I need help MrG!

[MsSaucy]

Please anyone feel free to respond who has personal experience with this....I addressed this to MrG since he seems to be an expert.

I need to know how a total hysterectomy (removal of both the uterus and ovaries) affects being able to have a gspot orgasm and/or squirt. I have had no problem being able to do this up to this point but I'm afraid of what's going to happen after the surgery.

I have had a few women who have had their ovaries removed tell me that after their surgery it has been very difficult for them to orgasm. Also, one i know for sure was on hormone replacement.

I'm not worried about the removal of the uterus causing this problem. It's the removal of the ovaries, and subsequently the hormones, that has me worried.

Thank you.

 

[Andreasangst]

It didn't change a thing for me. I still have amazing multiple orgasms and never need lubrication. I hear this isn't the same with all women but I think some of them use it as an excuse because they weren't enjoying sex all that much before. I love never having to worry about a period or worse, a baby.

 

[MsSaucy]

Thank you Andrea...I really appreciate your response! Are you on hormone replacement?

It didn't change a thing for me. I still have amazing multiple orgasms and never need lubrication. I hear this isn't the same with all women but I think some of them use it as an excuse because they weren't enjoying sex all that much before. I love never having to worry about a period or worse, a baby.

 

[satindesire]

Sweetheart, they remove most of your reproductive organs, not your entire lady parts plus VAGINA. Why would you think you'd have problems having g-spot orgasms or female ejaculation afterward?

 

[MsSaucy]

Satin,

I do realize exactly what parts are being removed.

I have had a few women who have had their ovaries removed tell me that after their surgery it has been very difficult for them to orgasm. Also, one for sure that I know was on hormone replacement.

I'm not worried about the uterus causing this problem, it's the removal of the ovaries, and subsequently the hormones, that has me worried.

Thanks for your reply though.

Sweetheart, they remove most of your reproductive organs, not your entire lady parts plus VAGINA. Why would you think you'd have problems having g-spot orgasms or female ejaculation afterward?

 

[satindesire]

Satin,

I do realize exactly what parts are being removed.

I have had a few women who have had their ovaries removed tell me that after their surgery it has been very difficult for them to orgasm. Also, one for sure that I know was on hormone replacement.

I'm not worried about the uterus causing this problem, it's the removal of the ovaries, and subsequently the hormones, that has me worried.

Thanks for your reply though.

Ohh, I see. I had no idea from your original post that THAT was your question. Okay, thanks for clearing that up. I was seriously at a loss.

Edited to add: You might want to put that up there in your first post, for other people to read. If I misunderstood your question, then others might, too.

 

[MsSaucy]

Thanks for the tip. I'm glad you pointed out that it wasn't easily understood.

Ohh, I see. I had no idea from your original post that THAT was your question. Okay, thanks for clearing that up. I was seriously at a loss.

Edited to add: You might want to put that up there in your first post, for other people to read. If I misunderstood your question, then others might, too.

 

[satindesire]

Thanks for the tip. I'm glad you pointed out that it wasn't easily understood.

Oh hon, no big.

 

[SweetErika]

Satin,

I do realize exactly what parts are being removed.

I have had a few women who have had their ovaries removed tell me that after their surgery it has been very difficult for them to orgasm. Also, one for sure that I know was on hormone replacement.

I'm not worried about the uterus causing this problem, it's the removal of the ovaries, and subsequently the hormones, that has me worried.

Thanks for your reply though.

From what I've heard, a lot of women (who have sexual problems after a hysterectomy) have them because they have some type of mental/emotional disconnect. That is, they feel like "less of a woman" or different from who they were before, have post-op or hormone-induced depression, are worried their partners won't view them as womanly/sexy, etc.

If you go into the surgery with a positive attitude about the outcome and understanding that it'll take time to heal and balance your hormones, you'll likely have a far better outcome sexually. If you do start to have issues in the aftermath, get help with them right away, rather than letting them fester and hoping they'll magically resolve on their own. Don't allow yourself to feel like you're less of a woman, will be abnormal or somehow broken before or after; instead, focus on what you know is true logically and the positives (no more periods, that other women have had just as great, if not better, sexual experiences after, etc.). Perhaps you can apprise your partner on the potential pitfalls so s/he can better support you after your surgery, too.

Best of luck to you!

 

[mylaceratedheart]

If one of your friends is on HRT then it'll be due to a complication with the remaining ovary or ovaries that means she's not producing the hormones she should. HRT can affect libido in the same way that some contraceptive pills can.

If you have 2 healthy ovaries there's no real reason why you should not produce your full quota of hormones after your op.

 

[MsSaucy]

Thank you for the response Erika.

I definitely have a positive attitude about the surgery itself...for the reasons you mentioned plus some. I don't have any of the emotional issues going on about losing my reproductive parts. I'm thinking your right about this being the cause of a lot of the issues that women deal with after a hysterectomy.

