I Think I'm Cursed

[StarvingNympho]

Well, here was my weekend, and besides the wind blowing at 120 mph, I struck out, not once, but TWICE.

I posted to a site I tend to read, and I made it plain and clear what I wanted, which is something I have never been so blunt about: a good thorough fuck. I blush when I do say such things, only because I almost feel wrong for being so upfront. I asked for said person to be clean, drama-free, no mindgames, no bullshit, and what have you. So, three guys instantly messaged me, and I responded to all three, but I didn't hear anything except from one guy. It figures I had to choose the one who was the nanosecond man. He was pushy as Hell, and I hate being rushed, so that turned me off right away. This is how it all went down.

Small talk (which is okay in some cases, but not what I wanted to do that night), me making the first move (I'm a submissive, so that was uncomfortable for me since he was dragging his feet), I started sucking him, and he instantly thrust himself down my throat when I wasn't ready. I figured maybe it was his nerves, but oh no, I was wrong. He took my nipples and twisted them like they were TV knobs (OUCH! Dude, they're sensitive!), and I smacked his hand away. Then, he flipped me over, and in under 10 seconds, he came, and I kicked him out. Let's just say I won't be contacting him again.

I just wonder if I should completely give up, cut my losses, and go back to the boring and unsatisfying world of celibacy. I'm really beginning to think something's wrong with me.

Any feedback would be most appreciated.

 

[RURAHRAH]

Fuck no. That guy was an asshole and a shitty lover to boot. You did the right thing by kicking his ass to the curb. But never give up - my experience is that for every horrible, lazy ass fuck there is out there, there are many more people who would, at the very least, give you a decent lay. Sure the "cream of the crop" if you allow the pun are hard to find, but don't give up just because one cock sucker couldn't hold his load, or even had a vague idea of how to satisfy you....

Hope that helps....

 

[funny215]

alright, alright, let me step in and try to help if i can. It wasnt so much who you were with, but how you went about it. I understand in declaring what you want, a solid fuck. However i dont think coming onto a lit site like LIT will help you find that. Because most guys on here that would respond to that, which is no offense or says anything about you, are guys who never get sex either because they are bad at it, or no women would want to.
Taking a roll of the dice on here is risky because you probably wont find that great guys who would give you the stamina, endurance, the experience you need. So i wouldn't let yourself get too discouraged. Remind yourself that you had a dud, that maybe finding someone at a bar, or somewhere in public might be better. Because judging on how he lacked as a lover, it wasn't you. Chalk it up to a bad fuck, and move on, don't let it faze you too much.

 

[StarvingNympho]

Let me clarify a few things.

A. It was no one I met through here.
B. I will not settle for anything than what I want, and if they can't handle being upfront from the very beginning, that is their issue, not mine. I am comfortable in my own skin, for once.
C. I am exactly the same person online as I am in real life. It seems honesty is becoming more rare as time progresses. I guess I'll wait until I attempt it again, much to my chagrin. Patience is not one of my better virtues, and one of my biggest character flaws.

Thanks for the responses so far. I'm heading for bed.

 

[KraZyCisco]

I personally think its not your fault. They guy is a stiff, period. Just keep being who you are.

 

[robertjhu]

first fucks can be difficult

Sex at its core is a relationship building activity.

If you think of it as a pure sexual act without the relationship building part it will probably not work even if he is a slow luxurious lover who builds a nice feeling and finishes with a nice affectionate fuck.

I have had a lot of first time encounters most of them go very well some don't. But all of them were the first time with the anticipation of many more to cum.

A lot of people just don't know how to love a woman.

Sorry it did not work out believe me there are a lot of men who will provide the sexual satisfaction you desire. Many who probably know you and are around you all the time.

If you would like a nice affectionate fuck that is bent on satisying you and making you feel like the lover you are email me I get around the country quite a bit so no matter where you are I can stop by.

One suggestion that I can make is see if there is a massage class going on around you somewhere. They have one day or week long classes for people just wanting to learn. There will be a few men there who are learning how to arouse a womans whole body. I always start my new lovers with a deep warm body massage so that I get to know her body before I taste or plunge into it.

