I need help, where can i go?

[Guest]

Ok, i am attracted to young girls, if i see a pretty young girl, i feel sexual urges. I also am attracted by women my age.

I do not keep any pre pictures, nor have i ever, or will i ever touch a young girl improperly.

My question is this... has anyone heard of a chat group, website, whatever.. an online phyciatrist type thing? i want to get help for this.. i hate it. I never asked for it, adn i really dont want it..... but i am from a small town and i am very hesitant abput going to a local guy.


Any help?

 

[Thaedes]

There is nothing wrong for you to be sexually attracted to younger women/girls. You don't need psychiatric help because you have hormones. On the contrary, you might be interested to indulge this in a fantasy state. Quite obviously it is illegal in reality - provided they are under the legal age (a.k.a statutory rape). Do not think that you are an oddball, or a monster because of this. It is the same for most guys, it is just that the majority of other guys know better then to indulge in it in reality.

Now should you find yourself a loving partner, who is sexually open-minded, you may be lucky enough to do some sex role-playing. Wherein you can indulge this fantasy and others such as rape and that which is unacceptable beyond the fantasy realm.

As a side note. The younger generation is beginning to appear more and more sexually attractive because of the way clothing fashion is being pushed (imho anyways). More and more you see 12 year olds wearing skimpy clothing once reserved for high scool students at the least, and of course more and more we hear of young girls as mothers.

Like I said before, as a fantasy please indulge this, it will help bring some satisfaction. But in reality, don't cross that line.

 

[It'sasecret]

Just curious... When you say "young girls" do mean like high school girls or young children? I think there would be a difference.

 

[MissTaken]

I found a link to a variety of resources that seem friendly and supported to those who have commited acts against minors as well as those who HAVEN'T. You may or may not find something here that is helpful. I would be happy to chat with you or discuss this further as I have some experience working with people struggling with the same urges as you seem to be.

I don't mean to offend in any way and respect that your quest for information and support could possibly prevent abuse of a child or adolescent.

Yes, I am reading too much into whta you have written, but I am just guessing

Good Luck.

http://www.philianews.org/

 

[Guest]

When i say young girls i mean girls entering and in puberty

Like age 13-14

 

[lovechild27]

Please get yourself to a real psychiatrist. You are a danger to young girls. Do this for yourself, so you dont go to jail.

 

[Naughty n Nice]

I agree, I suggest that if you're afraid to get help because you're in a small town, I remind you that wherever there are small towns, there are big cities. Get yourself into a psychiatrist NOW, before you can't control the urge and you make a HUGE mistake. It is not 'normal' to feel strong sexual feelings for young girls/teeagers unless you're a young boy/teenager. I respect that you're looking for advice, but a chatroom isn't the kind of help you need. Please go get professional help.

 

[MissTaken]

When i say young girls i mean girls entering and in puberty

Like age 13-14

Then, take a look at the link.

Also, yes, check your nearest clinic for treatment providers. It is highly confidential. And yes, you will need real time treatment. Some of the on line resources may help you to find it, may help you to work on some of the stuff, but get treatment, please.

I know that where I live, treatment is hard to come by unless you have actually acted on these urges.

Hat's off to you for wanting to stop yourself.

I would also ask you to take a look at what stimulates thoughts of sex with teens. What are the stimuli? What is are the catalyst? Consider the pattern of behavior you have engaged in before having these thoughts.

Find these "cues" and remove them from your life. But, you must find something else to replace these activities or habits.

Example: If watching lesbian porn stirs your thoughts toward teens, dont' watch lesbian porn. When you want to, find something else to do that is removed from the theme.




Again, pm me if you want to talk or look at other options.

 

[StevenWill]

You should talk to someone. The fantasy always preceeds the action. However, many people have the fantasy and never act. It is quite common for fathers to recognize the attractiveness of their daughters and never approach them, but some do. The bottom line is that you need to resolve the issue to either take steps to prevent yourself from crossing the line or reassure yourself that your fantasy life will remain only fantasy. I think it will make you feel more at ease with yourself.

steve

 

[Naughty n Nice]

Thank your lucky stars that you posted this in 'how to' and not 'general'. They'd have torn you apart in there. Recognizing that there is a problem is the first step. Now it's time for you to take the next step. Is there anyone in your life that you can confide in? Getting real help may be easier if you have someone to support you.