I have also heard about the depression that some have experienced afterward. I'm not sure either what the reason is but I'll be on the alert incase it is a (lack of) hormones that causes it.

Thanks for the well wishes.

From what I've heard, a lot of women (who have sexual problems after a hysterectomy) have them because they have some type of mental/emotional disconnect. That is, they feel like "less of a woman" or different from who they were before, have post-op or hormone-induced depression, are worried their partners won't view them as womanly/sexy, etc.

If you go into the surgery with a positive attitude about the outcome and understanding that it'll take time to heal and balance your hormones, you'll likely have a far better outcome sexually. If you do start to have issues in the aftermath, get help with them right away, rather than letting them fester and hoping they'll magically resolve on their own. Don't allow yourself to feel like you're less of a woman, will be abnormal or somehow broken before or after; instead, focus on what you know is true logically and the positives (no more periods, that other women have had just as great, if not better, sexual experiences after, etc.). Perhaps you can apprise your partner on the potential pitfalls so s/he can better support you after your surgery, too.

Best of luck to you!

 

[MsSaucy]

Thanks for your reply.

I was actually talking about a total hysterectomy where the ovaries are removed also. That was my worries...the lack of hormones afterward.

If one of your friends is on HRT then it'll be due to a complication with the remaining ovary or ovaries that means she's not producing the hormones she should. HRT can affect libido in the same way that some contraceptive pills can.

If you have 2 healthy ovaries there's no real reason why you should not produce your full quota of hormones after your op.

 

[SweetErika]

Thank you for the response Erika.

I definitely have a positive attitude about the surgery itself...for the reasons you mentioned plus some. I don't have any of the emotional issues going on about losing my reproductive parts. I'm thinking your right about this being the cause of a lot of the issues that women deal with after a hysterectomy.

I bet you'll do beautifully once you've healed (remember, it can easily take a year or two for everything to settle completely) and found the right HRT combo, then!

I have also heard about the depression that some have experienced afterward. I'm not sure either what the reason is but I'll be on the alert incase it is a (lack of) hormones that causes it.
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I don't know, either, but I do know depression after any kind of surgery is fairly common. When I had a knee surgery last year, there were even questions about mental health and post-op depression history on the pre-op paperwork. With any stressful event or big change, I think it's definitely worth being aware of the possibility and having a plan just in case, so it's wonderful you're open to that.

This might be too personal, but what's leading you to the hysterectomy? Do you absolutely have to have a total hysterectomy, or would you be alright with a partial? Have you tried everything else up until this point (e.g. I know a lot of women and doctors are opting for ablation and intermediate solutions for severe bleeding and endometriosis, rather than the total hysterectomy)? I'm just curious because I have reproductive issues and may very well be in a similar position someday.

 

[FantaSeaGirl]

Hormones

MsSaucy,

I don't have much to add from having a an operation like this or how it will impact on your (lack of) hormones.


I can tell you that I am seeing a doctor at the moment (as is one of my best freinds) who deals with depression. He is a GP with a keen interest in neuro-transmitters & hormones and how an imbalnce will cause depression. He looks at dietry supplements to readjust the neuro-transmitters as well as hormone treatments.

The reason I am saying this is that while a good attitude is definately a requirement to get over a surgery & readjust as Erika has said, it is also important to understand that sometimes a simple hormone tweak (or HRT combo adjustment) is something that you deserve. Too many women don't value themselves enough to make sure their doctors listen. Sure, doctors will understand that you need HRT... but you need to make sure they understand when the combo they have you on isn't just right and don't write you off as "just homonal"!

Good Luck!

 

[hisgypsy]

From my own experience, can I add that being on HRT helps to increase your libido, not decrease it.

 

[christabelll]

it took three surgeries and four years to completely remove my equipment -
I was on HRT for about a year after - I found after I healed I was really happy with my libido though I had to work a little harder for vag. orgasms (my cervix was a lovely pleasure maker ;P) Since I have been hormone Less for over a year now I find I have difficulty even writing sexy scenes let alone getting sexy

I am to the point I want to go back on HRT.... but getting a doctor to agree with me is tantamount to banging my head on the wall.

The main thing you need to be aware of and get second opinions over is whether you really need a total hysterectomy - if you do I am sorry - and wish you well but not all is lost.... HRT will be key afterwards. If not - your ovaries - or ovary will put you through the cycle without the mess No need for HRT....

Good Luck my dear.

 

[Mr.G]

SORRY, didn't see you calling

AS usual the room has answered the question maturely and competently.

