I really need help with this girl i care about

[TJH23]

Ok here I go Ive gotten to know this girl L**** we have been friends for a while now and I told her I liked her a while ago and she said she just wanted to be friends for now.We have talked about everything she has seen my naked pretty much.I really care about this girl and I think that shes the one for me but I dont know what to do she flirts with me all the time.I dont know if i should just make a move or what i dont want to mess up our friendship.Can someone help me please what should I do??????

 

[ickle_stace]

if you make a move on her and she's not interested, it probably won't help the friendship

she's not being very nice if she's flirting with you when she knows you like her but saying she doesn't wanna be more than your friend

but if she says she wants to be friends for now, then you just have to keep spending time with her and make her think you're worth more

 

[OzDave]

Be honest

I suffered the same dilemma 25 years ago. I still rue the fact that I never put my cards on the table and told her how I felt. Honestly, I would marry her to this day I loved her so much. My shyness stopped me from confronting her with how I felt and we stayed "just friends". I still kick myself for losing her without giving myself a chance. If you tell her how you feel and she knocks you back, at least you know where you stand and she knows what you want out of the relationship. Above all be honest. Always. Good relationships have a foundation built on trust.
Good luck

 

[Hisbabydoll26]

Ok here I go Ive gotten to know this girl L**** we have been friends for a while now and I told her I liked her a while ago and she said she just wanted to be friends for now.We have talked about everything she has seen my naked pretty much.I really care about this girl and I think that shes the one for me but I dont know what to do she flirts with me all the time.I dont know if i should just make a move or what i dont want to mess up our friendship.Can someone help me please what should I do??????

Be her friend...if it's meant to be it will be. Hubby chased me from high school to college and beyond. He finally caught me and made me pay attention. I realized he was it...he was the one I had been looking for but didn't know it until well poof I just "saw" him...really saw him. I couldn't be more in love with him and although it took us awhile to get together as more than friends, I know it was worth the wait, and honestly I needed the time to become me, before I was ready for him.

 

[TJH23]

Thank you guys for your help

 

[AllFor1_1ForAll]

It is extremely difficult to get out of that 'just friends' status. The best option is to not get into that status in the first place. Then they tell you things that they would never want their boyfriend to know, therefore taking you out of a 'relationship' status possibility.

However, since you've alread achieved the status of a 'good friend', you have a couple of options. You have to decided which road to take however, because the consequences can possibly end the friendship.

1. Stay friends, hoping that one day you can win her over with your charm and good look. A slim hope, but still a possibility someday.

2. Come right out and tell her that you can't be 'just a friend' because of your feelings for her. Explain to her that your feelings would always be there, hidden, torturing you. You run the risk of hampering the friendship and you really need to put a good read on her flirting to determine if it is innocent, or because deep down, she really wants to end up with you. If you read it wrong, bye bye Sally.

3. (my personal favorite, has worked the one time i tried it, so 100% of the time for me) Stop BEING her friend. Make yourself unavailable to her chats about why her other relationships may not be working, or her lack of a relationship, or the problems with her mother/brother/sister, or whatever. You know which conversations I'm talking about. When she starts talking about things like that, get out of the conversation. You have somewhere you have to be. Your meeting your friends, whatever. Make it look like you are the most important person in the world. You can't meet her because you're going out. Or you missed her call because you had something more important to take care of. You get the point. She'll begin to wonder what she's missing out on. It adds an aire of mystery which typically will draw her to you.

Good luck on whatever road you take.

 

[Abner Devereaux]

I say you should go for it. I have been there myself. I knew this girl, Tracy way back when I was much younger . . . we were best friends too. I never told her how I felt.

Time went by . . . and I was dumped by a girl I was going out with . The only friend I had to turn to was my friend Tracy. I told her that night that I used to have such a huge crush on her. She asked me why I never told her. I said because I did not think you felt the same and I didn't want to ruin our friendship. her reply . . . you should have told me . . . we could have been really good together.


I knew then . . . I fucked up. I should have told her. As far as the friendship goes . . . I never spoke to her after that night.


That's my story . . .you must do what you feel is right. Good Luck !

 

[TJH23]

I think I will do that thanks everyone


Abner why didnt you ever talk to her again????

 

[Abner Devereaux]

I think I will do that thanks everyone


Abner why didnt you ever talk to her again????

She had an on again . . . of again boyfirend. He never treated her right . . . she would always call me when they had problems. Everytime she would tell me she wished she could find a nice guy like me to go out with.


Once I told her how I felt . . . she never called me again. Once she knew I had feelings for her . . . she knew she could not come to me anymore to cry to when her boyfriend pissed her off or treated her like shit. Which wasn't true . . . she was still my friend no matter what. I would still be there for her when things went bad. It was her choice to break the friendship.

 

[TJH23]

Im sorry

 

[Chapter 6]

Hey dude, this is the one of the hardest situations a man can find himself in. I was in it for a good number of years.I have sent you a PM on my experiance.

 

[cusprider]

Just Friends

Ok here I go Ive gotten to know this girl L**** we have been friends for a while now and I told her I liked her a while ago and she said she just wanted to be friends for now.We have talked about everything she has seen my naked pretty much.I really care about this girl and I think that shes the one for me but I dont know what to do she flirts with me all the time.I dont know if i should just make a move or what i dont want to mess up our friendship.Can someone help me please what should I do??????

I have about 30 years experience working on solving the riddle. Trying to prove or disprove if men and women can be "just friends". Logically one would think why not. In practice though it does not work all that well. Certanially not like you can be friends with another Guy. I'll wager that In her mind, you offered to take your friendship to the sexual level. Good of you to be up front with it. Most likely She is not intrested in sex unless it is her idea. So if it is Sex you want, then now would be a good time to move on. After all, since you are just friends, it really should not matter to the friendship who you are intimate with. Right? If she is just a friend, she should be happy for you that you are getting laid. But if it is her you want, then you will have to wait until it is her idea. Don't pressure any more but instead set up romantic circumstances tring to get sex with you to be her idea. Note, Women are hornest at their fertility peak each month. Pay attention to the Moon. Good time to get laid, bad time if you don't want a baby. Some times you are Damned if you do and damned if you don't. About the only absolute I have discovered though is once your friendship with a woman becomes sexual, you can never go back to the way it was. When the sex is over so will be the friendship. May even develope into an avoidance of you. Wish I could figure out why that should be. As far as I am concerned, I have no problem going back to friend Status. Maybe a women or three could explain what that seems to be so.

 

[TJH23]

Im not really worried about sex right now.I really like being around here.She is the highlight of my day.She makes me feel good about myself.One of the things I love the most about her is that we can talk about anything no matter what it is.