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[codysan]

Ok im sorry but i love a girl named Sarah and i have always loved her and im writing a love letter and i need to know if it is good please tell me.



My Dearest Sarah


From the moment I saw you I now how I felt about you. I have always felt the same way about you even when you stole my glow stick I knew then that I wanted to tell you. When we first met I fell in love with your personality not your looks. When I saw you for the first time at the movie you where the most beautiful angel I have ever seen. No one has ever come even close to your exquisite beauty.

Ever since then I have dreamed about you. I have dreamed of one day asking you to marry me. I have dreamed of the day I kiss you for the first time. I have dreamed of when we go away and live our lives together. I have dreamed of when we go off and travel around the world with your animals and treating animals every where you go. I wish for those dreams to on day come true.

I know I am not one of the most handsome guys or even good looking to some or most people and I am more like the Beast from the Beauty and the Beast. I would be willing to be the beast if you will be the beauty. I will be any thing you wish for me to be but I wish to be your night in shining armor. I can not offer you looks but I can offer you loving and caring friend that would be willing to die for you.

I know that you probably do not feel the same way or if you even know how you feel. I would just want to let you know Sarah the most beautiful person god has created that I love you I love you more then any one. I am sorry if this is to early or if it is the wrong time but I don’t care I want to let you know how I have felt ever since I saw you at the movie’s I thank you for being one of my best friends. Along with this letter from my heart I enclose the poem I wrote for you the very night I saw your beautiful smile. I hope we can remain great friends and someday maybe something more.


With much Love

Dakota Wise

 

[Blavek]

I have a question I read about halfway through it...

are you datng her now? If your not you are coming on very strong and that will scare her away and if you are friends now you run the risk of losing that friendship.

Another point... Its always best to do these things in person. In my opinion love letters aren't really cute until you have an established relationship and it is ok or even customary to be so candid. Another point I would like to make is it isn't wise to tell a gil you fell in love with part of her. Even if you think it has more power to be in love with her personality you open a whole can about why doesn't he love my body and vice verse. you should lover her whole self body mind and so on. What is cute though is if you tell her how attracted to some little quirk she has that she doesn't like. Like for example if she snorts when she laughs or something stupid like that that you know she is self conscience about yet you like it even more I think that has some power.

However if your not allready dating you need to take a different approach. For one talk to her about how you feel and avoid words like love unless followed by a qualifier such as I love you as a friend. Which you could even follow that with I would like a chance to love you as a woman or girl or girl friend. Avoid discussing sex with her. After you have been dating a while its ok to say I loved you from the moment I met you or something. But when you approach this topic with her its best to expect that she won't feel the same way. I know that hurts but you won't take it badly if that is true.

Just a few of the things I have learned in my experience. Anything I have said is coming from my nice guy additude I have. Ithink to be even more successful you need to geta owmans opinion. if you have a sister/friend or even your mom ask them what you should do as they will have better advice than I can give. Also I am sure some of the women here on lit will be able to help as well.

 

[Blavek]

bump to help a fellow love sick guy out

 

[emptyness]

i had to stop the movie playing to read this thru.
friend, crumple up the letter and put it in the back of a drawer where you won't find it for a long time.
then, find a time you can talk to her, and tell her how you feel. don't be overwhelming about it, just be convincing and be yourself. it pretty words and all are who you are, then say them, but don't tell her lines of your heart in a voice that isn't your own. if you are friends with her, she knows a bit about you and you should know that.
and let her know that how you feel is not based upon only physical attraction. my guess is, she is a wonderful friend and that is something rare, and terrible to give up. so don't go in there with an "all or nothing" attitude. because what you say may change the face of your friendship whichever way it goes.
let her know that you had to tell her, and that her response is not asked for, only that she knows how you feel and that you care. be honest about what you feel and don't expect the heavens to open up or the floor to fall out.
and good luck.

 

[JoeSimons]

agree

I agree w/ Emptyness, there is no reason to go head first "all or nothing" with it. Just put it out there for the taking, let her know you don't want a yes or no, you just want her to know. Chances are, she already knows it! Women are good like that, and if she is a true good friend, well, she will tell you how she feels.

 

[Blavek]

very good points here... Most important is relax. I don't know quite how to word this so that it doesn't sound harsh but she isn't the only fish in the sea also she is not likely to be the last girl you date... and the younger you are the more likely that is true. Also if you go in guns a blaze so to speak it tends to scare girls... yet later in relationships if you don't stress how you care for them get hurt and probably angry. Its a terribly fine line that you walk as a guy but the trick is don't sweat it and you shouldn't fall off into either side. To through out one more analogy its like walking up stairs with a glass of water thats a little too full. if you give it all of your attention you will spill and lose more of the liqued but if you kind of just wing it you'll walk more smoothly and keep most of the water in the glass.

catch my drift?

EDIT: I decided to read the rest of letter and I am compelled to offer one last peice of advice before I go to bed. Don't put yourself down to her. i.e. don't tell her your ugly. Also note that girls tend to be attracted to much higher things than looks. at least the nice ones anyway. But if you have a poor self image or self esteem or even think maybe that looks humbling it isn't. Most women want a man who is self confident. You said you want to be her knight in shining armor well your not going to get there by putting yourself down. Also as an added comment you can't be that bad looking. It just doesn't happen very few people are truely ugly.

but I think in the end your best bet is to take her to lunch or dinner and tell her you have somethign you wanna talk about then lay how you feel out on the table with subtle words like "I like you" or something like that short sweet and simple. also it will allow her to take the conversation where she wants to see it. because she will have to ask what do you mean... and then you explain again in simple light wheigt terms. If she is truely your friend she will let you down easy you'll know you have been rejected but it won't hurt as much. but the other guys are right its a safe bet that she knows AND she may even be waiting for you to say something. but very important do it all lightly.