i need help locating a post

[bunny bondage]

ok, there was a post by someone a while back expounding on the drawbacks of dating a married person. it was in list form, like "you're always on call in case he gets a free moment. he cancels plans at the last minute because of his wife." going on like that. anyway, i was hoping that one of you would remember writing it or who wrote it and could possible help me locate it! see, my step-brother's dating a married girl, and i remember thinking that the post had lots of good points for not doing that.

can anyone help?

 

[catalina_francisco]

I think I recall the post you mentioned, but not where it is. I would suggest, given the topic, trying those lovely threads on morals, ethics, cheating etc. If I come across it I will let you know.Be careful though, most in this situation and feeling it is important to them, do not always see your concern for their welfare and happiness as anything but interference. I know that is not your intention, but is sometimes seen that way when they feel it necessary to defend their position. Good luck.

Catalina

 

[lark sparrow]

I remembered a thread like that and also that SexyChele penned it... is this the one?

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=154679

Okay, I have been involved with married men before - only one time that I knew beforehand the man was married. The rest simply lied. Shall I tell you what you are in for? The script is always the same, believe me.

First. He says she doesn't satisfy him? HOGWASH! Chances are they are going at it at least 2 - 5 times a week. She may not want to try the more kinkier things he's interested in, yes. But he's gettin' his nooky, trust me. And you? You will simply be his "kink outlet". Can you live with that?

Second. Be prepared for the fact that every single holiday, every birthday, every special event in your life cannot be shared with him. He has another committment. He will not be there for you when you are invited to that wedding. And forget about the family bar-b-que - he's gotta be home. Expect that, except for the bedroom and the times he can get away, you will live your life as a single woman.

Third. He's Dominant. Or has dominant tendencies. Doms don't normally like to share. I know. My first Dominant was the married guy who I knew was married. I soon wised up to what was going on, and decided if I could be "something on the side", then I might as well continue to meet men and go out. Nope. Not possible. He would call at unexpected times, and if I wasn't home, he would expect a full accounting. He had a key to my apartment (dumb, DUMB move!!), and when I would get home from a date - there he would be, sitting in my livingroom, spoiling for a fight. I was expected to be devoted to him and him alone, no other men, whatsoever. Towards the end, he resented me going out with my girlfriends as he suspected I was doing it solely to meet other men.

Fourth. No matter what you may have planned, be expected to cancel it if he finds he can get away at the last minute. Have tickets to that special event and are going with a girlfriend? Expect him to ask you to cancel or give your ticket away because he suddenly found out he's got some free time that evenng and "needs" you, "wants" you, you are the "center of his universe". Then, after you've fallen for this and have cancelled on your girlfriend, you can expect the call telling you that plans have changed, his wife is still home, and he won't be able to make. "Sorry, sugarcakes. Maybe next time." This will happen more than once, so be prepared, and you better not pout about it! After, he gets away when he can, you know! He's making sacrifices, too!

Fifth. Practice what you will say when that inevitable day comes when the phone rings and the voice on the other end says, "I'm ___________ wife, I found your phone number...." Men who cheat almost always beg to be caught. He will leave your phone number in an open spot "accidently". He will carry your picture in the glove box of his car, and "forget" it was there when his wife took the car to get it washed. She will NOT blame him! She will blame you - for everything. Be prepared: when this call comes in? You will feel the floor fall from under you. The pit of your stomach will suddenly be in your throat. And the topper? When she tells you that you aren't the first, that he has done this before. Yeah, despite him telling you he's never met anyone like you. He has. He's done it before. And he was probably caught at it before.

Sixth. Think about having a man in your life who you are happy with. You try to please him, and he tells you that you are perfect - he wouldn't change a thing! Then you find that phone number, those panties that aren't yours, that picture of the naked woman. Think how you would feel. What would be in your heart? On your mind? How would you feel towards that other woman? That is how your relationship will make his wife feel. I firmly believe in the sisterhood of women - we need to stand together. In helping him to betray her, you are betraying the sisterhood to which you belong. (And yes, I know this is only my opinion, but I am of the mind that I will not do to another woman what I do not want another woman to do to me)

Seventh. No matter what he says - and he'll get there eventually to keep you, believe me - never, ever believe it when he says he wants to leave "her" for you. He will tell you he can't because of finances, the kids, the house, the family, career, anything and everything. But, if he doesn't hold out some sort of "carrot" over time, he knows he will lose you. He needs to keep giving you hope to stay. Men in these situations RARELY leave their wives. They've got a great thing going! Regular nooky at home, along with cooking, cleaning, and all the little wifely things. And then there is you - worshipping the ground he walks on, acting like teenagers in lover, kinky as hell sex. What more could a man want? Plus, if/when his wife finds out, there is the possibility she will be SO jealous that she will jump at any opportunity to please him. You will be dumped like yesterday's newspaper - and in a heartflash. Be prepared for the feeling of having your heart ripped from you and stomped under foot - that's what it feels like.

Eighth. After this entire fiasco is ended (and it will - unpleasantly, I assure you), expect your next relationship to be an even more difficult experience. Your feeling of trust will be shattered. How do you know the next guy won't do the same thing? He's going to have to work harder, and that is going to cause resentment, eventually. Of course, this could always be a "transitional" relationship, but eventually you will want to get serious with some one. And always, in the back of your mind, will be those niggling doubts about how REALLY happy your man is, and if he hasn't in fact found some one like you once were for a little fun on the side.

