I remember reading in a magazine years ago....
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Johnny Mayberry
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Depends on whether or not you are wearing latex at the time...janettt5 said:
MissTaken
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No, I don't agree.
We have a very long thread about who was spanked as a child and if I remember correctly, it doesn't seem to carry the burden of showing that spanking is associated with BDSM.
Spanking will lower your child's self esteem, will teach them that using aggression to deal with problems is okay, will do all sorts of things. Spanking will also show your child that they are not in control which at times, is a lesson they need to learn. If there is not other way, spanking isn't a bad thing.
I did, however, read an article the other day that I almost started a thread on. Some dumbass was projecting that spanking was sexual abuse and should be treated as a sexual crime. Grrrrr. First this guy doesn't know the definition of sexual abuse or he wouldn't have even bothered writing the damn thing. But his ignorance was funny.
We have a very long thread about who was spanked as a child and if I remember correctly, it doesn't seem to carry the burden of showing that spanking is associated with BDSM.
Spanking will lower your child's self esteem, will teach them that using aggression to deal with problems is okay, will do all sorts of things. Spanking will also show your child that they are not in control which at times, is a lesson they need to learn. If there is not other way, spanking isn't a bad thing.
I did, however, read an article the other day that I almost started a thread on. Some dumbass was projecting that spanking was sexual abuse and should be treated as a sexual crime. Grrrrr. First this guy doesn't know the definition of sexual abuse or he wouldn't have even bothered writing the damn thing. But his ignorance was funny.
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I was never spanked as a child except for one time when I poked holes in the convertible roof of a car my dad was about to sell that afternoon = ( I don't remember it, just being told about it, so I don't think that anything really contributed to it for me.
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FungiUg
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PinkOrchid said:
You too, huh?
There's a very real difference between sexual and physical abuse. Spanking (or beating) children falls into my (personal) category of physical abuse.
I don't believe it contributes to S&M. I know I enjoy spanking a woman who enjoys being spanked. Certainly as a child, that was never the case!
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My mother was deeply against any kind of punishment when I was a kid. I got screamed at and I had to stand in the corner, but I was never spanked. (Except for the one time when she obliged me because other kids I knew got spanked and I wondered what it was like.)
I don't know if spanking kids causes them to be into kinky stuff as adults, but it's certainly not a pre-requisite.
I don't know if spanking kids causes them to be into kinky stuff as adults, but it's certainly not a pre-requisite.