I've had several emails from women who have lost their vaginal lips and even their CLIT to a weird kind of vaginal cancer, thought their sex life was Kaaput and then found this thread. The results have left a couple of them stating they wished they'd got cancer sooner. I'm thinking that was said simply to fluff my ego but I appreciate it anyway. I was THRILLED to learn the TRY THIS technique returned a sex life to these people ... but I'm sure not NEARLY as thrilled as they were / are !!

I have never heard of any full hyst complications where women LOST the ability to have G-Gasms. I've only heard stories where women discovered they could G-gasm AFTER their OP and were happy that they discovered something new when they were so scared they'd possibly lost everything.

As far as "feeling", "desires" that is endocrinal and you should discuss this and possible HRT with a pro.

AS Erica pointed out (as she usually does) the biggest worry you have to face is likely not between your hip bones but between your ears. With HRT and or amply G-SPOT "therapy" you'll be fine, I'm sure. Just remember what makes you a WOMAN is between your EARS. The plumbing is secondary and as long as some of it (G) still works you should be horny will into your 90's.


Promise.

 

[gigi1968]

I know I could not take HRT and it took a while but I am now back to my former sexual self. Positive thoughts and attitude are the best thing you can have, besides a very understanding partner.

There is a website that helped me get through a lot of the emotions and also answered a lot of my questions when I went through this.

Try Hystersisters.com

It was full of good information, and helped both pre-op and post-op.

 

[MsSaucy]

You all are great!

I only have a few minutes to say thank you to EVERYONE who responded. Between researching on my own and all of your replies, I made the decision to have both of my ovaries removed (instead of just one)...especially since my doctor thought I'd be back to have my other one removed soon. Anyway, the big day is tomorrow.

Erika, I'll respond to your questions later today or while I'm recovering.

Again, thank you all so much!

 

[pvc_sister]

Sorry it's a bit late, but I hope it all goes well for you today.

Take care xx

 

[dashd]

There is no physiological reason that this surgery will affect you ability to orgasm... however you may wish to wait for 6 weeks or more post operatively. Ask your surgeon when it is safe to have sex following sugery.

 

[KellysCrack]

They left my ovaries..but I can explain mine in one word FREEDOM!!!!

it was the best thing ever that I could have had done...Except for recovery....I am not a good sit still person and they want you to take it easy and by easy I mean learn to watch soaps....

 

[MsSaucy]

Hi everyone,

Just an update: Thanks for the well wishes. I had my surgery a little over a week ago and I'm doing great. The only trouble I'm having is staying still. I'm not used to sitting for very long so that part is driving me nuts. Other than that, I was in the hospital overnight and once I was home I never even needed a pain pill.

Erica,

I had my hysterectomy because of uncontrolled bleeding (like 20 days out of the month). I tried the ring and also an IUD to control it, neither of which worked. Because of other factors, I wasn't a candidate for ablation.

I could have had a partial but I had fibroids on one ovary (found by ultrasound some months ago) which caused me pain so they wanted to take that one and I agreed. My doc gave me the choice of keeping my other ovary. I did some research and found out that a lot of times if you are having problems with one ovary and have it removed, the problems move to the remaining ovary. I made the decision to have both removed but after surgery the doc said after getting in there he would have removed the second ovary anyway because of fibroids that were not detected at the time of my ultrasound.

So far I cannot feel any symptoms of menopause. I know the adrenal gland tries to compensate for the loss of hormones (even though it can't keep up by itself) but I don't really know how long it is before you begin to feel the symptoms. I'm guessing it's a little different for each person. I see my doc in a few days and he will give me estrogen only hormones. I was told they don't start them sooner because there is a risk of blood clots with the hormones so they wait for a few weeks after you've had surgery. I want to try some natural alternatives instead of hormones but that's going to wait a few years. I know if you go through menopause before you are 45, you have a higher chance of osteoporosis so I don't really want to mess with my hormones any more than I already have at this point.

Hopefully you'll not be facing surgery anytime soon but from what I've experienced so far, it's not all that bad. And the best thing I'm looking forward to..no more periods!

Thanks again everyone for the information and well wishes!

I bet you'll do beautifully once you've healed (remember, it can easily take a year or two for everything to settle completely) and found the right HRT combo, then!


I don't know, either, but I do know depression after any kind of surgery is fairly common. When I had a knee surgery last year, there were even questions about mental health and post-op depression history on the pre-op paperwork. With any stressful event or big change, I think it's definitely worth being aware of the possibility and having a plan just in case, so it's wonderful you're open to that.

This might be too personal, but what's leading you to the hysterectomy? Do you absolutely have to have a total hysterectomy, or would you be alright with a partial? Have you tried everything else up until this point (e.g. I know a lot of women and doctors are opting for ablation and intermediate solutions for severe bleeding and endometriosis, rather than the total hysterectomy)? I'm just curious because I have reproductive issues and may very well be in a similar position someday.

 

[SweetErika]

I'm glad everything got taken care of and went so well for you!