Your conscious seems to be speaking to you loud and clear. Listen to it! This man is not free to give you trust or a relationship. I think you know that. Physical stuff is good. And can be had by almost anybody. I don't know you, but I've yet to meet a woman that I could say is so low that she should put herself into the living hell I went through. And it is a living hell. Find heaven on earth instead. It's out there, you just need to find it.

 

[bunny bondage]

TAH-DAH!! there it is! thanks so much, lark! ^_^

 

[FungiUg]

Just down my street they've been pulling down all of the old posts with the overhead power lines. Replacing them with underground cabling. So if you asked nicely, I'm sure they'd let you have one of the old posts...

 

[bunny bondage]

Just down my street they've been pulling down all of the old posts with the overhead power lines. Replacing them with underground cabling. So if you asked nicely, I'm sure they'd let you have one of the old posts...

oh good! i've been looking for a mast for my pirate ship!

 

[James G 5]

Just down my street they've been pulling down all of the old posts with the overhead power lines. Replacing them with underground cabling. So if you asked nicely, I'm sure they'd let you have one of the old posts...

I could think of another post entirely I'd like to give bunny to use

 

[lark sparrow]

lol too late, guys... I already gave her the post! Have to be a bit quicker on your feet and in finding your posts.

 

[NemoAlia]

oh good! i've been looking for a mast for my pirate ship!

Your puzzle pirate ship?

 

[James G 5]

lol too late, guys... I already gave her the post! Have to be a bit quicker on your feet and in finding your posts.

That was NOTHING like the sort of post I want to give her

 

[lark sparrow]

Yeah, but could be described as an old post, nonetheless?

 

[James G 5]

Yeah, but could be described as an old post, nonetheless?

Not that old, and hardly used

 

[lark sparrow]

LOL okay I can't ridicule that, however untrue... maybe the bunny will bite!

 

[James G 5]

LOL okay I can't ridicule that, however untrue... maybe the bunny will bite!

No biting
gentle nibbling at MOST

 

[TNRkitect2b]

LOL okay I can't ridicule that, however untrue... maybe the bunny will bite!

Yes from what I heard... she's got a bite!

TIM: Follow. But! Follow only if ye be men of valor, for the entrance to this cave is guarded by a creature so foul, so cruel that no man yet has fought with it and lived! Bones of full fifty men lie strewn about its lair. So, brave knights, if you do doubt your courage or your strength, come no further, for death awaits you all with nasty, big, pointy teeth.
ARTHUR: Where?
TIM: There!
ARTHUR: What, behind the rabbit?
TIM: It is the rabbit!
ARTHUR: You silly sod!
TIM: What?
ARTHUR: You got us all worked up!
TIM: Well, that's no ordinary rabbit.
ARTHUR: Ohh.
TIM: That's the most foul, cruel, and bad-tempered rodent you ever set eyes on.
ROBIN: You tit! I soiled my armor I was so scared!
TIM: Look, that rabbit's got a vicious streak a mile wide; it's a killer!
GALAHAD: Get stuffed!
TIM: He'll do you up a treat mate!
GALAHAD: Oh, yeah?
ROBIN: You mangy scots git!
TIM: I'm warning you!
ROBIN: What's he do, nibble your bum?
TIM: He's got huge, sharp-- eh-- he can leap about-- look at the bones!
ARTHUR: Go on, Bors. Chop his head off!
BORS: Right! Silly little bleeder. One rabbit stew comin' right up!

[ Rabbit flies at Bors’s throat and savages him to death }
ROBIN: I done it again!
TIM: I warned you, but did you listen to me? Oh, no, you knew it all, didn't you? Oh, it's just a harmless little bunny, isn't it? Well, it's always the same. I always tell them--
ARTHUR: Oh, shut up!
TIM: Do they listen to me?

 

[James G 5]

Yes from what I heard... she's got a bite!



[ Rabbit flies at Bors’s throat and savages him to death }
ROBIN: I done it again!
TIM: I warned you, but did you listen to me? Oh, no, you knew it all, didn't you? Oh, it's just a harmless little bunny, isn't it? Well, it's always the same. I always tell them--
ARTHUR: Oh, shut up!
TIM: Do they listen to me?

Yep, that's sort of what I was thinking of
I got the special edition DVD of that for Yule

 

[TNRkitect2b]

Yep, that's sort of what I was thinking of
I got the special edition DVD of that for Yule

My copy "walked off" somewhere.... I guess i'll have to replace it sometime.

 

[bunny bondage]

Your puzzle pirate ship?

no, my wooden pirate ship


and just so you guys all know, i'm not of the rabid variety!

 

[James G 5]

no, my wooden pirate ship


and just so you guys all know, i'm not of the rabid variety!

Still, I imagine we could create some foam around the mouth....


It's getting late, my humor quotient is sinking to the gutter LOL

 

[esclave_PP]

salty sea spray foam? heheheh

 

[FungiUg]

It's getting late, my humor quotient is sinking to the gutter LOL[/color]

You mean it's not rising there from it's normal location in the sewer?

 

[James G 5]

You mean it's not rising there from it's normal location in the sewer?

Well, I...
Err, that is to say...
You sir...
uhm...


Oh hell, I resemble that remark