 

[redrock911]

Well how close have you come to acting on you fantasies? I mean if its something you just think about then it is one thing, and maybe not as big of a problem as sitting in front of a school checking out the girls as they leave. If you dont mind me asking how far has it gone, or how close has it come?

I know a few people in my area even clients of mine that have been in trouble for sex with a minor. They all knew it was wrong but didnt know how to prevent it. Once they were caught and were put into treatment it helped them alot. But they all had to go to court orders group sessions. I think it would be much easier to handle in a one on one enviroment with a counsler.

 

[Naughty n Nice]

Well how close have you come to acting on you fantasies? I mean if its something you just think about then it is one thing, and maybe not as big of a problem as sitting in front of a school checking out the girls as they leave. If you dont mind me asking how far has it gone, or how close has it come?

I know a few people in my area even clients of mine that have been in trouble for sex with a minor. They all knew it was wrong but didnt know how to prevent it. Once they were caught and were put into treatment it helped them alot. But they all had to go to court orders group sessions. I think it would be much easier to handle in a one on one enviroment with a counsler.

Ya think???

 

[ApplesMcgee]

I agree..

Naughty is totally correct here...you posted to the proper board.

I would definitely go see a shrink somewhere. Thinking sexually about girls that young could lead you to endangering some young girls.

Better to stop the problem now and save everyone trouble, heartache, and tax money.

PowrDragn

 

[Guest]

It's me again... thank you guys for your input.

Ok, more info for you guys.

I am 22, worked as a lifeguard for many, many years, have several gorgeous neighborhood girls and such... when i see them, i think sexually.... i do not try to, but it is jsut as you would think if you see a gorgeous lady.. it jsut coems into your head. I have had the oppertunity, espesually with the girls at the pool having crushes of me, to act on my impulses.. but I NEVER have. I don't want to hurt the girl, physically or emotionally. Nor do i want to go to jail. But espessually.. im a a christian.. i know God doesnt want me to do this.

Why am i attracted to young girls?
Well, if i had to diagnose myself, i would say it is the innocence of them.. they have some sort of inner beauty.. like a happy, good natured attitude. Also, from a purely artistic standpoint, they are gorgeous.

How close have i coem to acting on these impulses?
I havn't, i have jsut looked, never touched... and as i said before, I have had the oppertunity to touch many times, but i wont do that. No one knows i have this... this demon.. and i dont want them to. I have stopped dating, never been intimate with a woman, but becuase i am not attracted to older women, but becuase no matter who the woman is, i fantasize about girls when things start heating up.. and that is unacceptable to me.


Last thing... I just got out of college, in med school now.. so i can't afford to see a profesional psych. Is there a free government type agency i can see about this? Some place REALLY confidential?

Thank you guys for letting me talk, if nothin else.

 

[Guest]

It's me again... thank you guys for your input.

Ok, more info for you guys.

I am 22, worked as a lifeguard for many, many years, have several gorgeous neighborhood girls and such... when i see them, i think sexually.... i do not try to, but it is jsut as you would think if you see a gorgeous lady.. it jsut coems into your head. I have had the oppertunity, espesually with the girls at the pool having crushes of me, to act on my impulses.. but I NEVER have. I don't want to hurt the girl, physically or emotionally. Nor do i want to go to jail. But espessually.. im a a christian.. i know God doesnt want me to do this.

Why am i attracted to young girls?
Well, if i had to diagnose myself, i would say it is the innocence of them.. they have some sort of inner beauty.. like a happy, good natured attitude. Also, from a purely artistic standpoint, they are gorgeous.

How close have i coem to acting on these impulses?
I havn't, i have jsut looked, never touched... and as i said before, I have had the oppertunity to touch many times, but i wont do that. No one knows i have this... this demon.. and i dont want them to. I have stopped dating, never been intimate with a woman, NOT becuase i am not attracted to older women, but becuase no matter who the woman is, i fantasize about girls when things start heating up.. and that is unacceptable to me.


Last thing... I just got out of college, in med school now.. so i can't afford to see a profesional psych. Is there a free government type agency i can see about this? Some place REALLY confidential?

Thank you guys for letting me talk, if nothin else.

 

[taishar]

nm

 

[peachykeen]

OK... but you still haven't said how young is "young". @16 would not be shocking, but @12 would be, so it matters.

 

[Guest]

I did say above

"When i say young girls i mean girls entering and in puberty

Like age 13-14"

maybe 12-14

 

[peachykeen]

sorry, missed that. That is a problem then. Hmm. Wish I could help. Acknowledging that you know it is inappropriate is a big step tho.