Wish you had contacted me you would be sending a very nice this works email to this site rather than a the world is fucked up posting

 

[KinkyBoyUK]

sorry to hear about your experince, as you said you wernt so sure about him in the first place with him being pushy. i wish i could give you some great answer or some advice but alas i cant. most people are selfish and are only interested in getting what they want. but that isnt everyone, there are some of us still out there who arent just after their own interests, dont let him and others cloud your judgement of us all.

 

[RainWizard]

Dont give up!

You aint cursed. Ya just got burnt on that deal.

I go fishing, sometimes I catch big ones, sometimes little ones and other days I strike out...course at least I can call those days just another nice day at the lake. But I learn something everytime.

There's plenty of guys out here that believe if it aint "Rocking your world," they aint doing it right! Keep yourself happy...and maybe chat 'em up a little more next time. If he cant keep the conversation going and make points over coffee...it might be tough in bed too.

I'm pulling for you and thinking the horniest...er happiest thoughts for ya! Good luck

 

[Gac1]

Just a bad night

Thats what I'd call it guys who think they're great usually aren't a guy who wants to get to know you mentally is going to want to get to know your body intimatley.

If they guy can't chat he doesn't have enough imagination to satisfy you. dump him then, don't wait to get dissapointed.

You know he thinks he was great and he's out telling all his friends how great a stud he is. That type of guy isn't worth the salt in his sweat when it comes to making love.

Perhaps you need to get a fuckbuddy someone you're mildly attracted to but have no long term plans with. Someone who is willing to learn how to please you Someone younger is better, so I'm told by people who've had success with it.

better luck next time.

 

[HL55]

Assholes give us Men a Bad Rep....

Sorry lass for what happened, You are not cursed just ran into oen fo the many HNGs who are incapable of growing up... Your wants needs desires are no less important than any man who replys and or repsonds to you please don't lump us all in with the lil boy who failed... Unfortunately many abound in online whose only claim to manhood is a decade or more of heavy breathing..... Yes a nice mutual fuck session is sometimes what we want and need yet failing to find is more common than success.... Now if only local to you would gladly share a nice night/day of great orgasmic sex if IM helps chat with me anytime lass
pax HL

 

[wickedlady31]

hmmm

well maybe upon meeting him, whom ever he will be, be up front about your expectations in duration of sex. Tell him, if he is a minute man...go jerk off and come back when he is ready for some real fun.

 

[seattledv8]

I can't see that you did anything wrong. Just bad luck to hook up with a selfish jerk. From all that went down its pretty clear the guy was only interested in his own feelings. even his attempt at foreplay...(feh..sigh...how can I even call that foreplay) ..was not about arousing you but more his over aggressive sexual urges. On the other hand He can't get to many repeat lovers...lol.... sounds like he might have got off with a veiw off the crack of dawn. Bad luck aside you sound well ajusted, in tune with your body and sex. Not to mension very sexy....wishing your better luck....and an attenive lover...hmmmm...only thing between us is the Cascades...

 

[RainWizard]

well maybe upon meeting him, whom ever he will be, be up front about your expectations in duration of sex. Tell him, if he is a minute man...go jerk off and come back when he is ready for some real fun.

Aw Wicked...love that AV! Reminds me of a cover on one of the sci-fi fantasy novels

I'd read anything with a sword, a dragon or a scantily clad gal on the cover...preferably all three

 

[panty_inspector]

Well, here was my weekend, and besides the wind blowing at 120 mph, I struck out, not once, but TWICE.

Any feedback would be most appreciated.

a cautionary tale, to be sure.

the net is certainly filled w/ all sorts, so (just for my money) it makes sense to take a bit more time to find out just who this person is that you're planning on coupling with.

and don't give up: first, it could be worse- you could be in a guy's shoes posting and get no replies, except from gay men looking to convert you .
second, there ARE worthwhile men out there, it just means more homework to find 'em.




good luck out there!

 

[borg3of4]

It's really kind of amazing that the guy could be so out of touch as to what was expected . I just can't think how he can act that way .
I think he would be a definite keeper in the fucking loser category .
First times can be a little awkward ,but isn't that when a lot of slow foreplay comes in handy? Well ,better luck next time.

 

[pokerface01]

Too bad you're in WA. The roll of the dice can turn up good results occasionally. though I likely wouldn't have made the first move.. you wouldn't have been let down. Hope future experiences treat you better.

