I shouldn't be feeling this way, but I do.

[SnoopDog]

Yesterday my g/f broke up with me. We had been together for three weeks only and never got beyond some kissing. I also expected this to come for about a week now (she was behaving really rejecting) and honestly I wasn't in love really and I have fallen in love with another girl (see other thread). So I should be cool about it, even glad and happy that it ended without a fight or anything.
Yet - it hurt. Damn much so. Had been lying crying in my bed this night. Why?

Feelings really can be confusing. They always do what they want, never listening to the mind.


Snoopy,

 

[English Lady]

A break up, from any side, is never easy Snoop. It hurts just because it's two people finding out they're not meant to be. It's natural love *hugs* you'll pick yourself up, I'm sure!

 

[mack_the_knife]

Nature of the beast, man. If it didn't hurt when it fails, it wouldn't feel so good when it succeeds.
Better luck next time.

 

[Seattle Zack]

Dude, where is your dad?

I hate to say this, but I bet you were raised by a single mom.

At your age, you should be jumping on anything that moves. I know I was.

You've posted before, I know, but really ... nut up, man. Fuck 'em and leave 'em, that should be your mantra from now on.

You're in your early twenties, there ain't no true love there. You need to move on to the next one. Grab your balls and go after another one. Go have some fun. Screw her, the next one will be better.

--Zack

 

[scheherazade_79]

Sorry it didn't work out, Snoop. Rejection always hurts, no matter what the situation. I once dated a girl for a little while. We obviously weren't all that compatible. One day she told me that she didn't see 'us' as a long-term thing. I was devastated - even though I would have been stressed beyond belief had she suddenly declared her undying love.
Another example - don't you always feel a little miffed if a dog or a kid runs up to the person you're with, but blanks you out? Even if you don't like dogs or kids all that much, it still hurts a bit.

I'm going to be bold and tell you not to follow Zack's advice. Despite what men think, it's not attractive for a woman to know that her prospective mate as screwed everything that moves. It makes you start worrying about STDs and whether or not that person is capable of forming a long-term commitment. Just be yourself, Snoop. Someone'll come along who'll sweep you off your feet, and you'll have the same effect on them. Just have faith in it. It'll happen.

 

[SnoopDog]

A break up, from any side, is never easy Snoop. It hurts just because it's two people finding out they're not meant to be. It's natural love *hugs* you'll pick yourself up, I'm sure!

Thnx for the hug. Needed that.
Of course she said all the cliché things like it not being because of me but her and so on. But I know for a fact that it WAS about me and that she - though she might find me attractive - could never fall in love with me for real. *sigh*

Nature of the beast, man. If it didn't hurt when it fails, it wouldn't feel so good when it succeeds.
Better luck next time.

Well, I wish it would succeed some time.

Dude, where is your dad?

I hate to say this, but I bet you were raised by a single mom.

At your age, you should be jumping on anything that moves. I know I was.

You've posted before, I know, but really ... nut up, man. Fuck 'em and leave 'em, that should be your mantra from now on.

You're in your early twenties, there ain't no true love there. You need to move on to the next one. Grab your balls and go after another one. Go have some fun. Screw her, the next one will be better.

--Zack

Actually I haven't been raised by a single mom but my parents probably taught me to always be nice and trustworthy and political correct, etc. So I wouldn't play or fuck around. Then again I don't have the chance to do so because I've only found one woman in this world who was a bit attracted to me - which was her.

Sorry it didn't work out, Snoop. Rejection always hurts, no matter what the situation. I once dated a girl for a little while. We obviously weren't all that compatible. One day she told me that she didn't see 'us' as a long-term thing. I was devastated - even though I would have been stressed beyond belief had she suddenly declared her undying love.
Another example - don't you always feel a little miffed if a dog or a kid runs up to the person you're with, but blanks you out? Even if you don't like dogs or kids all that much, it still hurts a bit.

I'm going to be bold and tell you not to follow Zack's advice. Despite what men think, it's not attractive for a woman to know that her prospective mate as screwed everything that moves. It makes you start worrying about STDs and whether or not that person is capable of forming a long-term commitment. Just be yourself, Snoop. Someone'll come along who'll sweep you off your feet, and you'll have the same effect on them. Just have faith in it. It'll happen.

Thnx a lot. Well, I couldn't do as Zack suggested even if I wanted to. I'm trying to keep my faith but if things don't work out with this new girl, then I'll probably be down in the dumps for a while.

Snoopy

 

[Liar]

Get used to it. Luve, lust and all that funky stuff is supposed to be a crossfire of conflicting signals. That's part of the experience.

I remember the most important thing I took with me from my first few relations: The knowledge that having relationships was not only meant for other people, but that I too was good enuff for a girl. Which meant that from then on, if I was interrested, I dared to jump into the deep end of the pool and ask them out. Rejection ain't that bad once you get used to it, and you never know which shoe that fits if you ton't try it out...uuh...or something like that.

Onto the next one. Giddyup.

 

[impressive]

 

[Guest]

Get used to it. Luve, lust and all that funky stuff is supposed to be a crossfire of conflicting signals. That's part of the experience.

I remember the most important thing I took with me from my first few relations: The knowledge that having relationships was not only meant for other people, but that I too was good enuff for a girl. Which meant that from then on, if I was interrested, I dared to jump into the deep end of the pool and ask them out. Rejection ain't that bad once you get used to it, and you never know which shoe that fits if you ton't try it out...uuh...or something like that.

Onto the next one. Giddyup.

