I really really really need some help

[skitch]

ok ok, so i'm talking to my SO, right. Well, we somehow get on the subject of sex, fingering, blowjobs, and orgasms. As some of you know, she and I have decided to keep ourselves virgins...but we don't expect that to last long. Anyway, come to find out, that she can't orgasm. Even when she masterbates on her own, she doesn't cum. She's starting to think something's wrong with her, but i just think she needs the right touch. I really really need some advice on this one, because i want to make her cum just as she makes me cum. Any advice or urls to 'how-to' pages would be much appreciated. thank you.

 

[Cheyenne]

Try doing a search on the "How to" board. This topic has been covered there quite often.

In summary though, what you will find is that being able to orgasm is likely in her head, not her clit. If she wants to be a virgin until she is married, and in her heart believes she is "doing something wrong" trying to reach orgasm before then, her head may be saying "no, I won't let you" when she tries to enjoy herself. I don't think her problem is that unusual. But read the old threads and see if you get enough ideas there to help you.

 

[*Eve*]

The key word is: Relax

 

[skitch]

thanks

for real, thank you both.

a little more info into this.....we basically have decided to have sex, but we're not going to try to force it...just let it happen when it happens. We talked about waiting for marriage, but both of us said that as long as we're 100% sure that we will get married (which we both are), then sex/making love is a go. We've fooled around alot and she's told me that she's completely comfortable, so i dunno. I did find it unique (for lack of a better word) when she told me she couldn't bring herself to cum on her own. And i know i haven't done it for her yet, but i want to. So i vow to give this to her...i will find a way.

 

[insideShiraz]

Speak in Tongues...

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