested, maybe she'll contact you?

 

[Renegade]

I think you just did tell her, if she is a Lit member and reads the boards...... if she reads this and she's interested, maybe she'll contact you?

She just comes here for the Role Playing boards. She sometimes goes to the General Board but never visits any of the other boards so I doubt she's seen this. That's part of the reason why I put it here instead of the General Board. That and because it fits here more.

 

[Silverlily]

Ren, two things -

1. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Yes, there is a possiblility you could get your feelings hurt, but don't let that stop you from trying.

2. Good luck, of all the people I've RPed with, you're one of the ones who deserves to find some of that in RL.

 

[Cheyenne]

In that case, then I agree with Kitten Eyes. Tell her and see what happens.

 

[Skibum]

Go ahead and tell her. I told the person that I care about, and it has changed my life. For the better.

Look at it this way, you have nothing to lose from telling her, and everything to gain. Just be honest with her.

I hope it all works out for you as well as it did for me.

 

[Hecate]

sorry to jump in and go off topic for a second ...

just wanted to say I am happy for you and the sweet Lady in question Skibum ... although I don't know her too well I would say she is a special Lady who deserves all happiness - as do you! Good luck to the two of you - specially seeing it won't be easy ...

To be back on topic ... I too am one of the "tell her" people ... I am thinking (by the amount of conversations you had) you have a fairly good feeling about her sentiments towards you and you have to realize that specially in an on-line relation there is only ONE WAY to let the other know ... you have to fess up to your feelings by telling ... no gestures, no hidden winks or smiles ... not the quiver in your voice or the way she sits - acts - reacts when being with you ... there is only one additional suggestion I would make - if you are in serious doubt about her feelings (and maybe yours?? is it really more than missing her just because you were used to have her "around"??): talk to her on the phone! Voices do tell more than merely the words spoken - and I would assume it is an indicator for you if she is willing to take that step to find out some more about her feelings in advance.

Not a lot of help, huh? I admit it has been a while since I found myself in that situation .. and then I usually blurt out with my feelings before thinking about it *sighs* ....

 

[Renegade]

Update

First off: Thanks to everyone here for their help in giving me the support to go ahead and tell her how I feel. I truly do appreciate all the advice you gave me on how to handle this matter. So I thought I'd give you all an update on what's going on with me and my special lady.

A few hours ago before I post this, I told her how I feel and that I was interested in having a long distance relationship. There was some talking going on about how this could affect our friendship if things didn't work out. But after some talking and thinking, we came to a decision. And I am very happy to announce that we are now a couple!!! She told me she had feelings for me to, and we have decided to try out an internet relationship. So that's right ladys, the Latino Heat is no longer single and is taken by a woman that he cares deeply for. We even started our own private thread in the SRP board so that we can post together without having to worry about others getting in the way(no offence to any role players here).

So I just wanted to say thanks to those here and those who I talked with over IMs(you know who you are)for talking me into telling her how I feel. Now I'm going to do the best I can to make this relationship work out for the best.

Thanks again.

 

[Cheyenne]

Nothing like a happy ending!!!

May you be the next Siren and Wolfie of the board, although I know it is too early to put that pressure on you.

 

[Skibum]

Re: sorry to jump in and go off topic for a second ...

just wanted to say I am happy for you and the sweet Lady in question Skibum ... although I don't know her too well I would say she is a special Lady who deserves all happiness

Thank you so much, Mistress Hecate. I certainly agree with you about how special my Love is. I intend to do all that I can to bring her a small measure of her much deserved happiness. The good wishes of our friends at Literotica will go a long way towards easing the road we will be traveling.

 

[Guest]

Latino Heaaaaaaaaaaaaat!

And Mrs. Heaaaaaaaaaaat? (Okay, so I am jumping the gun here. Sawwy __________.) I am so glad that things worked out for ya this way hon! As I can tell from some other friends of mine, you've got yourself a good lady there. And, ___________, you have yourself a WONDERFUL young man! Peace and happiness to you both! I'm glad I was able to help Ren.


~Tiggs~
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[teresafannin]

Hi Renegade, I wish you both the best. I hope everything works out for you. I am one of those hopeless romantics & hope you get the happy ending you both deserve.

 

[pistol pete]

Let her go...
look at it this way...she helped you
discover some inner emotions...
take away a good memory and a smile...
and leave her smiling too !!!
she'll be back...someday...
but don't wait around..***** is too short !!!

 

[Renegade]

Good point Pistol Pete, but I've already done it and we're a couple now. We've already agreed that if we ever did break up(which I hope doesn't happen)that we would do our best to stay friends. But thanks for that different look on the situation.

Tiggs, yeah I think that is jumping the gun just a little don't you? lol We've only been a couple for a couple of days now and already your talking the big step! But hey, if things work out between us who knows what might happen down the road right? And thanks for not saying her board name, but I think people who read the SRP board already know who she is.

Thanks again everyone.