Excellent advice.

Snoop, there are so many girls out there. You've got all kinds of time and so many delightful things to discover. Surely you'll need to stop and smell a few roses on the way to finding the true rose for you?

But you need a little time to get over this. And of course you will. And all that experience will help in how you pattern a lasting relationship.

 

[Guest]

Dude, where is your dad?

I hate to say this, but I bet you were raised by a single mom.

At your age, you should be jumping on anything that moves. I know I was.

You've posted before, I know, but really ... nut up, man. Fuck 'em and leave 'em, that should be your mantra from now on.

You're in your early twenties, there ain't no true love there. You need to move on to the next one. Grab your balls and go after another one. Go have some fun. Screw her, the next one will be better.

--Zack

Zack, the only thing I agree with is your last sentence. "Screw her, the next one will be better."

The bit about "probably being raised by a single mom" is a heartless slam.

And the rest of it sounds like some prepubescent wet dream.

 

[Quiet_Cool]

I can't say that Zack's words lack any type of wisdom, but it's not Snoop. I can tell just by reading his posts. Honestly, it was never me either. For some guys (too many, IMO) it works though.

In all honestly, Snoop, the truth of it lies in what Mack already said. The spectrum has two ends, the good and the bad. You can't have one without the other. When you find one that works (and I saw the other thread, this girl seems good for you, but try not to get head over heels too fast, it blurs the vision) it'll be worth the pain, looking back.

And take my word for it, friend: there's always another girl who's interested. Sometimes you don' know she's there, but she is, and always will be.

Q_C

 

[SnoopDog]

Thnx everybody for your kind words so far.

Actually I'm alright today, but it'll be interesting to see how I feel next week when I have to see my ex again.

Snoopy

 

[CharleyH]

Dude, where is your dad?

I hate to say this, but I bet you were raised by a single mom.

--Zack

Not if you had my mom. In fact, I bet you cry more than me, since you were raised in a non-divorced family, I pressume, of course.

Snoop - one day at a time.

 

[SnoopDog]

Not if you had my mom. In fact, I bet you cry more than me, since you were raised in a non-divorced family, I pressume, of course.

Snoop - one day at a time.

Yeah I know. But it's so freaking hard to wait any more. Especially now that I've gotten a little taste of love, I fear going back to zero.

Snoopy

 

[CrazyyAngel]

Yesterday my g/f broke up with me. We had been together for three weeks only and never got beyond some kissing.

No offense but ... I wouldn't exactly call this a relationship or a girlfriend resp. You were "together" for only three weeks, never got beyond kissing and she seemed to reject you for about a third of the time ... so I wouldn't get myself worked up over this ... fling. You seem to have find someone nice (judging from the other thread), so forget this attempt and move on ...

CA

P.S: Ich weis, ich sollte eigentlich die Klappe halten bei sowas , so von wegen Glashaus und so. Aber das ist wirklich nix, wo du dich reinsteigern solltest ... Ihr bzw. sie hat das ganze abgebrochen, bevor es richtig losging ... also vergiss sie und find raus ob das andere Mädel an dir interessiert ist.

 

[SnoopDog]

No offense but ... I wouldn't exactly call this a relationship or a girlfriend resp. You were "together" for only three weeks, never got beyond kissing and she seemed to reject you for about a third of the time ... so I wouldn't get myself worked up over this ... fling. You seem to have find someone nice (judging from the other thread), so forget this attempt and move on ...

CA

P.S: Ich weis, ich sollte eigentlich die Klappe halten bei sowas , so von wegen Glashaus und so. Aber das ist wirklich nix, wo du dich reinsteigern solltest ... Ihr bzw. sie hat das ganze abgebrochen, bevor es richtig losging ... also vergiss sie und find raus ob das andere Mädel an dir interessiert ist.

Thnx, I know what you mean. I know i'm not supposed to get too upset about it. But if you can't vent and rant on here, where can you?

Snoopy

P.S.: Danke, ach und das Glashaus ist doch egal. Ich mische mich auch immer bei allem ein ohne drüber nachzudenken, ob ich im Glashaus sitze.

 

[Lucifer_Carroll]

Dude, where is your dad?

I hate to say this, but I bet you were raised by a single mom.

At your age, you should be jumping on anything that moves. I know I was.

You've posted before, I know, but really ... nut up, man. Fuck 'em and leave 'em, that should be your mantra from now on.

You're in your early twenties, there ain't no true love there. You need to move on to the next one. Grab your balls and go after another one. Go have some fun. Screw her, the next one will be better.

--Zack

See girls, this is why radical Lorena Bobbitt feminism is not an abberation, but the only rational way of life. This philosophy is so common in our society it's fucking painful. Kill us girls, it's the only way to stop the evil. The vibrators may seem lonely at first, but it'll be better overall.

That being said, Snoop. It's because God hates you. Personally. No, not really. It's one of those things. A relationship means something. That's the point. It isn't about milestones or nookie paths or hit counts or any of that junk. It's a connection between two people that's more than even the tightest bonds of friendship. If it doesn't hurt at the end, you aren't doing it right. You're following <up arrow, significant pause> and that ain't good.

Things happen, bonds break, splits happen. But despite it, you're a great guy and at least one other lady has shown she recognizes it. Have confidence in yourself and be yourself as faithfully as you can and things will likely get better. After all, hasn't it once already?

Keep an eye peeled. This shit-stained world always has some really nice surprises hidden in the rubble.

-From a man on his own good streak (no, not like that) to a man about to find another one (like that)