 

[Stiffy Says...]

Well, here was my weekend, and besides the wind blowing at 120 mph, I struck out, not once, but TWICE.

I posted to a site I tend to read, and I made it plain and clear what I wanted, which is something I have never been so blunt about: a good thorough fuck. I blush when I do say such things, only because I almost feel wrong for being so upfront. I asked for said person to be clean, drama-free, no mindgames, no bullshit, and what have you. So, three guys instantly messaged me, and I responded to all three, but I didn't hear anything except from one guy. It figures I had to choose the one who was the nanosecond man. He was pushy as Hell, and I hate being rushed, so that turned me off right away. This is how it all went down.

Small talk (which is okay in some cases, but not what I wanted to do that night), me making the first move (I'm a submissive, so that was uncomfortable for me since he was dragging his feet), I started sucking him, and he instantly thrust himself down my throat when I wasn't ready. I figured maybe it was his nerves, but oh no, I was wrong. He took my nipples and twisted them like they were TV knobs (OUCH! Dude, they're sensitive!), and I smacked his hand away. Then, he flipped me over, and in under 10 seconds, he came, and I kicked him out. Let's just say I won't be contacting him again.

I just wonder if I should completely give up, cut my losses, and go back to the boring and unsatisfying world of celibacy. I'm really beginning to think something's wrong with me.

Any feedback would be most appreciated.

Any guy worth a shit would treat you with much more respect - plain and simple!

Instead of giving up, I would just make sure you learn how to better weed out his kind...what were the warning signs, what questions would you ask now that you may not have then? Life's all about experiences, and learning from them.

 

[StarvingNympho]

After pondering, reading and reflecting on that night, I realized now that I won't make the same mistake twice. I am thinking of restrategizing my whole notion of sex and what I want/need/etc. If it doesn't frost my flakes, I won't bother responding. Someone mentioned to me earlier this week about the lost art of 'the thrill of the chase'. I think I may do just that.

 

[panty_inspector]

After pondering, reading and reflecting on that night, I realized now that I won't make the same mistake twice. I am thinking of restrategizing my whole notion of sex and what I want/need/etc. If it doesn't frost my flakes, I won't bother responding. Someone mentioned to me earlier this week about the lost art of 'the thrill of the chase'. I think I may do just that.

i know it's a terrible cliche, but when you least expect it, well..... happens!

 

[StarvingNympho]

I try not to expect too much these days. I don't want to get my hopes up and the like. Oh well, another night alone, freezing my buns off

 

[Canadian169]

Sent you a PM a bit ago

 

[SophieUK]

I try not to expect too much these days. I don't want to get my hopes up and the like. Oh well, another night alone, freezing my buns off

Poor honey , a cautionary tale indeed... I think its a good learning point to remember the thrill of the chase though (makes it all the more worthwhile for li'l ol' me to tease it our a lot!)

Then there are women

 

[RainWizard]

I try not to expect too much these days. I don't want to get my hopes up and the like. Oh well, another night alone, freezing my buns off

Aw...if they wasn't so much snow on them mountains I'd bring ya a bun warmer

 

[Damanshot2]

hi there,,

Well,, let me first say that I'm sorry that you experienced a 60 second man.

Speaking from experience, it can and does happen to every man,,, I myself have been so turned on by a woman that it was a very short ride... and then there is the ones that seem to go on forever... (by they way, when I say short ride, I don't mean 60 seconds,, it lasted longer than that,,,LOL)

I'll make one suggestion for you.. and please don't take this wrong, I mean nothing more than to offer an alternative..

You might try finding more than one man at time.. Ya know,,, kind of a gang situation... Just a thought..

 

[Stiffy Says...]

While not preferable...

I try not to expect too much these days. I don't want to get my hopes up and the like. Oh well, another night alone, freezing my buns off

...it can make you appreciate a good partner when they come along. Just make sure they respect you, and show it in the little ways first. Hope you stayed warm, and have had good days since.

...my method of keeping warm on these recent cold nights? Turn off the heat in the living room and the cat comes in to leech my heat on the bed - far from satisfying like a lover, but nice on a wholly different, non-sexual level.