 

[Naughty n Nice]

It's me again... thank you guys for your input.

Ok, more info for you guys.

I am 22, worked as a lifeguard for many, many years, have several gorgeous neighborhood girls and such... when i see them, i think sexually.... i do not try to, but it is jsut as you would think if you see a gorgeous lady.. it jsut coems into your head. I have had the oppertunity, espesually with the girls at the pool having crushes of me, to act on my impulses.. but I NEVER have. I don't want to hurt the girl, physically or emotionally. Nor do i want to go to jail. But espessually.. im a a christian.. i know God doesnt want me to do this.

Why am i attracted to young girls?
Well, if i had to diagnose myself, i would say it is the innocence of them.. they have some sort of inner beauty.. like a happy, good natured attitude. Also, from a purely artistic standpoint, they are gorgeous.

How close have i coem to acting on these impulses?
I havn't, i have jsut looked, never touched... and as i said before, I have had the oppertunity to touch many times, but i wont do that. No one knows i have this... this demon.. and i dont want them to. I have stopped dating, never been intimate with a woman, NOT becuase i am not attracted to older women, but becuase no matter who the woman is, i fantasize about girls when things start heating up.. and that is unacceptable to me.


Last thing... I just got out of college, in med school now.. so i can't afford to see a profesional psych. Is there a free government type agency i can see about this? Some place REALLY confidential?

Thank you guys for letting me talk, if nothin else.

Sheesh, did you have to post that horribly mispelled manifesto?? You are not going to correct your problem in a chat room. Please....nix that.........Pretty please, go get yourself some professional help!!! If you are being serious, as opossed to being a troll, your future looks very bleak unless you get the right help. Otherwise, you'll be the pretty little boy in a prison full of big horny men. Imagine how that would feel. I would think that it would feel exactly like a young girl would feel if you couldn't resist and end up raping her. I'd be happy to talk with you in a pm if you'd like to talk privately; but only if you are serious and not a troll.

 

[lorddragonwolf]

you need to seek professional help. you seem to know that you have a problem and that wilkl help. go get the help you need before its too late.

 

[Naughty n Nice]

you need to seek professional help. you seem to know that you have a problem and that wilkl help. go get the help you need before its too late.

I think that he approached this subject for the attention. I fear that he won't go get help at all.

 

[Guest]

Naughty, i expected some of this response. I posted this not seeking attention, i could care less.. hell , this is one thing i want hidden!

No, i posted becuase i thought there might be an online chatroom or something i could go to. Someplace anonymous, yet hopefully informative nad theuraputic where i could try to work this shit out. Unsurprizingly, pedophiles don't want to seek public attention. Maybe this was a worthless attempt, maybe i knew that fro mthe beginning.. i don't know. It did feel good to finally tell someone though.

Yea Naughty, if you think you could help in any way, PMing would be great. Yea, i know i need professional help, but that is easier said then done. Yea, i know exactly, probalby better then you the consequences of submitting to this.. even if i was never caught, i know what it would cost me.. and that is not a proice i wish to pay.

Oh, and yeah, i can spell better then most, cant type wortth a damn though.

 

[MissTaken]

Unreg?

I did post a link for potential resources and on line Bulletin Boards.

Also, there are free agencies available.


Try phoning the local Community Services Clinic or Mental Health Clinic. They will know where treatment can be found.

Also, therapy is often on a sliding fee scale and easily reconciled or forgiven.

All treatment of this type is HIGHLY confidential. However, don't be surprised if you have to sign an agreement that states that if you do act on your impulses, the clinic has a legal obligation to notify the police. They are your advocate, but must also protect children.

Just do it, if the demon is so bothering you. Take steps.

 

[funwdi]

Well

I hope that you can be comfortable enough to get some help. If you're worried about remaining anonymous in a small town, I would go to the nearest larger city and see if you can find a psychologist there. You may find that just talking about it with someone may lead to finding out the root of the "problem" and where to go from there.
It hasn't been acted upon, you realize that it is a problem that you are extremely uncomfortable with, so you haven't done anything wrong.
You are very brave for wanting to solve this. Remember that.

Also...fantasies acted upon sometimes only fuel the fire. Role-playing with a girlfriend may work for a while, but is it really going to be enough? Make sure you get help, okay?